Jessica Lahey - On Giving our Kids "The Gift of Failure"
Welcome back to another episode of the “Figure It the Father Out” Podcast! Today, we have the pleasure of having a New York Times Best Selling Author, Jessica Lahey, on the pod with us.
Jess speaks to parents, educators, school administrators, coaches, pastors, and community leaders about the science of learning, motivation, engagement, and substance abuse prevention, all in service to the belief that adults have the power to help kids become more autonomous, competent, connected, and fulfilled. Her first book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed was a New York Times bestseller and has empowered so many to strengthen home-school partnerships, support kids as they learn from their mistakes, and forge stronger, more trusting relationships with children. Her second book, The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence is the culmination of Lahey’s experience as an alcoholic with a decade of recovery, the parent of two kids, and twenty years in the classroom teaching English, Latin, and writing in every grade from six to twelve and five of those years were spent teaching in an inpatient drug and alcohol rehab for adolescents. She recently won the Research Society on Alcohol’s Media Award, “designed to recognize outstanding journalistic efforts of writers who cover empirical research on alcohol.”
Tune in for an insightful and inspiring discussion on how we can better support our children's journey of growth, both academically and personally.
More From Jess: https://www.jessicalahey.com/ [https://www.jessicalahey.com/]
IG: https://www.instagram.com/teacherlahey/?hl=en [https://www.instagram.com/teacherlahey/?hl=en]
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-lahey-b815a366/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-lahey-b815a366/]
📚 The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed [https://a.co/d/09ybHAR3]
📚 The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence [https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/006288378X/?tag=jessicalcom-20]
Timstamps:
00:00 Jessica on parenting approaches.
05:56 Students seek grades, not genuine learning experiences.
07:02 How overprotective parenting hinders children's learning and resilience.
11:37 Encouraging kids to make their own college choice.
17:34 Kids mastering practical skills with teamwork.
20:30 Empowering children through independence and responsibility.
26:07 Learning mindset leads to growth and success.
27:43 Highly directive parenting affects children's self-efficacy.
30:53 Loving kids beyond performance
34:24 Standards-based assessment in education
40:54 Modeling love for learning
42:44 Setting family goals
45:15 Support kids in learning, don't seek perfection.
59:10 Jess empowers embracing failure in parenting.
