We Should Probably Edit This — But We Won't

Mother's Day, Miami, and the Conversations Nobody Wants to Have

Episode 38 of We Should Probably Edit This – But We Won't opens outside on Mother's Day — with background noise, a sick Nancy, and a brand new used convertible Matthew has barely figured out how to drive. They're fresh back from four days in Miami with the grandkids, and little Millie in her sparkly dress and cowboy boots at story time may be the highlight of the episode. But things get real fast. Matthew and Nancy get into the conversations couples avoid: aging parents who don't want help, financial independence, and the difference between people who push to keep growing and people who quietly decide "this is it." It's honest, a little uncomfortable, occasionally funny, and completely unedited — which is exactly the point. Also: Matthew needs to get his eyes checked. Nancy said so. Publicly. 💡 Key Takeaways: * Four days is the limit — presence matters, but so does knowing when it's time to go * Kids don't teach you to be present — grandkids do — you can finally appreciate the chaos without being in the middle of it * Plan for the life you want, or someone else will plan it for you — watching aging parents is a mirror for your own future * Push to keep growing — "this is it" is a choice, not a requirement * Have the hard conversations — dancing around the elephant in the room doesn't make it smaller * Know yourself at the doctor — your history, your questions, your standards of care

She Fell, He Got on a Zoom Call, and Nobody Knew What Room She Was In

Episode 37 of We Should Probably Edit This – But We Won't starts with a fall — Nancy goes down hard on pavement leaving church, knees and wrist taking the hit — and somehow gets more chaotic from there. While Matthew joins a Zoom call in the waiting room, Nancy wanders into the wrong exam room and single-handedly discombobulates an entire urgent care office. Classic Nancy and Matthew energy. But underneath the laughs, this episode gets real. Matthew and Nancy talk about how couples communicate (and miscommunicate), why 75% of the time is actually pretty good, and what it means to handle unexpected setbacks without falling apart. They also get into something a lot of people avoid: taking ownership of your own health. Knowing your body, asking the right questions, advocating for yourself, and — Matthew, this means you — actually making the appointment. It's messy, it's funny, and it's very, very unedited. 💡 Key Takeaways: * Couples communication is never perfect — 75% is a win; it's the other 25% that keeps things interesting * Find the humor — when life knocks you down (literally), laughing through it beats staying mad * Handle it, then adjust — address the immediate crisis first, then figure out how it changes your plans * Own your health — know your body, ask good questions, and don't use "I don't know the doctor" as an excuse not to go * Your spouse is your best advocate — sometimes it takes someone who knows you to push you through the door

Things We'd Never Have Said at 30: Honor the Struggle. Bring the Joy.

Recorded on Easter Sunday, Episode 36 of We Should Probably Edit This – But We Won't takes a reflective turn as Matthew and Nancy explore the phrases and personal growth mantras that have quietly become part of how they think, talk, and live. These aren't things they would've said when they first got married — but somewhere along the way, words like "honor the struggle," "bring the joy," "what would my better self do?", and "rejection is God's redirection" became part of their vocabulary. And they mean it. They get into the messy middle of setbacks, what it really means to summon the best of yourself, and why "just one more" can be the hardest — and most important — thing you say to yourself. They also talk about faith, legacy, grandkids, learning to listen to their adult kids without parenting them, and why being present in the moment is something grandparenting finally taught them to actually do. It's funny, it's honest, it's recorded on Easter — and yes, they will not be editing it. 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 People Mentioned: * Ed Mylett — source of the "just one more" concept * Nancy's mom — referenced in the context of saying things your parents used to say * Matthew and Nancy's adult children and grandchildren (unnamed) 🏢 Companies/Organizations Mentioned: * BlackRock Church * GrowthDay / Ultra (Brendon Burchard)

We Took the Strengths Test. His Tops Are Her Bottoms.

Ever wonder why your partner thinks the way they do — and why no amount of explaining seems to change it? Matthew and Nancy took the Gallup CliftonStrengths assessment through a leadership class at their church, and the results were equal parts validating and hilarious. Matthew's strengths — Learner, Achiever, Futuristic, Belief, and Responsibility — put him squarely in strategic thinking mode, always planning, always visioning, always reaching for what's next. Nancy's strengths — Communication, Consistency, Significance, Harmony, and Responsibility — make her a powerhouse of influence, relationship, and execution. The twist? His top two are her bottom two. Her influencing strengths are nowhere in his top 10. And somehow they've been making it work for 37+ years without knowing why. In this episode they unpack the four quadrants — executing, influencing, relationship building, and strategic thinking — and what it looks like when a couple brings completely different ones to the table. About why Nancy doesn't need to be a strategic thinker, and why Matthew needs to stop requiring her to be one. And yes — about the moment Nancy dictated an entire list to Claude AI during a 45-minute drive just to get Matthew his beloved bullet points. Stop trying to fix your weaknesses. Stop trying to change your partner's wiring. This episode makes the case for leaning hard into what you're actually great at — together. 📋 TAKEAWAYS * His tops are her bottoms — and that's actually the point * Weaknesses aren't meant to be fixed, they're meant to be acknowledged and handed off * Four quadrants: executing, influencing, relationship building, strategic thinking — and most couples don't bring the same ones * When you stop trying to change your partner's wiring and start working with it, everything gets easier * Hire, delegate, or partner to cover what you're not wired for * Nancy's son called her "spicy" years ago — turns out Harmony's description of "straightforward" basically confirms it * Matthew has been futuristic and strategic since 2014 — the top two just swapped * Executing is where they both shine and where they get things done together — selling the house proved it 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 People Mentioned: * Mel Robbins — mentioned in reference to the 5-4-3-2-1 rule 🏢 Companies/Organizations Mentioned: * Gallup CliftonStrengths — the assessment Matthew and Nancy took * GrowthDay — referenced as a past personal development experience * Claude — Nancy's shortcut to making Matthew's beloved list (yes, really)

Clarity Changes Everything: From Assumptions to Alignment

In Episode 34, Nancy and Matthew explore the power of clarity in relationships, life decisions, and the next chapter ahead. They reflect on how, early in marriage, assumptions often replaced communication—and how real clarity only comes through growth, experience, and intentional conversations. Now in a new phase of life, they break down their individual top priorities—from faith and marriage to financial freedom, legacy, and purpose—and discover that alignment isn’t about being identical, but about understanding each other deeply. They also share insights from their recent GrowthDay event in San Diego, where conversations around AI sparked a new level of curiosity, creativity, and possibility for the future. This episode is honest, reflective, and full of those “wait… that’s actually important” moments that come from real-life conversations. Takeaways: 1. Clarity in a relationship is a gradual development that requires ongoing communication and understanding. 2. Early assumptions in marriage often lack true clarity, leading to misunderstandings and unmet expectations. 3. Identifying evolving priorities such as faith, family, and finances fosters greater alignment within a long-term partnership. 4. Reflecting on personal goals is essential for couples to navigate the complexities of their relationship effectively. 5. Recent travel experiences can provide fresh perspectives on personal clarity and future aspirations. 6. Leveraging technology, such as AI, can enhance decision-making processes and improve communication in relationships. Companies mentioned in this episode: 1. GrowthDay 2. ChatGPT 3. Claude 4. Gemini