Alice Vincent on motherhood, listening, and the undocumented parts of women's lives
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Summary
What happens when you lose your connection to music, to sound, and to yourself? And how do you learn to listen again?
In this episode of How You Find Your Voice, host Jessie Huth speaks with writer and journalist Alice Vincent about her most recent book, Hark: How Women Listen.
After more than a decade as a music journalist, Alice found herself burnt out and unable to listen to music at all. What began as an attempt to reconnect with music became something much deeper; a search for meaning, identity, and a new way of listening to the world and to herself.
Together, they explore how motherhood, trauma and major life transitions can fundamentally change the way we hear and process the world. Alice reflects on her experience of PTSD following her son’s illness, and how sound became both a trigger and a lifeline during that time.
The conversation also looks at the idea of listening as a gendered experience, namely, how women are often taught to be good listeners, while their own voices and experiences are overlooked. They discuss the difference between patriarchal and more intuitive ways of listening, and the overlooked soundscapes of women’s lives, from baby groups to hospital wards.
They also talk about matrescence, liminal states, and the cyclical nature of women’s lives, from adolescence to motherhood to menopause and how these shifts shape identity, perception and voice.
This is a conversation about sound, silence, motherhood, trauma, and the process of learning to listen to yourself again.
Topics Covered
* Losing connection to music and identity
* Burnout and stepping away from the music industry
* Listening as a practice and a way of understanding the self
* Motherhood and matrescence
* The sensory and emotional impact of becoming a parent
* Trauma, PTSD and auditory triggers
* The role of sound in processing difficult experiences
* Writing as a way of making sense of trauma
* The pressure to “move on” after difficult experiences
* Liminal states and identity shifts
* Adolescence, motherhood and other transitional phases
* Misophonia and heightened sensitivity to sound
* Patriarchal listening vs intuitive or embodied listening
* Why women are taught to be good listeners
* The invisible soundscapes of women’s lives
* Community, connection and shared listening experiences
* Silence, quiet and the search for stillness
* Nature, environment and listening beyond the human
* Cyclical identity and women’s changing inner worlds
* Finding your voice through listening
About Alice Vincent
Alice Vincent
Alice Vincent is a writer, broadcaster and multi-platform storyteller fascinated by the often-overlooked parts of life. Her books include the bestselling Why Women Grow: Stories of Soil, Sisterhood and Survival [https://canongate.co.uk/books/3926-why-women-grow-stories-of-soil-sisterhood-and-survival/], which was shortlisted in the 2023 Books Are My Bag Readers Awards and Rootbound, Rewilding a Life [https://canongate.co.uk/books/2902-rootbound-rewilding-a-life/]. Both were longlisted for the Wainwright Prize. You can learn more about her latest book, Hark: How Women Listen here [https://canongate.co.uk/books/5064-hark-how-women-listen/].
A career journalist, she was a writer and editor on the arts desk of The Telegraph before joining Penguin as an editor. Now a columnist for The Guardian [https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2023/feb/17/meet-our-new-gardening-columnists?CMP=twt_a-environment_b-gdneco] and Gardens Illustrated, [https://www.gardensillustrated.com/author/alicevincent/] Alice has offered readers her fresh approach to nature, gardening and life in the city as a columnist for The Telegraph and The New Statesman. She writes for titles including Vogue, The Financial Times, The Sunday Times and The Observer.
Beyond the page, Alice is the host of the Why Women Grow podcast [https://anchor.fm/alice-vincent4/] – which topped the British podcast charts during its first week and unearths stories of the land with inspiring women – and In Haste [https://inhaste.substack.com], a fresh new books podcast and platform dedicated to exploring how books really get written.
Her weekly newsletter Savour [https://www.alicevincent.co.uk/savour] offers thousands of readers a moment to pause and appreciate the delicious things in life.
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Keywords
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