Big Stuff With Danielle Colley

The 3 Relationship Patterns That Keep Repeating (And How to Stop Them) - Sarah McGahon

Enjoyed this and want to let us know? Drop us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2522326/fan_mail/new] What if the fight you keep having with your partner was never actually about the washing (or whatever your recurring thing is?) Channel and energy healer, Sarah McGahan, has worked with over 700 women in private healing sessions all over the world, and across all of those sessions, the same three relationship patterns kept showing up, again and again.  Not just in romantic relationships — with mothers, with children, with friends, with colleagues, and with themselves.  Danielle has done her own healing work with Sarah personally, and in this conversation they go deep into what those three patterns are, where they actually come from, and why doing "all the work" doesn't always make them disappear. * The three most common relationship patterns Sarah sees in her private practice and how they are showing up in reality. * These patterns usually aren't random. They're typically formed in early childhood, before age seven, through what Sarah calls environmental conditioning. * The clearest sign of your own dominant pattern isn't the big dramatic moments — it's something far simpler. * Healing a pattern doesn't mean it never gets triggered again but what actually happens when you finally do the work. As Sarah puts it: it's not your fault, but it is your responsibility. The pattern wasn't your doing, but breaking it now is yours to carry. What are the three relationship patterns Sarah McGahan talks about? Fear of abandonment (and its variations, fear of loss and fear of betrayal), the need for control, and an unconscious addiction to pain and suffering or drama. Why do I keep repeating the same relationship pattern even after years of therapy? According to Sarah, these patterns are often formed very early in childhood, often even before age seven, and can run so deep that they're often not fully resolved through talk therapy alone.  How do I figure out which pattern is mine? One simple question shared by Sarah helps you to understand why even in different relationships, different jobs, different friendships, but the same dynamic keeps showing up.  Find Sarah McGahan, Channel and Intuitive Healer Sarah's website - ⁠sarahmcgahan.com⁠ [https://www.sarahmcgahan.com/] Sarah's Instagram- ⁠@channelwithsarah⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/channelwithsarah/] Or find more Danielle -  Website - ⁠daniellecolley.com.au⁠ [https://daniellecolley.com.au/about-danielle-colley/] Contact Danielle - danielle@daniellecolley.com.au  Podcast contact: ⁠bigstuffpod@gmail.com⁠ [bigstuffpod@gmail.com]

She Lost Her Voice for a Year. Here's What She Found - Sophie Bretag

Enjoyed this and want to let us know? Drop us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2522326/fan_mail/new] Sophie Bretag came on this show to talk about kindness. But what she really gave us was something far more important — a front-row seat to what happens when everything you've built your identity around is taken from you, and what you discover in the silence that follows.  Two years ago, Sophie had surgery for tongue cancer — a rare diagnosis for a woman her age — and spent almost twelve months unable to speak clearly. For someone whose entire career is built on her voice, that enforced silence became the most profound teacher of her life. This is a conversation about what it actually means to choose yourself — not as a concept, but when the stakes are real, when your husband is hospitalised the same week you are, when your kids need you, when going back to work two weeks post-surgery feels like the only option.  Sophie is warm, funny, and extraordinarily open, and I found myself receiving things in this conversation that I didn't even know I needed. I think you will too. CHAPTERS 0:00 — Introduction  3:00 — The lump on Sophie's tongue  10:00 — The diagnosis: "baby cancer"  17:00 — The operation  22:00 — Speaking for the last time before surgery  27:00 — The biggest fears going under the knife  33:00 — When your other senses take over 38:00 — The outpouring of love   44:00 — Setting the hardest boundaries of her life  49:00 — "I chose to choose me"  54:00 — What kindness actually looks like day to day  56:00 — What she would tell herself two years ago RESOURCES & LINKS Sophie Bretag — mettaleaders.com [https://www.mettaleaders.com] The Kind Way — available for pre-order now, in store 30 June 2025 Sophie on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/sophiebretag/]Sophie on Instagram — @sophiebretag [https://www.instagram.com/sophiebretag/] Danielle Colley — daniellecolley.com.au [https://daniellecolley.com.au/] Instagram - @iamdaniellecolley [https://www.instagram.com/iamdaniellecolley/] Contact Big Stuff — bigstuffpod@gmail.com [bigstuffpod@gmail.com] THINKING POINTS When someone you love is struggling, do you offer an open door — "let me know if you need anything" — or do you give them options?  Think about one person in your life right now who might need A, B, C, or D instead. Where are you still waiting for permission to stop going back to the way things were? You already have it.

HAYR? What Grief Made

Enjoyed this and want to let us know? Drop us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2522326/fan_mail/new] Six months ago, Danielle stepped back from the daily grind of running a business and gave herself something she'd never given herself before: time.  Not because she didn't know what was coming — she did — but because she decided to meet it with open hands instead of a full calendar. What followed was two books, a body of paintings, and her very first art show. This episode is about what happens when grief asks you to stop explaining yourself and just make something true instead. It's also about the five things Danielle learned from announcing something terrifying before she was ready — and why that's exactly the point. CHAPTERS 0:00 — Introduction  2:30 — The in-between  6:00 — What grief actually asks of you  9:00 — Why she made space before the hardest thing arrived  12:30 — The art, the books, and what it all is really  16:00 — Five things learned from hosting a first art show  16:30 — 1. Do it scared  18:30 — 2. Audacity is excellent  19:30 — 3. The devil is in the details  21:30 — 4. Release the outcome  23:00 — 5. Deadlines are king  24:30 — You don't need permission to begin The As She Is collection — available to view and purchase via Danielle's Instagram @daniellecolley.art If this episode landed somewhere real for you, send Danielle a message — she genuinely wants to know.  You can reach her at ⁠bigstuffpod@gmail.com⁠ [bigstuffpod@gmail.com] or find her at daniellecolley.com.au.  And if you know someone who's been sitting on something — a creative project, a scary goal, a version of themselves they haven't shown anyone yet — share this one with them.  That's exactly who it was made for.

You Think You're Honest. You're Not.

Enjoyed this and want to let us know? Drop us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2522326/fan_mail/new] I’ve always thought of myself as someone who cannot lie. I’m a compulsive truth teller — ask anyone who knows me. But today’s guest made me realise something uncomfortable: that’s also a lie. Everyone lies. The question is whether you know when you’re doing it. And why. Dominic Thurbon is a behavioural change expert, co-founder of Alchemy Labs, former world top-10 debater, Earnst & Young partner, founder of two businesses he built and sold, and author of books published in fifteen countries.  His new book To Be Honest is one of the most rigorously researched and genuinely funny books I’ve read on why we lie, how misinformation spreads, and what it actually takes to make truth happen in a world designed to make that very difficult. In this conversation we go into the Bollywood film Dominic lied his way into at 21 (yes, really), why even the most ethical people lie daily without realising it, the crucial difference between a liar and a bullshitter, and what it means to make truth a verb rather than a value.  This one didn’t let any of us off the hook. I don’t think it’ll let you off it either.   CHAPTERS 00:00  Introduction 03:30  The biggest lie Dominic ever told 13:00  Why we double down on lies 18:30  Them truth, we truth, me truth 24:00  Everyone lies: the main reasons why 31:00  The gender difference in how we lie 34:30  Does my bum look big?  40:00  Making truth happen 46:30  The misinformation economy and why social media is designed to work against us 53:30  Liars vs bullshitters  59:30  The debating paradox 64:00  What it would take to change your mind     RESOURCES & LINKS * Find Dominic Thurbon [https://domthurbon.com/?utm_term=dom%20thurbon&utm_campaign=Brand+-+Dom+Thurbon&utm_source=adwords&utm_medium=ppc&hsa_acc=3955925349&hsa_cam=23829311189&hsa_grp=201944824048&hsa_ad=808125875008&hsa_src=g&hsa_tgt=kwd-2436621262547&hsa_kw=dom%20thurbon&hsa_mt=p&hsa_net=adwords&hsa_ver=3&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23829311189&gbraid=0AAAABC6P5Wi8YvWO_tqx4IMwzhEvFkaDN&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI1Kfa2p3WlAMVz5JmAh3UvSO1EAAYASAAEgIvXPD_BwE] on his website *       To Be Honest [https://www.tobehonestbook.com/] — available at major bookstores and online via Major Street Publishing * Alchemy Labs [https://www.alchemylabs.net/] (Dominic’s behaviour change firm) *  Find Dominic on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/domthurbon/?isSelfProfile=false]   Mentioned in this episode •       On Bullshit by Harry Frankfurt (Princeton University Press) — the source of the liar vs bullshitter distinction •       Lying by Sam Harris — the case that there is never a situation where lying is justified •       Stolen Focus by Johann Hari — on reclaiming attention in a distracted world •       Brené Brown on “being clear is kind” — from Dare to Lead •       World Economic Forum Global Risk Report — misinformation ranked the #1 short-term global risk   Find more of Danielle Colley •       Instagram: @daniellecolley [https://www.instagram.com/iamdaniellecolley/] •       Email: bigstuffpod@gmail.com If this episode got you thinking, share it with one person who needs to hear it. And if you haven’t already, take the burnout quiz at daniellecolley.com.au — it’s free, it’s quick, and it might just tell you something true about yourself that you’ve been

Anorexia, Psychosis and Schizoaffective Disorder - One Woman's Imperfect Recovery Story

Enjoyed this and want to let us know? Drop us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2522326/fan_mail/new] Kate Purcell has spent much of her life in a battle with anorexia — hospitalised ten times, including seven months at a residential clinic in Perth. She has since navigated a diagnosis of schizoaffective disorder, survived a psychotic episode, written two books, and built a life she genuinely loves. But this is not a neat before-and-after story. Kate is still managing an eating disorder diagnosis right now, alongside medication that makes that harder, not easier. In this conversation, she talks about the girl she was before the illness took hold, what it felt like from the inside, and how she has learned — slowly and imperfectly — to separate who she is from what she has been through. This one is raw, real, and deeply human. Chapters 0:00 — Introduction 3:00 — Growing up and the beginning of comparison  10:00 — The diet that became something else  18:00 — Hospital and The Beast taking hold  28:00 — What actually helped 34:00 — Life after hospital 42:00 — A year of living in hell 49:00 — Diagnosis, medication, and finding solid ground  54:00 — The recent relapse — and what it taught her  58:00 — Building self-worth from the inside out  1:02:00 — What Kate would say to her fifteen-year-old self Find more Kate -  Her books ⁠Hope Inc. — Kate's memoir ⁠ [https://www.booktopia.com.au/hope-inc-kate-purcell/book/9781763727571.html?srsltid=AfmBOoo8hsY9ZgYdD-aUEkfh2bUMszXZF14mMIRlDyc7TZNBHQuJ3-HV] ⁠Tell Your Eating Disorder to F**k Off: Reclaim Your Power ⁠ [https://www.booktopia.com.au/tell-your-eating-disorder-to-f-k-off-kate-purcell/book/9781923517721.html]— Kate's self-help guide with reflection exercises and values work Her socials ⁠Instagram⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/purcellkate/] ⁠LinkedIn⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kate-purcell-64bb40123/?isSelfProfile=false] Support If anything in this episode stirred something up for you, please reach out to a professional who specialises in this area. In Australia: Butterfly Foundation Helpline: 1800 33 4673 (free, confidential support for eating disorders and body image concerns)  Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636  Lifeline: 13 11 14 You deserve support that's built for exactly what you're carrying. Connect with Danielle Instagram:⁠ @iamdaniellecolley ⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/iamdaniellecolley/] Email: ⁠bigstuffpod@gmail.com⁠ [bigstuffpod@gmail.com]