If I Speak

92: Should we say something about women’s shrinking bodies?

NEW LIVE SHOW! Join us at Crossed Wires festival in Sheffield on 4th July 2026. Presale tickets available at 11AM on 10th December – go to crossedwires.live and use the code CW26EARLY. After watching the Wicked sequel, Moya wonders if politeness is stopping us from seriously addressing women’s shrinking bodies and changing faces. Are we allowing extreme thinness to be normalised? Plus: can you mould your partner into someone better? CN: From 15:30, eating disorders. From 50:00, rape. Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com Music by Matt Huxley.

91: If there’s no ‘ethical consumption’, can just I buy what I want?

Last chance! We’re at EartH in East London on 16 December with guest Jordan Stephens – a handful of tickets are still available from Dice [https://dice.fm/event/92x5ro--if-i-speak-livefestive-special-16th-dec-earth-london-tickets]. Ash and Moya tackle a mystery question about ethical consumption with a conversation about the urge to beautify and shopping as a numbing mechanism. Plus: advice for a special one wondering why men won’t watch ethical porn. CN: The dilemma contains discussion of sexual violence at 35:00. Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com Music by Matt Huxley.

90: Are rightwing politics affecting my sex life? w/ Dr Annabel Sowemimo

We’re in Manchester tonight (25 November) with Lanre Bakare, author of We Were There – final tickets available from Contact Theatre [https://contactmcr.com/events/if-i-speak-live]! Then EartH in East London on 16 December with Jordan Stephens – get tickets from Dice [https://dice.fm/event/92x5ro--if-i-speak-livefestive-special-16th-dec-earth-london-tickets]. This week Moya and Ash talk to Dr Annabel Sowemimo about STI stigma, period-tracking apps, being disconnected from our bodies, and how to afford a second child. Plus: which hospital department has the sexiest staff? Annabel’s book, Divided: Racism, Medicine and Why We Need to Decolonise Healthcare [https://uk.bookshop.org/p/books/divided-racism-medicine-and-why-we-need-to-decolonise-healthcare-annabel-sowemimo/6331076], is out now. Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com Music by Matt Huxley.

89: Am I doomed to get more conservative as I get older?

LAST CALL for our Manchester event on 25 November with Lanre Bakare, author of We Were There – get tickets from Contact Theatre [https://contactmcr.com/events/if-i-speak-live]! Then we’ll be at EartH in East London on 16 December with Jordan Stephens – tickets are selling fast on Dice [https://dice.fm/event/92x5ro--if-i-speak-livefestive-special-16th-dec-earth-london-tickets]. This week a mystery question leads Ash and Moya into conversation about whether their politics are changing as they age – including their takes on Your Party, Zack’s Greens and why the UK left hasn’t produced a Zohran. Plus: how to escape a situationship. Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com Music by Matt Huxley.

88: What are the ethics of oversharing?

Come and see us live! We’re in Manchester on 25 November with Lanre Bakare, author of We Were There – get tickets from Contact Theatre [https://contactmcr.com/events/if-i-speak-live]. Then we’ll be at EartH in East London on 16 December with Jordan Stephens – actor, author and one half of Rizzle Kicks! Tickets are available from Dice [https://dice.fm/event/92x5ro--if-i-speak-livefestive-special-16th-dec-earth-london-tickets]. This week, after listening to the new album by Lily Allen – the patron saint of oversharing – Moya and Ash debate the pros and cons of spilling your guts in public. Do we owe a level of privacy to those that have wronged us? Plus: when was the best time to be a Roman? Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com Music by Matt Huxley.