The Coaching Experiment

Naomi - Should I follow my passion or play it safe?

At the beginning of this conversation, we were skirting around the real issue of Naomi’s challenge Halfway through, she had an insight that helped her see what was holding her back or stopping her from doing what she really loves doing. Naomi is a prolific and incredibly talented photographer. I have seen some of her creations and even though I am no expert, I know when something is good. Even though it's subjective to the viewer we all recognise expertise when we see it. Even though Naomi knows and loves her craft, there was a block. As is typical in many cases it's a fear of something or other. Watch as Naomi allows herself to be challenged and to see her blind spot. What is your blind spot? What do you love doing? Are you sharing it with the world? Are you giving yourself permission to share your gifts with others? Sharing your talents, your art and your creativity is a gift to the world. It impacts people in ways that YOU cannot imagine. The Gift is in Your Passion. https://www.facebook.com/diane.xue [https://www.facebook.com/diane.xuereb.9].

Debbie George - Bi Polar Squirrel

I love asking questions and I love coaching. I am nearly always blown away as I hear and watch people have insights during the conversation. Here are some golden nuggets:  "I’m Debbie but I am multifaceted like we all are. I think sometimes society almost makes us pick a facet. If you saw a diamond there’s this facet and this facet and this facet. And society goes pick one, I can’t, I'm all of them." This conversation is for you if you are struggling to reconcile the language that you want to use with what you think people want to hear. This conversation is for you if you still care about what people think about how you come across on social media or in-person for that matter. Are you worried about what people think about you? Or are you innocently and unknowingly judging yourself and hear it being confirmed by the statements positive or negative that people make about you? Debbie had a mind-blowing insight, as I was listening, she said: I want people to hear my heart.  However, a few moments later she said something that is the most important thing we can do for ourselves. In my opinion, it is something anyone and everyone needs to hear. Want to know what it is? I invite you to listen to this conversation which in my opinion is jam-packed with wisdom. If you would love to be a guest, or if you know someone who would be a great guest, please get in touch via email, or send me a personal message. https://www.facebook.com/diane.xuereb [https://www.facebook.com/diane.xuereb.9]

Lucy Palmer - What is your zone of Genius??

I asked Lucy what she hoped to get out of the conversation? ‘I would love to have a simple phrase that trips off my tongue that describes who I am and what I do.’ This conversation might be helpful for those of you who have been struggling to describe what they do in very simple terms. Lucy mentioned a few things that you can ask yourselves whilst listening to this conversation. What drives you or motivates you to want to coach people? What is the part about coaching that brings you joy? How has coaching impacted your life? The following is my own take on our need to describe what we do and the resistance many coaches have to niching and marketing. Why do you resist niching and marketing? Do you want to serve everybody? Is it possible that in creating a niche you might ultimately serve many more people? In my experience it's not so much about what you do but more about how we can actually help people have peace of mind or a better quality of life. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH WANTING TO CREATE CLIENTS. 1. Not everyone you talk to has to become your client. 2. Clients are created simply because we take a genuine interest in other human beings. 3. If you seek to connect with anyone without having a genuine interest and only to create clients then you are going to fall flat on your face. 4. Seek to create conversations, not as a means to an end but simply to have a meaningful conversation with another human being. Or without being attached to a predetermined outcome. Disclaimer: the following is absolute rubbish: ‘a client or someone would be willing to create a relationship with me and to connect with me for one reason only, I have a solution to their pain etc. And that is why ultimately people will connect with us. I have no idea what I was thinking when I said that but whatever the reason was, it's definitely not the point I was trying to make. People connect with others for varying reasons. It is certainly not because they are looking for a solution to their problems. People who are looking for a coach are looking for solutions but that is not the only reason they or anyone would be seeking to connect. I invite you to listen and to share it with anyone you think might benefit from listening. If you would love to be a guest, or if you know someone who would be a great guest, please get in touch via email, or send me a personal message. https://www.facebook.com/diane.xuere [https://www.facebook.com/diane.xuereb.9]

Denise Pink - What if it's not true?

This conversation was recorded nearly six months ago and whilst I was editing it,  I realised that I was listening differently. I heard something that I had already heard before but this time it was more profound. Denise shed light on the heart of the reason why I started this podcast. It is to inspire you to allow yourself to step into our light and in doing shine it on others.  The Light includes your darkness because in my mind without it we are incomplete. She poses some very interesting questions and is also very honest about the challenges she has with giving herself permission to do whatever she wants. Here are some of the things that occurred to me whilst I was listening: Is it dangerous just being you? What is the worst thing that could happen if you were to let go and show up? Would you enjoy your life more? Are you second-guessing yourself? If that rings true for you, have you stopped to ask yourself why? Have you made yourself smaller in terms of the life that you are living? On another note do you do torment yourself with the following questions: Who am I to do that? Do I know enough? Who cares what I think? Do you have a crazy idea or an idea that you have labelled as crazy which has love at its core?? What’s stopping you? Is it the narrative a story you tell yourself repeatedly, day in day out? Is it a so-called belief? Belief is a thought its not the truth.  Its something you might have picked up from somewhere and you are living up to the idea on a subconscious level. Something you were told as a child or something you heard from anywhere. I thoroughly enjoyed having this conversation and even though its a tad long it is filled with golden nuggets. I invite you to listen and to share it with anyone you think might benefit from listening. If you would love to be a guest, or if you know someone who would be a great guest, please get in touch via email, or send me a personal message. https://www.facebook.com/diane.xuereb.9 [https://www.facebook.com/diane.xuereb.9]

Carin Van Buuren - Reinventing Myself

I made the mistake of thinking that I could emulate one of my all-time favourite coaches. I thought that by using his method I would help my guest have an insight. What happened was that instead of putting all my attention on my guest, I was caught up in my head. I was trying to remember what and how he interviewed his own guests instead of remaining loyal to my own way of asking questions and coaching anyone. The result wasn't a bad one but I am sure it could have been that much more powerful if my attention was focused on her rather than on how I was going to do a great job. This was a huge lesson for two reasons, one I cannot make my guest have an insight. Its not up to me, I can only point to what I see.  Whether a person has an insight or not is not up to the coach. That thought alone does all the heavy lifting. Secondly, to learn to trust and be comfortable with the way I do things, there is no right or wrong way. There is only your way, remain loyal to that and learn along the way.  If needs be course correct but do it your way. I invite you to listen to Carin's story and the many challenges she encountered throughout her life. She is living proof that resilience is innate and we find that out when we hit rock bottom. Are you looking for a coach?  Watch this episode to see if you resonate with me as a person. If you do, reach out and let's have a conversation. HTTPS://WWW.FACEBOOK.COM/DIANE.XUEREB.9 [https://www.facebook.com/diane.xuereb.9]