SOCIAL STUDIES: Ruth Ann Moss

A Pause (and an Update on What's Next)

Hopping on with a quick update as we wrap this season. This first mini-season has been a genuine learning experience — in how to make a podcast, and in what I actually want to explore. Recording these episodes has opened up a lot of new ideas that I'll be taking the next few weeks to shape for the next "season".  When we come back, we're going deeper: how do you disagree and stay in relationship? How do you stay friends with people who see the world differently? What does it actually look like to choose — on purpose, not perfectly — to be fully human with other humans?  In the meantime, two asks: if there's a topic or challenge you want me to explore, email me at janet@thegatheringlab.com [janet@thegatheringlab.com]. And if you know someone who'd make a great guest — someone navigating this stuff well, or someone who just gives you hope about people — I'd love an introduction.  Back soon. Thank you for being here.  Learn more about Janet's work at The Gathering Lab: thegatheringlab.com For Social Studies profiles, questions, and more — find us on Substack at thegatheringlab.substack.com Want to be part of the conversation? Send us a voice memo with a question you're sitting with, something you're navigating in your social life, or a win you want to share — and yours might just show up in a future episode. Reach us at janet@thegatheringlab.com.

SOCIAL STUDIES: Carey Fountain

What does it look like to build a social life around people who actually know you — not the version you're performing? Carey Fountain has thought a lot about this. In this "Social Studies" interview, we talk to Carey, a Birmingham artist, musician, and creator of Wild Card, who went from a shy kid to someone who genuinely believes we have more in common with each other than we think. Now, he's dedicated his career and creative pursuits to exploring how we take more social risks with one another. We talk about vulnerability in male friendships, what "real" even means anymore, and why he thinks the thing making you most uncomfortable might be exactly where you're supposed to go.  On Substack: https://open.substack.com/pub/thegatheringlab/p/social-studies-carey-fountain? Learn more about Carey's work: * Vibes and Virtues [https://vibesandvirtues.com/] * Wildcard Art Experience [https://vibesandvirtues.com/pages/landing] * Follow on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/careyfountain/] Social Studies is a recurring series on The Community Optimist where we pull back the curtain on real people's social lives - the ways they gather, the people who matter to them, and what the heck they do on a Saturday night - to help us feel more hopeful about the future of how we connect.  Learn more about Janet's work at The Gathering Lab: thegatheringlab.com For Social Studies profiles, questions, and more — find us on Substack at thegatheringlab.substack.com Want to be part of the conversation? Send us a voice memo with a question you're sitting with, something you're navigating in your social life, or a win you want to share — and yours might just show up in a future episode. Reach us at janet@thegatheringlab.com.

SOCIAL STUDIES: Ruth Ann Moss

Welcome to The Community Optimist! In our first ever "Social Studies" interview, I sit down with Ruth Ann Moss — a Birmingham mom, serial host, and local leader who has built a genuinely connected life with a lot of intention through some major life changes. After divorce and new motherhood reshaped her world, Ruth Ann got creative about finding that "full table" feeling. In this conversation, we talk about how she hosts often without it taking over her life, what she learned from trying to have someone over for dinner every single week, and why she's decided to stop keeping score in friendships. Plus — why Facebook Marketplace is giving her hope right now. Get ready to feel inspired by Ruth Ann's warmth, wisdom, and intention when it comes to finding connection in today's world.  https://thegatheringlab.substack.com/p/social-studies-ruth-ann-moss [https://thegatheringlab.substack.com/p/social-studies-ruth-ann-moss] Social Studies is a recurring series on The Community Optimist where we pull back the curtain on real people's social lives - the ways they gather, the people who matter to them, and what the heck they do on a Saturday night - to help us feel more hopeful about the future of how we connect.  Want to be part of the conversation? Send us a voice memo with a question you're sitting with, something you're navigating in your social life, or a win you want to share — and yours might just show up in a future episode. Reach us at janet@thegatheringlab.com [janet@thegatheringlab.com]. For profiles, questions, and more — find us on Substack at thegatheringlab.substack.com Learn more about Janet's work at The Gathering Lab: thegatheringlab.com For Social Studies profiles, questions, and more — find us on Substack at thegatheringlab.substack.com Want to be part of the conversation? Send us a voice memo with a question you're sitting with, something you're navigating in your social life, or a win you want to share — and yours might just show up in a future episode. Reach us at janet@thegatheringlab.com.

How to Feel Better About The Awkwardness of Human Conversation

Does conversation feel harder these days? You're not making it up - and you aren't alone. We're living in a world where the baseline for 'real' conversation is quietly shifting - curated social media, texts we can rewrite, podcasts we can pause, AI that always says the right thing. Compared to all that, real humans can feel unpredictable. Effortful. Kind of awkward. Today I want to normalize what it actually feels like to talk to each other - the mess, the awkwardness, the unpredictability. And why, especially right now, that's not something to fix. Because here's what I've noticed after years of facilitating gatherings - and what a surprising University of Chicago study confirms: the awkwardness isn't getting in the way of connection. It might actually be where connection happens. Questions? Insights? Reactions? Contact Janet at janet@thegatheringlab.com Learn more about Janet's work at The Gathering Lab: thegatheringlab.com Learn more about Janet's work at The Gathering Lab: thegatheringlab.com For Social Studies profiles, questions, and more — find us on Substack at thegatheringlab.substack.com Want to be part of the conversation? Send us a voice memo with a question you're sitting with, something you're navigating in your social life, or a win you want to share — and yours might just show up in a future episode. Reach us at janet@thegatheringlab.com.

Stuck at Acquaintance-Level? The Key To Building Close Friendships in Today's World (It's Not Just Chemistry)

One of the most common frustrations we hear at The Gathering Lab - "I know plenty of acquaintances but I want closer friendships...how do I find my people?"  I get it - You've joined the clubs. You've done the coffee chats. You've taken initiative. And somehow, you're still stuck at surface level — or you're always the one reaching out. This episode is about why that happens and why it's probably not about you. We dig into the research on how long it actually takes to build a close friendship, why so many connections stall out before they get there, and what I've started calling the alignment question — the new factor in friendship-building that has nothing to do with chemistry. Plus: how to tell the difference between someone who genuinely can't meet you where you are right now versus someone who just might need a different kind of nudge.  Questions? Insights? Reactions? Contact Janet at janet@thegatheringlab.com Learn more about Janet's work at The Gathering Lab: thegatheringlab.com Learn more about Janet's work at The Gathering Lab: thegatheringlab.com For Social Studies profiles, questions, and more — find us on Substack at thegatheringlab.substack.com Want to be part of the conversation? Send us a voice memo with a question you're sitting with, something you're navigating in your social life, or a win you want to share — and yours might just show up in a future episode. Reach us at janet@thegatheringlab.com.