You Think You're Honest. You're Not.

You Think You're Honest. You're Not.

Enjoyed this and want to let us know? Drop us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2522326/fan_mail/new] I’ve always thought of myself as someone who cannot lie. I’m a compulsive truth teller — ask anyone who knows me. But today’s guest made me realise something uncomfortable: that’s also a lie. Everyone lies. The question is whether you know when you’re doing it. And why. Dominic Thurbon is a behavioural change expert, co-founder of Alchemy Labs, former world top-10 debater, Earnst & Young partner, founder of two businesses he built and sold, and author of books published in fifteen countries.  His new book To Be Honest is one of the most rigorously researched and genuinely funny books I’ve read on why we lie, how misinformation spreads, and what it actually takes to make truth happen in a world designed to make that very difficult. In this conversation we go into the Bollywood film Dominic lied his way into at 21 (yes, really), why even the most ethical people lie daily without realising it, the crucial difference between a liar and a bullshitter, and what it means to make truth a verb rather than a value.  This one didn’t let any of us off the hook. I don’t think it’ll let you off it either.   CHAPTERS 00:00  Introduction 03:30  The biggest lie Dominic ever told 13:00  Why we double down on lies 18:30  Them truth, we truth, me truth 24:00  Everyone lies: the main reasons why 31:00  The gender difference in how we lie 34:30  Does my bum look big?  40:00  Making truth happen 46:30  The misinformation economy and why social media is designed to work against us 53:30  Liars vs bullshitters  59:30  The debating paradox 64:00  What it would take to change your mind     RESOURCES & LINKS * Find Dominic Thurbon [https://domthurbon.com/?utm_term=dom%20thurbon&utm_campaign=Brand+-+Dom+Thurbon&utm_source=adwords&utm_medium=ppc&hsa_acc=3955925349&hsa_cam=23829311189&hsa_grp=201944824048&hsa_ad=808125875008&hsa_src=g&hsa_tgt=kwd-2436621262547&hsa_kw=dom%20thurbon&hsa_mt=p&hsa_net=adwords&hsa_ver=3&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23829311189&gbraid=0AAAABC6P5Wi8YvWO_tqx4IMwzhEvFkaDN&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI1Kfa2p3WlAMVz5JmAh3UvSO1EAAYASAAEgIvXPD_BwE] on his website *       To Be Honest [https://www.tobehonestbook.com/] — available at major bookstores and online via Major Street Publishing * Alchemy Labs [https://www.alchemylabs.net/] (Dominic’s behaviour change firm) *  Find Dominic on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/domthurbon/?isSelfProfile=false]   Mentioned in this episode •       On Bullshit by Harry Frankfurt (Princeton University Press) — the source of the liar vs bullshitter distinction •       Lying by Sam Harris — the case that there is never a situation where lying is justified •       Stolen Focus by Johann Hari — on reclaiming attention in a distracted world •       Brené Brown on “being clear is kind” — from Dare to Lead •       World Economic Forum Global Risk Report — misinformation ranked the #1 short-term global risk   Find more of Danielle Colley •       Instagram: @daniellecolley [https://www.instagram.com/iamdaniellecolley/] •       Email: bigstuffpod@gmail.com If this episode got you thinking, share it with one person who needs to hear it. And if you haven’t already, take the burnout quiz at daniellecolley.com.au — it’s free, it’s quick, and it might just tell you something true about yourself that you’ve been

Anorexia, Psychosis and Schizoaffective Disorder - One Woman's Imperfect Recovery Story

Enjoyed this and want to let us know? Drop us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2522326/fan_mail/new] Kate Purcell has spent much of her life in a battle with anorexia — hospitalised ten times, including seven months at a residential clinic in Perth. She has since navigated a diagnosis of schizoaffective disorder, survived a psychotic episode, written two books, and built a life she genuinely loves. But this is not a neat before-and-after story. Kate is still managing an eating disorder diagnosis right now, alongside medication that makes that harder, not easier. In this conversation, she talks about the girl she was before the illness took hold, what it felt like from the inside, and how she has learned — slowly and imperfectly — to separate who she is from what she has been through. This one is raw, real, and deeply human. Chapters 0:00 — Introduction 3:00 — Growing up and the beginning of comparison  10:00 — The diet that became something else  18:00 — Hospital and The Beast taking hold  28:00 — What actually helped 34:00 — Life after hospital 42:00 — A year of living in hell 49:00 — Diagnosis, medication, and finding solid ground  54:00 — The recent relapse — and what it taught her  58:00 — Building self-worth from the inside out  1:02:00 — What Kate would say to her fifteen-year-old self Find more Kate -  Her books ⁠Hope Inc. — Kate's memoir ⁠ [https://www.booktopia.com.au/hope-inc-kate-purcell/book/9781763727571.html?srsltid=AfmBOoo8hsY9ZgYdD-aUEkfh2bUMszXZF14mMIRlDyc7TZNBHQuJ3-HV] ⁠Tell Your Eating Disorder to F**k Off: Reclaim Your Power ⁠ [https://www.booktopia.com.au/tell-your-eating-disorder-to-f-k-off-kate-purcell/book/9781923517721.html]— Kate's self-help guide with reflection exercises and values work Her socials ⁠Instagram⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/purcellkate/] ⁠LinkedIn⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kate-purcell-64bb40123/?isSelfProfile=false] Support If anything in this episode stirred something up for you, please reach out to a professional who specialises in this area. In Australia: Butterfly Foundation Helpline: 1800 33 4673 (free, confidential support for eating disorders and body image concerns)  Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636  Lifeline: 13 11 14 You deserve support that's built for exactly what you're carrying. Connect with Danielle Instagram:⁠ @iamdaniellecolley ⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/iamdaniellecolley/] Email: ⁠bigstuffpod@gmail.com⁠ [bigstuffpod@gmail.com]

Still Working From Her Hospital Bed - Fleur Marks And Breaking Up With Overachieving

Enjoyed this and want to let us know? Drop us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2522326/fan_mail/new] She had the wardrobe, the fancy car, the career leading teams across multiple markets. From the outside, Fleur Marks had built the life. And if you'd asked her how she was doing, she would have told you she was fine. She was not fine. Fleur is a globally recognised leadership strategist, speaker, and author of the brand new book The Overachiever's Reset. She spent 20 years building a high-performance career on drive, relentless standards, and the unshakeable belief that if she just worked hard enough, everything would stay together. Until her body sent a message she could no longer ignore — a rare, incurable autoimmune disease attacking multiple organs simultaneously. Then, just as she began to stabilise, breast cancer. She lost the house, the income, the career identity, and almost her life. More than once. Here's the part that stopped me: Fleur wrote this book from a hospital bed, not knowing if she'd live to see it published. She is still in treatment now. And she showed up for this conversation anyway. This is one of the most honest, generous, and quietly life-changing conversations I've recorded. I threw out my questions within ten minutes and just followed where Fleur took us — and I'm so glad I did. We talk about what it actually costs to tether your worth to your output, what collapse can unlock that ambition never could, and why the word "fine" might be the most important red flag you're ignoring right now. Find Fleur here - https://fleurmarks.com.au [https://fleurmarks.com.au/] Or here - Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/fleurjmarks/] Or here - LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/fleurmarks/?isSelfProfile=false] Buy her book here - The Over Achievers Reset [https://www.booktopia.com.au/the-overachiever-s-reset-fleur-marks/book/9781394394913.html] CHAPTERS 00:00 — Intro 03:00 — In treatment, still showing up  07:00 — The old Fleur: Wonder Woman with a badge of busy  13:00 — Where impossibly high standards come from  18:00 — The first signs   23:00 — Losing everything at once  38:00 — The blue esky on the porch   44:00 — Becoming a high-performing sick person (and seeing the pattern repeat) 49:00 — What FINE really stands for  53:00 — The moment the light went out  58:00 — Mortality, faith, and why Fleur believes she was kept here  63:00 — Ambition after the reset — sequins, not superwoman  67:00 — Close and thinking points Follow Danielle Colley [https://www.instagram.com/iamdaniellecolley/] and the Big Stuff Podcast [https://www.instagram.com/bigstuffpodcast/] on instagram. Be sure to subscribe so you never iss an episode.  Reach out to Danielle if you would like to be a guest or have a question you would like discussed on the podcast.  danielle@daniellecolley.com.au

Is It Me, or Is It My Hormones? The Weird Perimenopause Symptoms Women Miss for Years

Enjoyed this and want to let us know? Drop us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2522326/fan_mail/new] Did you know there are over 48 symptoms of perimenopause — and the average woman is experiencing more than five of them at once, without realising any of them are hormonal? In this episode, Danielle gets into the weird, the unexpected, and the frankly baffling symptoms that can show up years before you'd ever think to look at your hormones. From itchy feet in bed at night to ringing ears, from rage that comes from nowhere to a quiet loss of confidence that creeps in and makes you feel like a stranger in your own head — these are the symptoms that send women to three different specialists before someone finally mentions perimenopause. Danielle shares her own story of realising she'd been in perimenopause for five or six years without knowing — including a frozen shoulder, excruciating ovulation she describes as "passing a puppy," and the slow, scary erosion of the confidence she'd spent decades building. She also gets into why this matters beyond the physical: why women at this life stage are more likely to be misdiagnosed with anxiety or depression, why doctors often dismiss symptoms in women under 50, and the research that shows this is one of the most vulnerable windows in a woman's life — and one of the most under treated. This one is for every woman who has Googled "am I allergic to myself" at 2am with itchy feet. You're not. It's your hormones. And now you know. Resources mentioned -  Big Stuff Episode 7 - ADHD and Perimenopause [https://open.spotify.com/episode/1y0QT6SyL36fVXfi5oKIdY?si=2d6cd5d9199e4e75] The Chocolate Bar Life - Danielle Colley [https://open.spotify.com/show/65XXQ1ASWJRMAUbOCogMnz?si=f5b34e1418b84e53] WellFemme  - online menopause doctors  [https://wellfemme.com.au]   •       0:00 The stat that stopped me: 48 symptoms, 5 at once •       1:30 Danielle's story •       4:00 Symptom 1 — Brain fog and losing words •       7:30 Symptom 2 — Confidence dropping for no reason •       10:30 Symptom 3 — Frozen shoulder (and what actually fixed it) •       15:30 Symptom 4 — The angry egg •       19:00 The doctor problem •       21:00 Symptom 5 — The Rage Monster. •       25:30 Symptom 6 — Anxiety that comes out of nowhere •       29:30 Symptom 7 —  "What's the point"  •       32:00 Symptom 8 — Itchy burning skin (including your feet) •       35:00 Symptom 9 — Ear weirdness •       37:00 Why this matters •       40:00 What helps

How To Say Yes To Your Life - Resilience, Purpose and Starting Over

Enjoyed this and want to let us know? Drop us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2522326/fan_mail/new] Ursula Kohler has spent 30 years being the woman behind the power. The one in the room holding it all together while everyone else loses the plot.  Through her businesses Capital EA and Bear Consulting, she has trained, supported and recruited the executive assistants and operators that keep some of Australia's most high-profile leaders functioning at their best — politicians, board members, government department heads.  This year she was personally invited by the President of the Senate to speak at Australian Parliament House for International Women's Day. She consults to traditional owners in remote North Queensland. She is, by any measure, a seriously impressive human. And then her marriage ended. Catastrophically. And the very thing that was blamed for the breakdown — her business, her drive, her ambition — turned out to be the thing that carried her through. This conversation covers grief, purpose, the ancestral lines that shape who we are, what it actually takes to earn the trust of powerful people, and what happens when a woman who has said yes to everyone else finally starts saying yes to herself. TIMESTAMPS: 0:00 — Introduction 2:30 — The messy middle 10:00 — Ancestry, migration, war, and the things that are passed down without ever being taught 17:00 — What it actually takes to be the person powerful people trust 24:00 — Putting your hand up  29:00 — Everything on the other side of fear is growth 36:00 — The marriage 41:00 — Purpose as the lifeline 43:30 — On country in Palm Island 49:00 — Australian Parliament House, International Women's Day, and what it means to stand in that room as that voice 52:00 — Caring for a mother with dementia  56:30 — What's next: 58:30 — Closing reflection and two thinking points CONNECT WITH URSULA:  Instagram -⁠ @Capital EA ⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/capitalcea/] ⁠@urskoh⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/urskoh/] Linkedin - ⁠Ursula Kohler⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/urskoh/] CONNECT WITH DANIELLE:  Instagram: ⁠@iamdaniellecolley ⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/iamdaniellecolley/] Email: ⁠bigstuffpod@gmail.com⁠ [bigstuffpod@gmail.com]