Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys

Ep #64 Dating After 40: 5 Habits That Are Quietly Drowning Out Your Intuition

Your intuition hasn't abandoned you. It hasn't gone quiet. Something specific is drowning it out, and until you name it, you'll keep second-guessing yourself right out of your own best decisions. This episode is for any woman over 40 who's wondering why she can't trust herself in dating anymore. You used to know things. You used to have good instincts. And somehow, somewhere along the way, all that got muddier. There are five specific habits that block your intuition in dating after 40, and the wildest part? Most of them look like virtues. They look like being careful, being kind, being smart. That's what makes them so sneaky. What's Inside This Episode: * Why the thing you think is helping you figure him out is actually the biggest reason you can't hear yourself * The "nice" habit that looks like generosity but is quietly working against you * What's really happening when your gut says one thing and your brain immediately shuts it down * The sneaky belief that makes your intuition go silent, and how to know if it's running the show right now 🎧 Listen now and figure out which of the five has the most grip on you right now. You can't make Mr. Unavailable love you, but you can choose someone who does. Love is closer than you think. Find me here: https://www.trulyeleanor.com [https://www.trulyeleanor.com]

Ep #63 From Self-Abandonment to Self-Trust: How to Break the Unavailable Love Pattern After 40

You already know you keep choosing unavailable men. What you might not know yet is why. My guest this week, Pi Venus Winslow, spent years chasing connections that left her with a broken heart and no real answers. What she eventually figured out stopped her cold: the problem wasn't the men. It was a pattern of self-abandonment so deeply wired in that it felt completely normal. Familiar, even. If you're dating after 40 and you're exhausted from carrying the emotional weight of relationships that never quite work, this conversation is going to land somewhere important. About Pi Venus Winslow: Pi Venus Winslow is a published author, speaker, and transformational coach who helps adults heal from a narcissistic upbringing and codependency. After a lifetime of navigating the effects of a malignant narcissistic parent, Pi transformed her own patterns of self-doubt and self-abandonment. She now guides others to break free from those same cycles, rebuild self-trust, and create healthier, more aligned relationships. What's Inside This Episode: * Why what feels like chemistry might actually be your nervous system recognizing a familiar pattern of emotional chaos * The self-abandonment loop Pi identified that kept her stuck, and the moment she saw herself inside it * A three-phase process for moving from understanding your patterns to actually showing up differently in love * What it feels like when healthy love enters your life after years of emotional unavailability, and why it might not feel the way you expect 🎧 If you've ever thought "I know better, so why do I keep doing this?” this one's for you. Listen now. Pi Venus Winslow’s Free gift to listeners: Identify your pattern underneath your attraction, especially if you keep finding yourself drawn to emotionally unavailable or inconsistent partners with Pi Venus Winslow's free quiz: "Uncover Your Hidden Barriers." https://fullvenusrising.com/ [https://fullvenusrising.com/] You can't make Mr. Unavailable love you, but you can choose someone who does. Love is closer than you think.

Ep #62: Is That Your Gut or Your Fear? A Body-Based Guide for Women Dating After 40

You've Googled it. You've journaled about it. You've asked your therapist. And you still can't tell if what you're feeling is your intuition or just that old anxiety doing its thing again. In Episode 62 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, I'm giving you a clear, body-based way to tell them apart, in real time, before you send the text, before you book the second date, before you talk yourself into something your body already answered. You'll also walk away with a prompt you can use on the spot, on a date, after a date, or right before you hit send. What's Inside This Episode: * How to know what to look for that makes fear vs intuition so easy to recognize * The one question that cuts through the noise when you genuinely cannot tell which voice is speaking * A real life client example of going from a fear spiral to an empowered choice in her love life * Practical ways to discern signals in real dating situations 🎧 Listen now and start learning to trust the voice that actually knows what's good for you. Find me here: https://trulyeleanor.com [https://trulyeleanor.com ] You can't make Mr. Unavailable love you, but you can choose someone who does. Love is closer than you think.

Ep #61 Why Intuitive Women Still Attract Emotionally Unavailable Men After 40

You can know something 150% and still talk yourself out of it. This override is the central reason you keep ending up in the same place, with the same guy, in a different sweater. In this Season 6 premiere of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, I'm talking about what's really going on when you're dating after 40, doing all the work, and still finding yourself here again. I share the story of being a trained Reiki practitioner and professional intuitive who was still overriding her own gut signals in dating. Alarm bells going off. Clear, calm inner wisdom saying no. And still choosing the intensity, the spark, and the story I told myself about why it must be destiny. Sound familiar? What's Inside This Episode: * Why you can know all your patterns and still end up choosing the same guy * The surprising way being highly intuitive can work against you in dating * Why you stopped trusting yourself in love, and what it looks like to get that back * Why your intuition was never the problem, and what you were doing with it instead This is Season 6: the intuition season. It's about coming home to yourself so completely that unavailable love loses its pull. 🎧 Listen now and find out what's really been getting in your way.  Find me here: https://trulyeleanor.com [https://trulyeleanor.com ] You can't make Mr. Unavailable love you, but you can choose someone who does. Love is closer than you think.

Ep #60 The Identity Shift That Changes Everything About How You Date

You've been doing the work. The journaling, the reflecting, the quiet moments where something clicked that you can't quite explain yet. This episode is your chance to feel how far you've actually come. In Episode 60 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we're closing out Season Five with a full-circle look at the identity shift that's been building all season. The shift from the woman who chased emotionally unavailable men and questioned her worth, to the woman who trusts herself, chooses wisely, and lets love meet her there. This is the episode that brings it all together. What's Inside This Episode: * The quiet but profound thing that happens on a date when you've genuinely changed * Why dating can finally start to feel intentional, peaceful, and even fun * What it really means to trust yourself in real time, not just in theory * The identity that makes emotional availability your new standard * How to carry everything you've learned into your daily life going forward 🎧 Listen now and give yourself credit for the woman you're becoming. Find me here: https://trulyeleanor.com [https://trulyeleanor.com ] You can't make Mr. Unavailable love you, but you can choose someone who does. Love is closer than you think.