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Day 5/60 H1B. How to take care of your mental health as an immigrant?

Being an immigrant isn’t the easiest of adventures in my life. I think the cost of life as an immigrant is underestimated. As a student, you are always running to find a company that can not only offer you an internship but also be open to sponsoring your visa And then once you have a job, you have to keep convincing the employer to sponsor your H1B visa. And then once you have your H1B visa, you have to convince the employer to apply for your green card application. If the employer agrees and applies for you, your whole job for the next 2-3 years is to maintain the job so that your green card application can get confirmed. Given the long duration of 2-3 years, the possibility of employees either changing jobs, leaving jobs, or losing jobs increases. And then the cycle starts again - you start in this 2-3 year journey of getting your application filed for green card. And then you live in fear for 2-3 years to ensure you can keep this job and get your application filed. For some immigrants, this process can take 10-15 years of life. What’s happening now is even more interesting. Even if your green card application is filed, you face a wait of over 100+ years for a green card This means you remain in a 60-day H1B cycle for life. The fear of losing your job and having to start all over again in another country remains a constant in your life. It will pretty much impact all your relationships at work - with your leaders, with your manager and with your co-workers. Since fear is the exact opposite of courage, this model of waiting for a green card and being in this forever queue with a 60-day period decreases risk-taking among immigrants and also causes them to lose the courage they had when they first immigrated The journey of choosing to be an immigrant was hard, the journey of living as an immigrant is even harder. It took me a while to accept that immigration did impact my mental health. And as I meet more and more immigrants, I can see that I wasn’t alone in this journey. There are many immigrants like me who are still going through a lot because of the immigration system. Now that we are on the other side, I want to share this important resource with you. “The Daily Stoic” by Ryan Holiday is one of my favorite books. It helped me improve my mental health significantly. I used to read this book - one page a day and did it for around 2 years. It helped me develop self-discipline, offered clarity of thoughts and helped me think better about life. Last year, my younger brother came on a visit from India and saw me reading the book. 2 days ago, I saw a poster on his wall and I asked him what does the poster say. He said it says “Read Daily Stoic one page a day” That’s when I realized that this resource is truly a gem. I hope it transforms your life as well. Have a beautiful day in paradise, let’s live today, it’s not forever! 😘🥰💕💜 #india #america #immigrant Get full access to Atal Loves You! at atal.substack.com/subscribe [https://atal.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Day 4/60 H1B. Do I still love America?

You will find me passionately talking about immigrant rights. And in this passion, I will say a few things that would hurt your feelings. And in this heat of the moment, you will doubt my love for America. As I am extremely obsessed over my rights to liberty and freedom, this is only going to get intense. This is my commitment to the future of humanity and I don’t believe in leaving my loves ones behind. My goal is not to hurt your emotions but to bring your awareness to reality and truth. And the truth is that keeping a legal high skilled immigrant in 100+ years of wait for a green card is deeply inhuman and doesn’t represent any of the American values. I can see why speaking about this issue might hurt your feelings. Your identity is tied to America and America has done wonders for you in your life. America has done wonders for me too. I came to America on a scholarship, I got loved by almost every American, I never faced racist in workplace or outside. I have thrived in this country and saw immense growth in me - physically - through my new found love for athletics via Ironman races and emotionally - fighting my depression and creating healthy relationships. After living for 7 years, a part of my identity is also tied to America and the land by the Golden Gate Bridge. If immigrants who came to America legally got their green cards, access to equal rights as citizens, after living for a defined period, just like any other country in the world, I wouldn’t have to talk about this. I would have been giving my attention to more important problems in our world. But that’s not where we are at and so the need for your attention is extremely important. A few years ago, I came across this book by J Krishnamurti called as Relationships To Oneself, To Others and To the World. I look upto this book for guidance from time to time - to do a health check on my quality of life. It talks about how we live our whole life in relationships. Relationships with ourself, with our family, with wealth, with truth, with nations, with earth and with universe. And all these relationships together create our society. A healthy society consists of healthy relationships. And healthy relationships consist of healthy boundaries. And healthy boundaries are essential in unconditional love. To answer your question, do I still love America? My love for America is pure unconditional love. And that’s not going to change ever. I am only setting up healthy boundaries to protect myself and my future. My unconditional love is pure, patient and kind. And I am here to wait until America is ready and I will keep waiting while offering pure unconditional love. Before I dissolve into the land. Day 4/60 H1B. Do I still love America? Acknowledgement is key! You will find me passionately talking about immigrant rights. And in this passion, I will say a few things that would hurt your feelings. And in this heat of the moment, you will doubt my love for America. As I am extremely obsessed over my rights to liberty and freedom, this is only going to get intense. This is my commitment to the future of humanity and I don’t believe in leaving my loves ones behind. My goal is not to hurt your feelings but to bring your awareness to reality and truth. And the truth is that keeping a legal high skilled immigrant in 100+ years of wait for a green card is deeply inhuman and doesn’t represent any of the American values. I can see why speaking about this issue might hurt your feelings. Your identity is tied to America and America has done wonders for you in your life. America has done wonders for me too. I came to America on a scholarship, I got loved by almost every American, I never faced racist in workplace or outside. I have thrived in this country and saw immense growth in me - physically - through my new found love for athletics via Ironman races and emotionally - fighting my depression and creating healthy relationships. After living for 7 years, a part of my identity is also tied to America and the land by the Golden Gate Bridge. If immigrants who came to America legally got their green cards, access to equal rights as citizens, after living for a defined period, just like any other country in the world, I wouldn’t have to talk about this. I would have been giving my attention to more important problems in our world. But that’s not where we are at and so the need for your attention is extremely important. A few years ago, I came across this book by J Krishnamurti called as Relationships To Oneself, To Others and To the World. I look upto this book for guidance from time to time - to do a health check on my quality of life. It talks about how we live our whole life in relationships. Relationships with ourself, with our family, with wealth, with truth, with nations, with earth and with universe. And all these relationships together create our society. A healthy society consists of healthy relationships. And healthy relationships consist of healthy boundaries. And healthy boundaries are essential in unconditional love. To answer your question, do I still love America? My love for America is pure unconditional love. And that’s not going to change ever. I am only setting up healthy boundaries to protect myself and my future. My unconditional love is pure, patient and kind. And I am here to wait until America is ready and I will keep waiting while offering pure unconditional love. Before I dissolve into the land. I know we will get through this together because we are stronger together. Have a beautiful day in paradise, let’s live today, it’s not forever! 😘🥰💕💜 #india #america #immigrant Get full access to Atal Loves You! at atal.substack.com/subscribe [https://atal.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Day 3/60 H1B. What is my Plan B?

I often get this question, on what is my plan B? I thought this is a good time to share how stoicism transformed my life. You might remember, 2 years ago, I used to read this book “The Daily Stoic” almost everyday to fight my depression. The book has 365 pages, and it has 1 month specific on “mortality” I used to fear death at that time, so initially I avoided reading those pages. But then I learned that leaning into fears is the best way to improve the quality of my life. I swam from Alcatraz to San Francisco because I wanted to fight my fear of water. I lived in a cabin by myself for 6 months where a suicide happened just because I wanted to fight my fear of death. I don’t advice going this far, but somehow fighting fears and challenging myself bring me a lot of freedom. Once I started learning on how thinking from a place of death can improve the quality of my life, I started incorporating it more and more into my lifestyle. I have a death calendar by my bed - when I circle every week that’s gone. There are limited weeks in my life. And I want to make sure I do justice to each of them. Death remains the biggest human adversity. And once you conquer death, everything else is simple. So my plan B is really simple. As long as I am alive, I am living a beautiful day in paradise. I can be Canada, United States, El Salvador or India. When I have my freedom, I see the sky full of stars. Have a beautiful day in paradise, let’s live today, it’s not forever! 😘🥰💕💜 Get full access to Atal Loves You! at atal.substack.com/subscribe [https://atal.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Day 2/60. I apologize to you on behalf of forefathers of America.

Day 2/60. H1B. I apologize to you on behalf of forefathers of America. I know human beings lose track of morals and ethics. This happens in power and greed. This happens when a few people control the future of humanity and human rights. And these people put profits over morality. I apologize to you on the current state of America. On behalf of American forefathers. So let me bring some insights for you from the US Constitution. It reads clearly at the start. Even if you can’t see the ocean, the sun, the stars, you can still look upto this constitution for the guiding light. It also says by when you are enough American to represent America. It’s not 100 years. It’s 8 years. One human being who moves to America can get citizenship in 1 year in America. And after living for 7 years they can represent America in the House of Representatives. Living for 8 years in America is enough to embody the American spirit. If you have been living in America for 8+ years legally, you should have equal rights. I didn’t define the rules of the game. Forefathers of America did. Now go live your dreams. You are the future. You are the talent. Have a beautiful day in paradise, let’s live today, it’s not forever! 😘🥰💕💜#immigrant [https://www.linkedin.com/feed/hashtag/?keywords=immigrant&highlightedUpdateUrns=urn%3Ali%3Aactivity%3A7192542844912390144] #india [https://www.linkedin.com/feed/hashtag/?keywords=india&highlightedUpdateUrns=urn%3Ali%3Aactivity%3A7192542844912390144] #america [https://www.linkedin.com/feed/hashtag/?keywords=america&highlightedUpdateUrns=urn%3Ali%3Aactivity%3A7192542844912390144] Get full access to Atal Loves You! at atal.substack.com/subscribe [https://atal.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Day 1/60 H1B. We are entering the golden age.

Day 1/60 H1B. We are entering the golden age. The sun showed up and so did I. There is something unique about this time period. It makes me feel I am closer to death. it's an interesting kind of death. I don't think it's a death of dreams since I am feeling in full control of my dreams. I think it's the death of the conditional love that I received in America. Not from American people, they loved me unconditionally. The conditional love that was a transaction between a country and an immigrant on H1B. The conditional love happened because the country would only allow me to stay at my home if I keep giving my labor for my life. Taxation without representation for life can never be justified. That conditional love was the source of my suffering. Such unhealthy one sided relationships lead to a lot of problems. Hope the relationship between you and America is not conditional and you get your green card within 5 years of moving to America. Now as I am feeling free, let me answer some of the questions. Advocacy for immigration reforms doesn't end here. Infact, we are entering into a new phase. We will continue advocating for immigrant rights because it's the right thing to do. I don't need to live in America to do any of this work. I care about this enough to continue explaining the problem in creative ways. If you are an immigrant, please use OpenSphere [http://www.opensphere.ai], know all your options and find your freedom. My work is not complete until legal immigrants are respected and treated with dignity. Because I know I am only free until all of us are free. Have a beautiful day in paradise, let's live today, it’s not forever! 😘🥰💕💜 #immigrant #india #america Get full access to Atal Loves You! at atal.substack.com/subscribe [https://atal.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]