Dear Self,

2. Setting Standards

Keeping it going from last week, I talked about being the bigger person and sticking to your boundaries. But how do you set those boundaries and standards and stick to them? Once again, that is easier said than done but here is a tool that may help you navigate what your standards and boundaries are AND how to stick to them. Stop compromising things that are important to you.

Bigger is Harder

Well, I am back! And although this podcast title surely captured your attention, I am going to warn you... it is not what you may be thinking or hoping. Bigger is Harder is referring to the fact that being the bigger person in situations is so much harder that being the one who lashes out. It is harder to have the self control when every ounce of your being wants to rant, vent and defend yourself. I struggle with this every day, but thankfully therapy has taught me some tools that I want to share with you.

9. Toxic is Not Cute

In today's society this "Toxic" persona has been glorified, but all it is are a combination of these unhealthy habits and behaviors yet it is supposed to be the "hot" type of man or woman. The logic behind being a toxic person is flawed because you are selling false confidence, the fact you don't care, and you are a negative individual BUT then you expect a happy healthy relationship?! WHAT?! That make's no sense. Toxic does not equal happy, healthy, positive, and most of all it does not equal confidence or that "strong independent" type of person. Don't get it twisted.

8. Fear of Failure

What is stopping you from applying for that dream job? Or why don't you shoot your shot? When it comes to progressing in life I think the biggest thing that inhibits our progress is ourselves and our fear or failure or rejection. But if you don't try then you will never know! And if you don't try then you will never learn from the experience or be able to grow as an individual. Like I have said before, every moment is a learning experience whether it's good or bad, and there is always something you can take away.

7. Compromise

How do you know when you are compromising too much in your relationship? Well every relationship is different but ultimately I think it comes down to what is important to you and what is your gut telling you. Maybe you can avoid this question with a serious conversation or by paying attention to your partner's goals, desires and passions from the beginning.