Outside Over 40

Are We Good Enough to Have What We Want?

In this episode, Tameka Edwards (owner of She's Royal Gems and a spiritual healer) and the host explore the importance of trusting oneself, setting boundaries, and embracing authentic connection beyond societal expectations. They discuss how internal work, spiritual awareness, and redefining relationship archetypes can create space for fulfilling partnerships and self-love. Key Topics: * The significance of early conversations about expectations, boundaries, and deal breakers in dating * Why eliminating vague concepts like "energy" can protect your boundaries * Recognizing automatic deal breakers through observing actions versus words * The difference between relationships, partnerships, and marriage in a modern context * How societal systems and programming influence feelings of unworthiness * Moving beyond traditional roles to create flexible, autonomous relationship models like solo polyamory * The impact of social media, cultural narratives, and community on dating and self-worth * Healing inner child wounds to foster confidence and self-love * The importance of friendship and authenticity as foundations for lasting connection * Navigating independence versus partnership—knowing your worth without sacrificing boundaries * The value of continuous self-awareness, radical acceptance, and the power of the solar plexus energy * Redefining love archetypes: Lover Girl, Dark Feminine, Ocean, and others, and understanding where you fit * Practical tips for protecting energy, setting boundaries, and being strategic in dating * Embracing solo polyamory to honor your needs and prioritize self-love * She's Royal Gems [https://sheesroyalgem.com/] – Shop for crystals, sage, and spiritual tools * Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/shesroyalgem/] * Power and Pleasure Retreat [www.deepbreathhealingllc.com] Timestamps:00:00 - Opening affirmations: cleansing space and setting intentions for full moon energy00:37 - The importance of clarity in expectations early on in dating02:00 - The danger of vague language like "energy" and how it can undermine boundaries03:16 - Using actions as the true indicator of a person’s intentions04:00 - The role of authenticity and self-awareness in relationship choices07:43 - Recognizing self-worth and believing you are deserving of what you want09:14 - How societal systems and programming influence feelings of inadequacy11:03 - The concept of solo polyamory and its relevance for autonomous, peaceful self-partnership13:52 - Healing past trauma and inner child wounds for healthier relationships18:15 - Embracing solitude and the peace that comes with radical self-acceptance19:36 - Reframing the question: Are we good enough to have what we want in love and life?21:02 - The importance of community, extended family, and collective support22:53 - How societal narratives, like Kevin Samuels’ messaging, impact self-perception26:11 - The need to deprogram from limiting beliefs about worthiness30:33 - Creating new models for relationships that honor individual sovereignty38:13 - Exploring different archetypes: Lover Girl, Dark Feminine, Ocean, and others40:44 - The impact of social media and cultural filtering on modern dating44:59 - The importance of aligning expectations with current realities and personal values48:15 - Moving toward intentional, spiritually-aligned partnerships instead of traditional marriage52:20 - The conversation about communal living, independent households, and redefining partnership55:15 - The significance of flexibility, exploration, and trusting your intuition in dating58:38 - The importance of being in a healthy state of mind and self-awareness before engaging in relationships60:23 - How societal and systemic influences perpetuate feelings of inadequacy62:14 - Personal sovereignty, trusting actions over words, and walking away from unaligned situations63:29 - Final encouragement: Own your worth, set boundaries, and design the love life that aligns with your authentic self

Can We Use Pain to Get to Pleasure?

Exploring Pleasure, Pain, and Authenticity: A Conversation with Yvonne Smith Discover how pain can be a gateway to pleasure, the importance of cultural and ancestral healing, and the power of embracing your true self. Join us as Yvonne Smith, the Pleasure Priestess, shares insights on dearmoring, orgasm, and redefining beauty standards for women of color. Key Topics * How to use grief and pain as a foundation for experiencing pleasure * The role of ancestral and social conditioning in limiting self-love and authenticity * The significance of feeling into pain to access fuller pleasure and orgasmic energy * Differences between happiness and deep-seated pleasure * The importance of creating a personal pleasure template * Societal standards, media influence, and the reclaiming of Black women’s beauty and power * Practical tools for body dearmoring and trauma release * Exploring different types of orgasm beyond penetration * The impact of societal validation on Black women’s self-worth and identity Resources and Connecting with Yvonne * Yvonne Smith - | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/yvonnesmith] * Retreat: The Power & Pleasure for Women of Color [www.deepbreathhealingllc.com]

Can Black Women Overcome Survival Mode?

Unlock the secret to transforming survival mode into thriving freedom — all through the art of the pivot. In this eye-opening episode, hosts Kat Searcy and Liz Jones explore how Black women can break free from stagnation by embracing change, vulnerability, and self-leadership. You’ll discover how emotional safety keeps us trapped and why taking calculated risks can unlock limitless potential. Ever wondered why sameness feels safer than growth? Kat and Liz share candid stories about shifting relationship dynamics, the power of saying yes to the unknown, and the misunderstood role of community in healing. We break down specific tactics like navigating relationship risks, mastering boundary-setting without fear, and cultivating resilience in the face of societal pressures. From the subtle art of listening to your heart’s whisper to redefining success beyond societal boxes, this episode offers practical wisdom for anyone craving authentic transformation. This conversation reveals how the traditional narratives around identity, love, and spirituality often confine us. If you’re tired of feeling stuck in the cycle of needing external validation or perfection, this episode is your invitation to lean into the discomfort, discover your inner courage, and explore the abundance that comes with genuine self-trust. It’s perfect for Black women ready to shed survival habits, embrace vulnerability, and step into a fuller, freer version of themselves. Liz Jones is a spiritual entrepreneur known for her dynamic approach to healing, self-discovery, and empowering women to create their own truth. Her work has helped countless Black women reclaim their power and rewrite their stories. You can find her on IG @bylizjones. Get ready to challenge what you thought was possible — because true transformation begins with one courageous pivot. Hit play and start the journey today.

Can We Blame the Church for Our Unhealthy Relationships?

Unlock the hidden links between church teachings, pleasure, and your most authentic self in this riveting conversation with Alicia Christine Beach. Discover how centuries of spiritual suppression have shaped our relationship with our bodies and sex — and learn how to reclaim your power and pleasure. If you've ever felt conflicted about faith, sexuality, or your sovereignty, this episode offers radical insight and practical tools to rewrite those narratives. Alicia, a fifth-generation preacher turned somatic healer, shares her journey from conservative church roots to embracing African spirituality, embodiment, and radical self-trust. She reveals how religious conditioning has often left women feeling disempowered, ashamed of their desires, and disconnected from their bodies. But within that struggle lies the opportunity: to deconstruct, heal, and redefine pleasures as divine birthrights. You'll discover: * How the church's patriarchal view on sex and femininity keeps women silenced, shameful, and performing in their relationships. * The impact of spiritual repression on physical health, including the roots of chronic illness rooted in energetic blockages. * Practical steps for awakening your sovereignty through pleasure, ranging from body audits to honoring your unique spiritual path. * Why questioning, curiosity, and curiosity about your body’s signals are revolutionary acts toward liberation. * The importance of decolonizing religious narratives to make space for divine feminine energy and authentic pleasure. This episode is a call to anyone ready to shed shame, embrace their full selves, and live with boldness and joy. If you're tired of survival mode reigning in your relationships, healing, and sexuality, this conversation invites you to step into a new paradigm—one rooted in self-trust, embodiment, and divine pleasure. Get inspired to unlearn centuries of messaging that have kept you small and disconnected, and learn how to cultivate your own joy, sensuality, and power. Perfect for spiritual seekers, women on a journey of reinvention, and anyone craving a deeper, embodied connection to life and love. Tune in and start rewriting your story today. Guest credentials: Alicia Christine Beach is a wellness advocate, somatic healer, and spiritual teacher dedicated to supporting women in reclaiming their bodies, pleasure, and sovereignty. Her work bridges African spiritual traditions, holistic healing, and modern embodiment practices. You can find her @itsaliciachristine on Instagram

Reinventing Spirituality & Sex

I blame the church for teaching us survival, not embodiment. We’ve been conditioned to obey, sacrifice, and suppress instead of fully inhabiting our bodies and desires. But what if pleasure isn’t the enemy — but your divine birthright? What if the key to thriving is to listen to your body and trust your own intuition? You’ve been taught to mute your sensuality, to cover your knees, and to shame any desire that feels outside their rules. And that deeply impacts how you love, lead, and experience intimacy. Imagine shifting from survival to sovereignty — owning your pleasure as a sacred part of your healing and reinvention. It starts with asking yourself: What would my life look like if I believed pleasure was mine by divine right? The answer could change everything. Remember, your pleasure is part of your wholeness. Don’t wait for permission — give yourself the grace to explore. What’s one small step you’ll take today to connect with your body’s truth?