All Things Marriage with Dr. Chavonne

There are three essential skills that often get left out of our upbringing—and they are crucial to creating a thriving, connected relationship. Skills like: * Introspective questioning—so you can understand why you think, feel, and operate the way you do, and start asking: What if I’m wrong about this? * Perspective taking—so you can stop assuming the worst and start seeing the logic in your partner’s experience. * And truly listening to understand—so that curiosity, not defensiveness, becomes your default. * In today’s episode, we’re diving into these foundational shifts—what they are, why they matter, and how they can completely change the way you show up in your marriage. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep having the same arguments, or why your good intentions still lead to misunderstandings, this episode is going to give you a fresh lens and powerful new tools. And if you are looking for help creating positive change in your marriage and would like professional help, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/ [https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/]

So many of the ways we show up in our relationships—how we communicate, how we love, how we cope—aren’t actually conscious choices. They’re inherited. Programmed. Conditioned from what we saw, experienced, or learned growing up. In this episode, we’re talking about three ways of being you may have learned that are quietly wrecking the quality of your relationships—and your own personal peace. You’ll hear how these patterns show up: -When you’re constantly blaming others but feeling stuck -When love becomes a reward instead of a reflection of who you want to be -When avoiding your emotions becomes your way of coping—but keeps you disconnected from your own life This is about unlearning the old survival strategies and stepping into a more grounded, emotionally resilient, and soul-aligned version of yourself. It’s not easy work, but it’s the kind of work that changes everything.  If you’ve been feeling unfulfilled, irritated, or just tired of the way things feel in your marriage or within yourself—this conversation is for you.

In this episode, we’re unpacking exactly what happens when the anxious partner brings up an issue…and the avoidant partner immediately feels overwhelmed, blamed, or like they’re walking into another argument they didn’t ask for. You’ll learn: * What each partner is really thinking underneath the surface * Why emotional safety is the missing ingredient that keeps you both stuck in this cycle * And what to do instead—whether you’re the one bringing up the issue, or the one on the receiving end of it We’ll also talk about what it means to be a wounded partner vs. a wounding partner—and how this shift in mindset can change the tone of your conversations and help you actually hear and be heard. If your marriage feels like one long loop of misunderstanding and miscommunication, and you’re both tired of repeating the same fight with different words… This episode will give you a new perspective—and the tools to finally begin creating connection, instead of more conflict. And for more help on creating more productive conversations and using your communication to bring you CLOSER as a couple, I invite you to consider one of my coaching programs. You can learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/ [https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/]

In today’s episode, we’re diving into one of the most emotionally complex and frustrating dynamics between partners—what happens when one of you is anxiously tuned in to every emotion, every disconnect, every nuance…essentially hyper-self aware... And the other is not able to see what's happening, unaware of the emotions often driving them, and has a harder time communicating what's going on for them...essentially lacking self awareness... We’re breaking down why this mismatch in self-awareness and emotional processing leads to blame, shame, shutdowns, and emotional spirals—and how to begin shifting that pattern. You’ll hear: * Why anxious partners can feel like they’re always solving the relationship alone * Why avoidant partners often feel like they’re being treated as a project instead of a person * And how this blame/shame cycle keeps both of you stuck, exhausted, and silently wondering if things will ever feel better * But more importantly—we’ll talk about what to do next. What actually helps. And how to start creating a new rhythm between you that leaves you both feeling seen, respected, and more connected. If you’ve been feeling like you’re the only one clued in to what's happening…or if you’ve felt like your partner is always psychoanalyzing you—this episode is for you. And if you are looking for help and would like to explore the ways my coaching program can help you, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/ [https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/]

In today’s episode, we’re unpacking one of the most frustrating—and misunderstood—dynamics in a relationship: the anxious partner who longs for emotional validation, and the avoidant partner who’s just trying not to drown in overwhelm. If you’ve ever found yourself needing your partner to get what you’re feeling and help you through it… Or if you’ve ever felt like your partner’s emotions are a test you’re destined to fail… You’re in the right place. We’re getting to the root of what’s really going on underneath these reactions: * Why anxious partners often feel like they can’t handle big emotions alone * Why avoidant partners often feel like emotions = failure * And how both sides are doing their best to feel safe—but in ways that unintentionally trigger each other This episode will give you insight into your nervous system responses, the deeper emotional fears you might not even realize are running the show, and—most importantly—what to do about it. Because once you understand the real reason this feels so hard, you’ll finally have a clear direction forward. One that doesn’t involve blaming, fixing, or giving up.r And if you are looking for more help navigating these triggering cycles as a couple, I invite you to reach out to book a 20 Minute Marriage Solution Call, to experience firsthand the power of coaching to help you. Or if you are already interested in working with me through one of my coaching programs, you can book a complimentary consultation. Both links can be found on my website: DrChavonne.com [DrChavonne.com]