Desperately Seeking

Vigilante S**t - My Shameful Tale of Cyber Stalking - AUDIO/VISUAL episode

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit mikhila.substack.com [https://mikhila.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_7] When I tell you I was struck down with technical difficulties this week.. My phone was gaslighting me in to pretending it had no storage, by way of corrupt data. After wiping that and starting over (which was a whole thing because I lost access to my authenticator app for my work laptop the week of a whole new IT rollout) my laptop started doing THE SAM…

Ageing Disgracefully (with Lee)

First and foremost - the first episode with Lee is RAPIDLY climbing my ‘most popular’ list, and when you consider it’s a MEMBERS ONLY, that’s bonkers! I created a little group chat on insta, for listeners to weigh on on future episodes and MAYBE even talk among themselves (it’s early days.. nobody wants to make the first move) and the poll in that group was pretty heavily weighted towards another one with Lee. Now, I left it all a bit late (not like me at all) and so instead of the topic I had planned (listen to the end for that ironic twist) we started on Lee’s hatred for a certain style of sandals (a ‘boner killer’ - his words) and that took us on a journey down, ‘what should we be wearing now we’re 40?’. I think a lot of people our age are under the illusion that we’re ageing in reverse of somehow freezing time, but I have a theory.. and it’s more about what we’re wearing that anything else. I promise we’ll get back on topic for next week, but enjoy this haphazard in-care episode in the meantime. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mikhila.substack.com/subscribe [https://mikhila.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]

Couples Therapy - Let's Talk About Sex

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit mikhila.substack.com [https://mikhila.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_7] Welcome back to Desperately Seeking and to a brand new *MAYBE* series, ‘couples therapy’. The idea is to cover hot relationship topics with my husband of 14 years, answer questions you guys send in ..and will we talk about the importance of reality television as pseudo psychology and a way to open up conversation about inter-personal issues? PROBABLY! YESTERDAY, I asked instagram, ‘what question do you wish you could ask another couple?’ Almost immediately, it became apparent that the NUMBER ONE question was going to be about their sex life. Understandable! I think we’re all a little curious about what goes on behind closed doors, right? But I wasn’t sure how to organise the variety of questions in to something worth listening to. I also realised the conversation NEEDED more voices. While we can answer for us, we can’t answer for all. So, we’re going to dip our toe for episode one, see how we go, then I’ll bring in some other perspectives for a deeper dive. I also had so many questions about finances, chores and arguing and they feel like episodes within themselves. So, drop me a DM if you’re shy or leave a comment, if you aren’t. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this one and whether you’d like us to make it a series. Here are the questions we cover in this one:

Performative Sobriety

Someone just reached out to me on instagram, thanking me for sharing my own journey with sobriety and recommending a great mocktail syrup I should try. Every time someone DMs me or leaves a comment to say they’re trying it for themselves, I feel a little swell of pride - for both of us. But that pride is often followed by a pang of guilt, because if I’m praising you for something, I must be condemning those who aren’t following suit, right? read more at mikhila.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mikhila.substack.com/subscribe [https://mikhila.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]

The Rage Bait Epidemic - why is it so hard to resist?

I’m Mikhila, and I’m a rage-oholic. I didn’t recognise this trait in myself until a few years ago, because it’s not even a little but the case in my real life. I’m not an angry person, I don’t shout or argue people down. I’ll debate, don’t get me wrong.. I don’t agree with everyone, but I’m not aggressive when irritated and I have never felt the urge to punch a wall, or a person. So then, why am I so easily baited online? find more on substack at mikhila.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mikhila.substack.com/subscribe [https://mikhila.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]