The REALationship Method

Bathroom Breaks, Hormone Shifts, and COVID Divorces with Lola

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2056830/fan_mail/new] The scariest relationship problems aren’t always the loud ones. Sometimes it’s the quiet drift: two people doing everything for the family, handling life like a checklist, then waking up one day feeling like strangers. Chris sits down with wellness practitioner and fitness coach Lola, founder of Lola’s Vibrant Living, to get honest about why that happens and what actually helps couples reconnect.  We dig into a topic many men misunderstand: what can change for women after 35. Lola explains how hormone shifts can affect mood, desire, patience, and even the “lens” someone sees life through, especially after kids and years of putting everyone else first. We also talk about why a well-meaning staycation, a night off, or “go take self-care” can land wrong when receiving help feels awkward, loaded, or unsafe. If you’ve ever tried to support your partner and got pushback, this conversation gives you a new framework.  From there, we get practical. Lola breaks down how routine and structure rebuild self-worth through small wins, why expectations quietly create tension, and how resentment often comes from meaning and interpretation, not just words. We also touch on survival mode marriages, COVID pressure, and the truth behind the line: a lot of women don’t want a divorce, they want relief.  If you want better marriage communication, healthier habits, and a stronger emotional connection, hit play. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs relief, and leave a review with the one shift you’re going to try this week. • hormonal shifts after 35 shaping perception, energy, and emotional bandwidth • why offers of “go relax” can feel unsafe or loaded • the challenge many women have with receiving help and voicing what they want • getting out of robotic survival mode through routine, structure, and small wins • releasing expectations and focusing on what you can control • Lola’s health story, miscarriage, and the question “Is what I’m doing working for me?” • how couples reconnect through acknowledgment, forgiveness, and simplifying life • why timing, tone, and interpretation matter more than the words • the idea that many women want relief more than divorce • finding nostalgia and meaning in the messy parenting years

Creepy Bosses, Red Flag Ignorance, and Long Distance Trust with Kacee

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2056830/fan_mail/new] A “good opportunity” can turn into a bad situation fast, especially when money, access, and attention get mixed together. Kacee comes back to talk with us about what changed since the last time we recorded: she’s getting better modeling and influencer marketing gigs, she’s being paid in cash instead of just merch, and she’s learning the hard line between a brand that respects you and a person who tries to control you. We get into the uncomfortable stuff, too. Kacee  opens up about a brand owner who gave her and other women weird vibes, the moment it stopped feeling safe, and what finally made her say “I’m done.” From there, we talk boundaries that actually protect you: how she handles DMs, why she keeps distance with strangers, and how trusting your gut can save you time, money, and stress. If you work in modeling, content creation, or any public facing job, this is a real conversation about professional safety and self respect. Then we shift to relationships and dating standards. Kacee  breaks down the biggest red flags she ignored with an ex, what feels different with her current boyfriend, and what emotional intelligence looks like in real life. We talk long distance trust (he’s away on a ship), healthy arguments, why “casual” often gets messy, and why cheating culture is wrecking modern dating. If you’ve ever wondered whether your standards are too high, or you’re trying to learn how to communicate without blowing things up, you’ll get plenty to think about. If this hit home, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a review. What boundary are you setting today? • her boyfriend’s merchant marine schedule and how they handle distance • leveling up in modeling with better paid brand deals and consistent work • the warning signs of a creepy brand owner and why she walked away • being managed by her mom and shifting to marketing for career growth • red flags she ignored before and the traits that feel safe now • boundaries with DMs, strangers in public, and online attention • what makes a partner “boyfriend material” beyond looks • why casual situations often turn messy and the case for transparency • what a healthy argument looks like and why people quit too fast • independence, missed calls, and trust when both people are building goals • standards that are realistic versus standards that are just fantasy • cheating culture and why honest communication beats sneaking around

Modeling Scams, Hangin' Out with Baddies, and Picking up Poop with Amari

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2056830/fan_mail/new] Your dog can embarrass you in a coffee shop, your DMs can expose your boundaries, and your social media can either build your career or drain your peace. We link all of that together with Amari, a Hawaii model and actress who’s also the founder of Baddies of Hawaii, a community built for artists, models, and creators who want support without the drama. We talk about what “baddie” actually means when you strip away the noise: confidence, goals, and showing up for your people. Amari breaks down real-world safety in the modeling industry, how to vet photographers, what to watch for in casting, and why “pay to work” is a red flag. If you’re trying to get booked for runway shows, commercial shoots, or acting gigs in Hawaii, we also share practical tips like how to film a runway walk video and how to treat Instagram like a professional portfolio. Then we get personal about relationships and public attention: how marriage impacts DMs, what respectful messages look like, and how a supportive partner can turn outside attention into something that strengthens the relationship instead of threatening it. We also dig into privacy boundaries, code words, avoiding regret posts, and why genuine check-ins matter more than we admit. Subscribe for more honest relationship conversations, share this with a friend who’s building a public life, and leave a review with your biggest takeaway. • running errands with dogs and handling public mishaps • recurring dreams and why certain themes stick • creating Baddies of Hawaii as a supportive model community • spotting photographer red flags and protecting comfort levels • acting and modeling in Hawaii and how pay differs from visibility • avoiding modeling scams and refusing pay-to-work gigs • filming a runway walk video and what casting teams look for • how marriage changes DMs and what respectful messages look like • keeping friends of the opposite sex without crossing lines • why genuine check-ins matter for mental health • using social media like a portfolio and staying in the algorithm • learning privacy boundaries and avoiding regret posts

Keeping Your Lashes On, Parental Cops, and Chris' Nair Experience with Lynn

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2056830/fan_mail/new] A tsunami alert hits your phone and half the neighborhood panics while the other half fires up a barbecue. That’s how this conversation starts, and it only gets more honest from there. Lynn joins me to talk about what it’s really like chasing modeling in Hawaii while staying grounded through storms, social media noise, and the weird stuff that comes with being visible online.  We get into her path toward cosmetology or aesthetician school and why she wants to pair beauty industry skills like waxing and lashes with a business degree. If you’re building a brand, thinking about entrepreneurship, or trying to create a stable career in the creator economy, her plan is simple and smart: learn a real skill, learn how to run the business, then scale with consistency. We also talk about rejection in modeling and brand collaborations, how she reaches out to companies, what “no” sounds like, and why it shouldn’t shake your confidence when you know there are more opportunities out there.  From there we dig into the social side: relationship boundaries, trust, jealousy, and how she handles DMs and attention without letting it run her life. We also talk body image, confidence, gym culture, and the pressure to look perfect on Instagram, plus practical photography lessons like angles and framing that can instantly improve your content. If you care about self-confidence, modeling advice, influencer marketing, and staying authentic online, you’ll get plenty to take with you.  If you enjoyed the conversation, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s chasing a goal, and leave a review. What’s one boundary you’ve set with social media that actually improved your life? • stormy Hawaii weather, power outages and a tsunami warning story • growing up with police parents and what support looks like at home • cosmetology and aesthetician goals plus planning a beauty business • waxing and body hair preferences, funny fails and real talk • how Lynn gets into modeling through a best friend and brand collabs • dealing with rejection, discipline and the numbers game of opportunities • why angles matter in photos and what makes a shoot actually work • beauty standards, lashes, and the pressure to look perfect • trust, DMs, jealousy and setting boundaries with social media attention • cancel culture, online judgment, bullying and outgrowing high school • confidence versus insecurity, gym culture and approaching people respectfully You can find me on Instagram or TikTok. They're both the same username. Lynn L-Y-N-N Maria, but replace the I with the one.

Love After Loss, Patience in New Relationships & Healing Outloud with King Katty

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2056830/fan_mail/new] You’ve probably met someone who looks “tough” and assumed they don’t feel much. This conversation flips that myth on its head. I sit down with Hawaii fighter and full-time mom King Katty to talk about what strength actually costs, how boundaries keep you safe, and why emotional pain can be harder to heal than any black eye in the gym. We start with her origin story: running the streets, fighting out of anger, and then finding boxing at a small backyard gym where a crew of girls became the first “Lady Animals” training together. From there we get into modern dating and relationship advice that’s blunt but clean: men approaching her cautiously, why social media kills mystery, and the standards she refuses to compromise on like communication, loyalty, and clarity. We also talk about dominance that feels secure versus arrogance that gets checked fast, plus what she values most in a partner through acts of service and words of affirmation. Then the real heart of it: grief, guilt, and love after loss. King Katty shares what it’s like to heal out loud after losing her husband, raising five kids while the house still has to run, and finding patience in a new connection without rushing labels. We close with parenting, structure, and the kind of discipline stories you will not forget, plus where to follow her and details around her upcoming BKFC fight. If you got something from this, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find the show. • her origin story from running the streets to training boxing with the Lady Animals • being recognized in public and why men approach cautiously • protecting privacy in the social media era and keeping mystery alive • what kills attraction fast and why inconsistency does not fly • simple relationship standards like communication loyalty and clarity • dominance versus arrogance and reading a man’s energy • love after loss including guilt and comparing new partners • patience in new relationships without rushing labels • raising five kids with structure and trust • emotional pain versus physical pain and why self-work matters • blended family anxiety and introducing a new partner gently • fighting as therapy and healing out loud • parenting advice for teen relationships plus dinner table rules • discipline stories including docking allowance and taking a door away Instagram, King Katty on Instagram. I think it’s king.Katttyy. Make sure you guys are there. Ticketmaster will have tickets.