This Isn't Working

18: The Real Reason You Can't Get Close to Someone

Last week [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-isnt-working/id1707917629?i=1000717799699], we talked about cutting away the parts of yourself that perform and please to get approval. But what about the deeper layer—the self-judgment that keeps you hiding parts of yourself because you’ve decided they’re too ugly, too bad, too weird, too gross to be seen? In this deeply vulnerable episode, Meg shares her journey from childhood body shame to secret binging, and the moment her partner said “No shit!” when he finally learned what she’d been hiding for years. This isn’t about becoming perfect—it’s about cutting away the belief that certain parts of your humanity are unacceptable and too shameful to be loved. This episode explores the difference between cutting away the masks we wear for others and cutting away the shame that keeps us hiding from ourselves—and how real intimacy becomes possible when you become willing to be seen as exactly who you are.  What You’ll Learn: 💥The difference between performing for others vs. hiding from yourself 💥 Why shame doesn’t protect you from rejection—it guarantees you’ll never be fully accepted 💥How self-judgment keeps you in a prison of your own making 💥The difference between courage (cutting away performance) and compassion (cutting away self-judgment) 💥What changes in relationships when you stop managing others’ perception of you 💥How to move from hiding your struggles to being witnessed in them 💥The difference between courage and compassion in relationships 💥How relationships transform when you stop managing perceptions Ready to stop carrying the exhaustion of managing everyone’s perception of you—including your own?  Click here [https://meglamm.as.me/CoffeeChat] to book a coffee chat and explore what’s possible when you let yourself be fully seen. IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED WITH YOU, PLEASE SHARE IT WITH SOMEONE WHO NEEDS TO HEAR THAT ALL PARTS OF THEM ARE WORTHY OF LOVE—EVEN THE PARTS THEY’VE BEEN HIDING. ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

17: One Step to Create More Intimacy in Your Relationship

We always hear about adding to our relationships — better communication, more connection, new tools. BUT WHAT IF THE RELATIONSHIP YOU WANT ISN’T ABOUT ADDING… WHAT IF IT’S ABOUT CUTTING AWAY? In this episode, I’m sharing the personal patterns I had to cut away in order to have the relationship I say I want: one built on transparency, honesty, and vulnerability. I’ll also share what the difference really is between honesty and transparency, and why cutting away can be so difficult and actually feel like a loss — but is where real trust is built. IF THIS RESONATES, I'VE GOT A GROUP BEGINNING IN SEPTEMBER. AND IF YOU JOIN NOW, YOU’LL GET 1:1 COACHING WITH ME BEFORE WE EVEN START! To find out more, DM me on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/meg_lamm1/] or Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/meg.r.lamm] Or click here [https://MegLamm.as.me/?appointmentType=64013609] to grab a time to chat with me  ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

16: Why You Can't Get Close to Those You Love

What happens when we avoid telling the truth — not just the big truths, but the small, daily ones about how we feel, what we want, and who we really are? In this episode, we explore a hard truth: the more we pretend in our relationships, the more we erode trust, intimacy, and connection. We talk about: * Why pretending doesn’t create closeness — it creates distance * The hidden cost of being “the agreeable one” * How our silence contributes to misunderstandings and unmet needs * What to ask yourself if you’re feeling resentment or disconnection * A small but powerful first step toward telling the truth in your relationships Whether it’s with your partner, your child, your parent, or your friend — this episode invites you to reflect honestly on where you might be hiding, and what might be possible if you stopped. READY TO TAKE THIS WORK TO THE NEXT LEVEL AND QUIT PRETENDING??? Click here [https://MegLamm.as.me/Discovery] to book a Complimentary Discovery Call. Share this episode with someone else who’s tired of pretending. Subscribe, rate, and review! ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

15: Whose Life ARE You Living?

Today we dive into a subtle but powerful dynamic that shapes so many of our choices: living according to other people’s needs, expectations, or comfort—often at the expense of our own desires. We say we want something, but we hesitate, delay, or quietly wait for someone else’s permission before moving forward. Which begs the question: WHOSE LIFE ARE YOU LIVING??? Through personal stories, we'll explore how this pattern shows up in everyday life, how it affects intimacy and clarity in our relationships, and what we can do to start living more honestly and intentionally. You’ll walk away with thought-provoking questions to ask yourself and a clearer sense of what’s really been driving your decisions—and whether it’s time to change course. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: * How we subtly give our power away when making personal decisions * Why waiting for permission can lead to disconnection and resentment * The difference between compromise and self-abandonment * A story from Meg’s own life that reveals the cost of not being clear * Questions to help you re-align with your truth ASK YOURSELF: * Whose comfort am I prioritizing? * Is the thing I keep postponing really about timing—or am I afraid of someone else’s reaction? * What is my behavior actually communicating? * Is this the life I want—or the life I think I should want? ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

14: Getting What You DON'T Want???

In today’s episode, I'm breaking down one of the most common reasons people stay stuck in patterns that don’t serve them: they’re solving the wrong problem! From clients who just want peace in their relationships to those who avoid hard conversations to keep the peace—I’m walking you through how this sneaky dynamic plays out and what to do instead. I’ll share some real-life examples (including one from my own relationship), and the exact question you can ask yourself to start shifting out of frustration and toward the life and relationship you actually want. What we’ll explore: * Why avoiding discomfort often leads you further from what you want * How to tell if you’re solving the wrong problem * The mindset shift that opens the door to real clarity and progress * A simple sentence that reveals what’s actually holding you back This episode is for you if: * You’re tired of spinning your wheels in your relationship * You keep finding yourself in the same cycle of frustration or indecision * You want real change—but aren’t sure where to begin Join me in Chicago on May 10th for a powerful in-person event where we’ll uncover the real problem that’s been holding you back—and what to do instead. REGISTER HERE! [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-mindset/id1454184498?i=1000697590916] ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.