Episode 5: Let's Talk About the Patriarchy and Your Body
Your body image isn't personal. It's political.
The way you see your body, the things you criticize about it, the voice in your head that says you're not enough — that's not an accident. That's the system working exactly as designed.
In this episode, we're talking about the patriarchy. What it actually is, how it shows up in your everyday life, and why body shame is a distraction by design.
This is Feminism 101 — no academic theory, no jargon. Just the real, relatable ways the patriarchy affects you:
Maybe you've noticed how little girls get complimented on how cute their outfits are, while little boys get asked what they're building or what they're curious about.
Maybe you've been the one asked to plan the baby shower at work — because you're "just so good at that stuff" — even though event planning isn't in your job description.
Maybe you've been in a professional space where YOU'RE running the show, and people still assume you must be working for the guy in the room.
These moments don't feel big enough to call out. They're easy to brush off.
But that's kind of the point.
The patriarchy doesn't just live in big, headline-making moments. It lives in the tiny, everyday assumptions about who leads, who supports, who gets to take up space — and who's expected to make everything run smoothly behind the scenes.
And here's how it connects to your body:
If you're spending all your time and energy worrying about whether you're thin enough, pretty enough, acceptable enough — you're not spending that time organizing, running for office, demanding equality, or challenging the people in power.
Body shame is a distraction. And it's by design.
In this episode, we cover:
- What the patriarchy actually is (and why it's not "all men are bad")
- How you learned early that your appearance matters more than anything else
- Why beauty standards are always shifting (and always unattainable)
- Why "hating yourself feels safer than liking yourself"
- Why loving your body is a radical, political act
- How boudoir photography is an act of resistance
The problem was never your body. The problem is a system that profits from you thinking it is.
But you don't have to participate in that anymore.
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