Confessions of a Closet Romantic

Send us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1322830/open_sms] (I'm taking a short break in the next couple of weeks for a road trip with my sweetie. I'll be back soon!) My journey from a strict religious upbringing to discovering I'm mildly kinky in the right settings, and with the right partner, was quite the revelation. These fascinating, complex stories explore women also discovering their secret desires, vulnerabilities and sexual thrills through consensual BDSM kink. The movies are sometimes titillating, sometimes romantic but always thought-provoking in a way that you don't often see on the big screen. CW: sexually explicit scenes, and lots of spoilers. https://www.confessionsofaclosetromantic.com [https://www.confessionsofaclosetromantic.com/] Whewwww. Hotttt [https://youtu.be/9XXoNB0lVGo?si=4xNe4TBUgTDUSYlk]. Even if you weren't interested in kink before, aren't you now?! "This is all I ever dreamed about—to be used by you." [https://youtu.be/P-xIMBnclyA?si=iNbPDRd6UX787q1w] "While safe kinky play is an excellent forum for navigating and even healing trauma, it’s a harmful stereotype to assume that only “broken” people are drawn to kink." Excellent article [https://www.latimes.com/entertainment-arts/movies/story/2024-12-25/babygirl-nicole-kidman-harris-dickinson]by a sex educator about what Babygirl gets right—and wrong—about kink. "I think the sadomasochistic relationship is a theatrical platform for exploring power dynamics in a relationship, but also you can explore power dynamics with directors and actors...and the fear of performing and putting on a persona which is not you, and being watched." Fascinating glimpse [https://thedissolve.com/features/interview/915-peter-strickland-on-the-heartbreak-and-kinks-of-th/] into the creative mind of The Duke of Burgundy writer/director Peter Strickland. [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Duke_of_Burgundy#:~:text=The%20Duke%20of%20Burgundy%20is,Chiara%20D'Anna%20as%20Evelyn.] "Exploring kink, even if you’re unsure if you yourself are kinky, can broaden your horizons, enrich your sexual repertoire, and increase tolerance of others..." If you're interested in joining the Erotic Minority, this Vice round up of kinks [https://www.vice.com/en/article/list-of-kinks-vice-guide/] is a fun primer. "There is no shame in healing in whatever way feels authentic and cathartic. You are the curator of your sexual script, and it gets to play out in whatever way you find most empowering." [https://www.modernintimacy.com/kink-and-trauma-the-psychology-of-pleasure-and-pain/] "...if you're not 100% sure monogamy is right for you...I've found a great deal of happiness and freedom so far in taking a more liberal approach to relationships, and am interested to see where it leads." Lovely BDSM model Ariel Anderson [https://www.arielanderssenauthor.com] talks about being "Not strictly monogamous." [https://youtu.be/iT8fjzosPbY?si=5xsu73N6KTNzNC8e] Fascinating discussion [https://youtu.be/ptTZJ7FBGto?si=M3clALVlRiBxQkl2] with Ariel Anderson and Dr. Kate Lister, who hosts the amazing podcast Betwixt the Sheets: the History of Sex, Scandal & Society. [https://podcasts.apple.com/uy/podcast/betwixt-the-sheets-the-history-of-sex-scandal-society/id1612090432] Support the show [https://www.buymeacoffee.com/poppyconfesses] If you enjoyed this episode, please click share in your podcast app and tell your friends! Thanks for listening!

Send us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1322830/open_sms] This episode from a few years ago is one of my most popular, and since life has been kicking my behind lately, I thought it was a good time to take a breather and forget it all by getting kinky. It's also the episode that best represents my growth as a partner, person and podcaster, all thanks to producing and hosting this show.  I'm working on a new episode about kink and kinky romance inspired by the Nicole Kidman movie Babygirl, so look for that next time. Meanwhile, hope you enjoy this thoroughly non-NSFW throwback episode about "smutty" and kinky romance. (To find the original show notes, visit confessionsofaclosetromantic.com and search for "romance after dark.") Support the show [https://www.buymeacoffee.com/poppyconfesses] If you enjoyed this episode, please click share in your podcast app and tell your friends! Thanks for listening!

Send us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1322830/open_sms] One of my favorite romantic tropes in all the world is chosen or found family. Rock bands, the military, college besties, your work husband and siblings, your little clique in high school, your beloved pets past and present—if they choose you and you choose them, they're family. If you had a less than ideal upbringing, stories like these full of emotional complexity along with acceptance, loyalty and love, are so healing and remind us that relations are always our choice. https://www.confessionsofaclosetromantic.com [https://www.confessionsofaclosetromantic.com/] Who wouldn't want to be related to these people?! [https://youtu.be/WKTwtIL4xyk?si=2u5FdN7ngztLnlpz] The amazing cast and crew of The Four Seasons. [https://www.imdb.com/title/tt30826447/fullcredits/?ref_=tt_ov_wr#writer] The intrusive soundtrack drives me bonkers (yes, we know they met in the 80s!) but the camaraderie is just so dang good in Peter's Friends. [https://youtu.be/doLaKzbm5Ss?si=N-JLPuJR7gGP5CJk]  Friends with Kids [https://youtu.be/S0cYheYIT4o?si=dgPh7N2Q-udf5ruU] owns the chosen family and friends-to-lovers tropes—though you have to suspend disbelief that no one seems to want Ed Burns, who represents the most perfect partner to ever roam the earth. Support the show [https://www.buymeacoffee.com/poppyconfesses] If you enjoyed this episode, please click share in your podcast app and tell your friends! Thanks for listening!

Send us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1322830/open_sms] After losing my sweet senior dog this week, I find myself mired in waves of grief, but in between, also feeling grateful for love: human, animal, loving relationships in all of their forms and however they come into our lives. The love of an animal is a very special experience, and my heart goes out to other pet guardians who may be experiencing anticipatory grief of their own. Support the show [https://www.buymeacoffee.com/poppyconfesses] If you enjoyed this episode, please click share in your podcast app and tell your friends! Thanks for listening!

Send us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1322830/open_sms] It's hard to describe how sexy, funny yet heartbreaking this mini series is. Based on real-life best friends Molly and Nikki, who created a podcast about Molly's sexual adventures while in hospice, it's one woman's story of healing, emotional fulfillment and discovering who she is as a romantic and sexual being. It's also a comical, heartfelt, life-affirming look at the deep bonds and love shared between female friends. (CW: explicit descriptions of kink and sex, reference to childhood SA) "I want to feel everything for as long as I can." [https://youtu.be/B4WAcOJ5bvo?si=HVBlEpEAEKm47C7W] The full cast and crew [https://www.imdb.com/title/tt30252752/]of Dying for Sex. "The show taught me so much about what sex could be...” Variety interviews Dying for Sex co-showrunners Kim Rosenstock and Elizabeth Meriwether. [https://variety.com/2025/tv/news/dying-for-sex-creators-writing-molly-sex-scenes-death-1236359727/] "Molly wanted to fall in love, and she did; she fell in love with herself...so whatever is on your list of things to do before you die—you better get started.” [https://time.com/7274388/dying-for-sex-true-story/] "Love isn’t just doing what you think is best for someone, whether or not they want it. It’s learning how they want to be loved and loving them that way." Awesome interview [https://www.thecut.com/article/how-kim-rosenstock-gets-it-done.html] with Dying for Sex co-showrunner Kim Rosenstock. Support the show [https://www.buymeacoffee.com/poppyconfesses] If you enjoyed this episode, please click share in your podcast app and tell your friends! Thanks for listening!