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I Thought Everyone Did This | Late Diagnosed ADHD & Autism - Ep 138 with Pip Scott Allen

Ever realize your ‘normal’ isn’t everyone else’s normal? After being diagnosed with ADHD in college, Pip Scott-Allen later discovered he was autistic too. Looking back, a lot of the things he thought were “just quirks” suddenly started making sense, from only drinking out of red cups to avoiding certain clothing textures and carefully balancing food while eating. In this episode, Pip shares what it’s like unpacking a late autism diagnosis after years of masking through leadership and team-building work, and how understanding his sensory needs and communication style has changed the way he approaches work, relationships, and self-acceptance. Guest Bio Pip Scott-Allen is a leadership facilitator, speaker, and founder of Premier Team Building Australia. With a background in outdoor education, tourism, and leadership development, Pip helps organizations improve communication, culture, and collaboration through hands-on workshops and team experiences. Episode Highlights 00:04:08 — Realizing his “quirks” were sensory needs Pip shares the everyday habits his wife noticed long before his autism diagnosis, from refusing to wear full-length pants to carefully balancing food while eating. What he assumed was just personality or preference turned out to be sensory and autistic traits. 00:06:30 — The red cup rule and other “normal” behaviors For years, Pip would only drink from red cups and use certain cutlery because other options felt wrong in his hands. The conversation explores how many autistic people assume their internal rules are universal until someone points out otherwise. 00:09:20 — Understanding why masking became exhausting Before diagnosis, Pip assumed constant exhaustion was just part of life. Looking back, he realized how much energy went into forcing himself through uncomfortable sensory and social situations every day. 00:17:11 — Becoming more honest about sensory triggers After his diagnosis, Pip stopped forcing himself to tolerate foods and situations that made him deeply uncomfortable. Being more open about textures, safe foods, and sensory needs gave him more energy and reduced self-judgment. 00:27:00 — Why autistic communication is often misunderstood Pip explains how many neurodivergent people communicate through direct curiosity, while neurotypical people often interpret hidden meanings or emotional undertones. A simple question like “Why are you tying your shoes like that?” can unintentionally sound critical even when it’s genuine curiosity. 00:34:08 — Advice for leaders supporting neurodivergent teams Pip encourages leaders to listen carefully to what people actually say rather than assuming intent. He also explains why flexibility, clear communication, and understanding sensory needs help neurodivergent employees perform at their best. Connect with Pip: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/pip-scott-allen-facilitator-of-awesome-8458a069/ Email: pip@premierteambuilding.com.au Website: https://premierteambuilding.com.au/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PremierTeamBuildingAus/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/premier_team_building/ Connect with Jeremy: LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/nageljeremy Email: jeremy@focusbear.io More from Focus Bear: Website: https://focusbear.io LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/focus-bear/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@focusbearapp Twitter: https://twitter.com/focusbear1 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/focus_bear/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/focusbearapp/ Podcast: https://podcast.focusbear.io Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@focusbear [https://www.tiktok.com/@focusbear]

Understanding Communication Differences in ADHD and Autism - Ep 137 with Elaine Lee

“It’s like being a car on a side street trying to enter a highway… and you just can’t get in.” Elaine Lee shares what it’s like struggling to enter conversations, missing social cues, and feeling out of sync in both work and relationships. After being diagnosed with ADHD, autism, and dyslexia later in life, she began to understand why communication had always felt so difficult. In this episode, we explore misreading emotions, defaulting to problem-solving instead of connection, and how misunderstanding intent can damage relationships. Elaine also shares how she’s building Evro, a tool designed to help people better understand communication patterns. If you’ve ever felt like you couldn’t “read the room” or struggled to jump into conversations, this episode will feel very familiar. Elaine Lee is a product strategist and CEO of Evro, a communication-focused AI tool designed to help people better understand conversations and social dynamics. She has over 15 years of experience across fintech, health tech, and AI platforms. Episode Highlights 00:05:00 — Struggling to read social cues at work Elaine explains how not being able to detect boredom, disengagement, or passive-aggressive behavior made navigating meetings difficult. This impacted her effectiveness as a leader and made sensitive situations harder to manage. 00:06:30 — Why joining conversations feels impossible She describes group conversations as trying to merge onto a busy highway without a gap. By the time she finds space to speak, the topic has already moved on, leading to frustration in both social and professional settings. 00:08:30 — Missing emotional cues in real time In a tense meeting, a colleague became visibly upset and raised their voice, but Elaine didn’t recognize it in the moment. She continued trying to solve the problem logically, only realizing later what had happened. 00:13:00 — Reframing relationships after diagnosis After her diagnosis, Elaine began to understand that communication struggles weren’t due to lack of care or effort. This helped her and her partner meet in the middle and reduce long-standing misunderstandings. 00:15:30 — Reinterpreting her childhood with compassion Looking back at her mother’s behavior through an autism lens shifted her perspective. What once felt like absence or lack of love became something she could understand with more empathy. 00:22:00 — Building Evro to bridge communication gaps Elaine explains how Evro analyzes conversations to highlight patterns people might miss. The goal is to reduce misinterpretation and help people communicate more effectively across different styles. Connect with Elaine: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elaine-lee-a0716918/ Website: https://www.evro.ai/ Connect with Jeremy: LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/nageljeremy Email: jeremy@focusbear.io More from Focus Bear: Website: https://focusbear.io LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/focus-bear/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@focusbearapp Twitter: https://twitter.com/focusbear1 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/focus_bear/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/focusbearapp/ Podcast: https://podcast.focusbear.io

The Reality of Working Full-Time with ADHD and Autism - Ep 136 with Caitlin Hughes

“I’ve only ever worked full-time for two years… and by the end of it, I was an absolute zombie and I couldn’t function.” Caitlin Hughes spent years trying to meet traditional expectations around work and productivity. But pushing herself into full-time work led to burnout, exhaustion, and losing the ability to function. In this episode, she shares how discovering her autism, ADHD, and giftedness changed the way she approaches work, energy, and self-expectations. From late diagnosis and grief to redefining consistency, building a part-time work model, and designing work around her brain, this conversation explores what sustainable productivity actually looks like for neurodivergent people. Caitlin Hughes is a multi-exceptional autistic, ADHD, and gifted accredited mental health social worker, founder of Cathartic Collaborations, and a PhD candidate at Queensland University of Technology. Her work focuses on autistic mental health and neuro-affirming practice, combining lived experience, clinical work, and research to support neurodivergent individuals. Episode Highlights 00:02:00 — Discovering neurodivergence through client work Caitlin shares how working closely with autistic and ADHD clients led her to recognize similar patterns in herself. A training video became a turning point, helping her connect her childhood experiences to autism for the first time. 00:04:00 — The grief and self-compassion after late diagnosis Receiving a diagnosis in her thirties brought both clarity and grief. Understanding her neurodivergence helped her replace self-judgment with compassion and reframe past struggles. 00:08:30 — Realizing she could only sustain part-time work After pushing through full-time work and burning out, Caitlin recognized her limits. Accepting a reduced work capacity allowed her to show up more consistently and sustainably. 00:10:00 — Managing energy instead of just managing time She explains how productivity is not just about hours worked but the type of work and level of social interaction involved. Balancing client work with deep, independent research helps her regulate energy. 00:16:00 — Redefining consistency in a neurodivergent way Instead of rigid routines, Caitlin defines consistency as checking in with her capacity each day. This flexible approach prevents burnout and supports long-term progress. 00:33:30 — Designing work around your brain, not the other way around She emphasizes the importance of building work structures that align with individual needs rather than forcing yourself into traditional systems. For her, sustainability is more important than productivity metrics. Connect with Caitlin:  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/caitlinhughes299/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/caitlinhughes299/] Website: https://www.catharticcollaborations.com.au/ [https://www.catharticcollaborations.com.au/] Podcast: https://www.catharticcollaborations.com.au/podcast [https://www.catharticcollaborations.com.au/podcast] Connect with Jeremy: LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/nageljeremy Email: jeremy@focusbear.io More from Focus Bear: Website: https://focusbear.io LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/focus-bear/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@focusbearapp Twitter: https://twitter.com/focusbear1 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/focus_bear/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/focusbearapp/ Podcast: https://podcast.focusbear.io Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@focusbear [https://www.tiktok.com/@focusbear]

Autism Masking in Early Childhood | Why My Signs Were Missed - Ep 135 with Avalon McWha

“I think I’ve always felt a bit like an alien… even in preschool I remember watching other kids like curious creatures.” Avalon McWha spent much of her childhood feeling different without knowing why. Behaviours like stimming or walking on tiptoes were explained away as “just a ballet moment,” and it wasn’t until later in life that she discovered she was autistic and ADHD. If you’ve ever felt like an outsider growing up, struggled with masking, or are navigating a late autism or ADHD diagnosis, this conversation explores what changes once you finally understand your brain. Avalon McWha is an ADHD advocate, autism consultant at the Royal Melbourne Hospital, and founder of Pebbl Tech. She works to improve autism diagnosis services and create more sensory-friendly environments in healthcare. Avalon is also developing Pebbl, a wearable assistive device designed to support executive functioning through simple voice reminders. Episode Highlights 00:01:48 — Feeling like an alien in early childhood Avalon recalls observing other children even in preschool and feeling like she was fundamentally different. Without understanding why, she experienced social interactions almost like watching a different species operate. 00:03:35 — When autism traits were mistaken for something else Growing up doing ballet meant that behaviours like stimming or walking on tiptoes were interpreted as dance habits rather than autistic traits. These misinterpretations helped hide the signs of autism for years. 00:09:30 — Burnout from masking in the workplace While early design roles allowed her to work independently, startup environments demanded constant meetings and social interaction. The cognitive load of masking eventually led to severe burnout and moments of going nearly nonverbal. 00:12:53 — Processing a late autism diagnosis After receiving her diagnosis, Avalon went through a long period of reinterpreting past experiences and confronting internalized ableism. Realizing autism wasn’t inherently negative helped reshape her understanding of herself. 00:18:09 — Advocating for better autism diagnosis systems In her role at Royal Melbourne Hospital, Avalon works alongside clinicians to ensure autistic perspectives are included in the diagnostic process. Her focus is helping professionals remember that behind every diagnostic score is a real person. 00:20:23 — Building Pebbl to reduce cognitive load Avalon explains how her own struggles with executive functioning led her to develop Pebbl, a wearable device designed to simplify reminders without adding more mental effort or screen time. Connect with Avalon: LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/avalon-mcwha-2a3876ba [https://www.linkedin.com/in/avalon-mcwha-2a3876ba]Website: https://pebbl.tech/ [https://pebbl.tech/] Connect with Jeremy: LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/nageljeremy Email: jeremy@focusbear.io More from Focus Bear: Website: https://focusbear.io LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/focus-bear/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@focusbearapp Twitter: https://twitter.com/focusbear1 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/focus_bear/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/focusbearapp/ Podcast: https://podcast.focusbear.io Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@focusbear

Autistic Travel, Work Habits, and Learning to Say No - Ep 134 with Kyriakos Gold

“My work’s my special interest… it’s just the way it works.” In this follow-up conversation, Gold returns to talk about autistic routines, sensory-friendly travel, evolving productivity habits, and what changes as you get older and learn to pace yourself. From choosing quieter hotels to letting go of perfectionism and learning to say no, this episode explores the small, practical adjustments that can make work and life more sustainable for autistic adults. If you’ve ever struggled with sensory overload while traveling, found it hard to switch off from work, or are learning to balance productivity with self-acceptance, this conversation offers grounded, real-world insights. Kyriakos Gold is the founder of Just Gold Agency and a passionate advocate for neurodivergent inclusion. Through storytelling, community impact initiatives and social entrepreneurship, he helps create workplaces and environments where autistic and otherwise neurodivergent people don’t need to mask to belong. Kyriakos is also a leader in Autistic Pride Day and has driven multiple projects empowering neurodivergent voices globally. Episode Highlights 00:01:05 — When your work becomes your special interest Gold shares how his work naturally became his primary special interest. Rather than forcing separation, he has learned to work with this tendency while still building in breaks and enjoyable rituals like food and travel. 00:03:35 — What makes a hotel sensory-friendly He explains that “sensory friendly” often comes down to lighting, acoustics, materials, and spatial design. Small environmental details like noise bleed and harsh lighting can dramatically affect comfort. 00:17:00 — Letting go of all-or-nothing productivity Earlier in his career, he would work extreme hours to complete every task before resting. Over time, he shifted toward weekly planning and allowing unfinished work without self-punishment. 00:20:30 — Learning to say no and trust body signals Gold describes becoming more selective about commitments and listening to physical fatigue cues. This shift has made work and life significantly more sustainable. 00:22:00 — Navigating social situations without drinking He shares practical scripts for declining loud pub environments and suggesting quieter alternatives. Framing the request around environment rather than diagnosis often works well. 00:26:09 — Trying new things without forcing yourself to keep them In his closing reflection, Gold encourages experimenting with new strategies slowly and safely. The goal is not to copy what others do, but to build a life that genuinely fits. Connect with Kyriakos Gold: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kyriakosgold/ Website: https://justgold.net/ Connect with Jeremy: LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/nageljeremy Email: jeremy@focusbear.io More from Focus Bear: Website: https://focusbear.io LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/focus-bear/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@focusbearapp Twitter: https://twitter.com/focusbear1 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/focus_bear/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/focusbearapp/ Podcast: https://podcast.focusbear.io Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@focusbear