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MATTHEW 18:15-35 (ESV)
If Your Brother Sins Against You
“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector. Truly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.”
The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant
Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times.
“Therefore the kingdom of heaven may be compared to a king who wished to settle accounts with his servants. When he began to settle, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents. And since he could not pay, his master ordered him to be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and payment to be made. So the servant fell on his knees, imploring him, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you everything.’ And out of pity for him, the master of that servant released him and forgave him the debt. But when that same servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii, and seizing him, he began to choke him, saying, ‘Pay what you owe.’ So his fellow servant fell down and pleaded with him, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you.’ He refused and went and put him in prison until he should pay the debt. When his fellow servants saw what had taken place, they were greatly distressed, and they went and reported to their master all that had taken place. Then his master summoned him and said to him, ‘You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you pleaded with me. And should not you have had mercy on your fellow servant, as I had mercy on you?’ And in anger his master delivered him to the jailers, until he should pay all his debt. So also my heavenly Father will do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother from your heart.”
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Study Guide Questions:
Observation Questions
Observation Questions focus on gathering facts and identifying key details. This can include repeated words, themes, and characters). Observation asks "what does the text say?" not "what does the text mean?" It is not intended to go into interpretation or life application yet. Observations provide a crucial foundation for accurate interpretation and application, preventing misconceptions.
* What are some observations from this passage?
* According to Matthew 18:15-17, what are the escalating steps Jesus instructs for addressing sin between believers?
* In the parable of the unforgiving servant (Matthew 18:23-35), why does the king forgive the servant’s massive debt, and how does the servant respond to a smaller debt owed to him?
* What warning does Jesus give at the end of the parable about forgiveness (Matthew 18:35)?
* How does Jesus describe the purpose of confronting someone privately in Matthew 18:15?
Interpretation Questions
Interpretation Questions focus on interpreting what has been observed. The goal is to try to understand the original author's intended meaning and purpose for the intended audience. Interpretation bridges observations with life applications. It will consider key terms, explores context, and answers "why" to uncover the main point.
* Why do you think Jesus emphasizes starting reconciliation privately (Matthew 18:15) rather than publicly? What might happen if this step is skipped?
* Jesus says to treat an unrepentant person “as a Gentile and a tax collector” (Matthew 18:17). How does this instruction balance accountability with compassion, given how Jesus interacted with Gentiles and tax collectors in other parts of Scripture?
* What does the contrast between the two debts reveal about the relationship between receiving God’s forgiveness and extending forgiveness to others?
* How does the promise of Jesus’ presence “where two or three are gathered” (Matthew 18:20) relate to the church’s role in addressing sin?
Life Application Questions
Life Application questions are intended to transform knowledge gleaned from observations and interpretations to practical application in your life. These questions are intended to move the facilitator and the participant from understanding what the text meant to how it applies to daily life. Life application questions are intended to transform listeners into doers, bridging biblical truth with current circumstances to foster personal transformation and spiritual maturity.
* Is there a relationship in your life where you’ve avoided addressing a hurt or sin privately? What practical step could you take this week to initiate a humble, restorative conversation?
* When have you struggled to forgive someone repeatedly? How might meditating on the “unpayable debt” God forgave you (Matthew 18:24-27) soften your heart toward that person?
* Have you ever treated someone as “unreachable” after they refused to repent? How can you still reflect God’s love to them while honoring the need for boundaries?
* What tangible reminder (e.g., Scripture, prayer, journaling) could you use to regularly reflect on God’s forgiveness and avoid becoming like the unforgiving servant?