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0120 - She Told You She's a Narcissist...

She sat down and told you she was a narcissist.You thought she was finally being honest with you.She wasn't being vulnerable. She was making a contract.This episode breaks down one of the most common traps men walk into in difficult marriages and relationships. When a woman with strong narcissistic tendencies tells you about her issues, her past trauma, or her diagnosis, she is not giving you information to make the relationship better. She is giving you a covert contract. She is telling you what she expects you to fix in yourself in order to manage her behavior.She will not go to therapy. She may buy the books. She will never see herself in them. She will see you.Dev also gets into the moment that changed his own perspective — the online comment that called him out for saying "she she she she" over and over again while asking other men how to handle his wife. The answer was simple and brutal. Stop talking about her. Start being a man.The ultimate repellent for a female narcissist is not a strategy or a technique. It is a man who has boundaries, knows what he will and will not accept, and genuinely does not care if she calls him a narcissist for having them.That is what this episode is about.Have you experienced the covert contract? Drop your story in the comments below.Iron Father is for fathers, divorced men, and men navigating the hardest chapters of their lives. Real talk. No filter.🔔 Subscribe so you don't miss what's coming next.👊 Join The Garage (Patreon) for the after-hours: https://www.patreon.com/c/IronFather➡️ Work with me / Iron Father coaching: https://calendly.com/joinironfather/30minSubscribe: New Iron Father Substack: https://substack.com/@ironfather utm_campaign=profile&utm_medium=profile-page➡️ Join the community: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580017888065

0119 - Nobody Called Him a Father for 3 Days | First Time Father Story

Joshua is 21 years old. His daughter was four months old when we filmed this.He was in that hospital for three days. He was there for every moment, every feeding, every 1AM check. And in those three days not one nurse, not one doctor, not one person on that staff called him a father. They called him a support person. They pointed at him when they needed to reference him. They worked around him.Until one nurse on the third night walked in at 1AM, looked at the whiteboard across the room, found his name, and called him Joshua. Then called him dad. He thanked her before she left. She asked what they usually called him. He told her. She did not know.He did not make a scene. He did not complain. He just noticed. And he made sure she knew it mattered.That story is in this video. So is what Joshua said surprised him most about becoming a father, the moment he did not expect to feel, driving to work one week after his daughter was born, already missing her, already wondering how a man is supposed to split himself between providing and being present at the same time.Joshua is the youngest voice on Iron Father. This is part of the full Iron Father Sons Episode. Watch the complete conversation at the link below.If you were overlooked in that hospital room, drop it in the comments. You are not alone and it happens more than anyone talks about.Like, subscribe, and share this with a new dad who needs to hear it.

0118 - Men Over 50: The Years You Have Left Are Worth More Than the Years You Lost

Full video on Youtube at: https://youtu.be/fC0DenNb580 You have stayed longer than you should have.Not because things are good. Because you are waiting for a return on everything you put in.That return is not coming. This episode introduces a concept of the Stagnant Trap: the specific psychological pattern that keeps men locked inside marriages that functionally ended years ago. It is not hope that keeps them there. It is the sunk cost. The years invested. The sacrifices made. The belief that if they just hold on a little longer, the position will turn around.The years you have left are not a consolation prize. They are the asset. Protect them.If you have been sitting in the stagnant trap, drop your story in the comments. How long did you wait? What finally moved you?Iron Father is for fathers, divorced men, and men navigating the hardest chapters of their lives. Real talk. No filter.🔔 Subscribe so you don't miss what's coming next.👊 Join The Garage (Patreon) for the after-hours: https://www.patreon.com/c/IronFather➡️ Work with me / Iron Father coaching: https://calendly.com/joinironfather/30minSubscribe: New Iron Father Substack: https://substack.com/@ironfather?utm_campaign=profile&utm_medium=profile-page➡️ Join the community: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580017888065

0117 - Are You "A King", Are 50 Bodies Too Many? 13 Dating Group Discussions Breakdown

The Iron Father Roundtable goes through real comments and questions from dating apps and social media groups and breaks down what they actually signal about the men and woman posting them. Not here to bash women. To give men over 50 who are back in the game a clearer set of eyes.We break down all 13 posts in this episode. Drop the question number in the comments so we know which one hit home.Q1 — "I want a boyfriend but a boyfriend don't want me. I'm so over being single." Q2 — "Fellas, would you marry a woman with over 50 bodies?" Q3 — "Where are the women that don't have an Americanized, money-hungry mindset and actually want a meaningful connection?" Q4 — Short girls 5'2 to 5'5 saying they need a man 6 feet and up making at least $85K a year, while they're not even making $70K. We have to be more realistic.Q5 — "I'm starting to think my king doesn't even exist anymore." Q6 — "When looking at a dating app profile, what do you see outside of looks that tells you we are likely not going to be a good match?" Q7 — "You ever feel like you'll be alone forever? Waking up, going to sleep, coming home to nobody every day is boring as hell." Q8 — "Unless you're making at least $150K, you have no business diminishing your partner's contribution just because she's a woman. Who exactly are you providing for on that income?" Q9 — "Ladies, would you marry a man with over 100 bodies?" Q10 — "How do you feel about going over 24 hours without speaking or checking in with your partner?" Q11 — "No real men exist anymore." Q12 — "I love me a middle-aged white man."Q13 — "Craving intimacy and affection." This one is for the man who just got back out there and doesn't want to make the same mistakes twice.What red flag have you seen on a dating app that told you everything you needed to know? Drop it below.👊 Join The Garage (Patreon) for the after-hours: https://www.patreon.com/c/IronFather➡️ Work with me / Iron Father coaching: https://calendly.com/joinironfather/30minSubscribe: New Iron Father Substack: https://substack.com/@ironfather?utm_campaign=profile&utm_medium=profile-page➡️ Join the community: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580017888065

0116 - 7 Areas Where Men Over 50 Hand Their Power Away Without Realizing It

You've been patient. You've held it together. You've kept the door open and waited for things to change for decade of your life.Your mother didn't tell you, and you father likely didn't either: that's not strength. That's a trap.In 1973, author Harry Browne identified the exact reason people, and for our purposes, men, stay stuck. He called it Indirect Action. And if you're over 50, waiting on an ex, an estranged kid, a job, or an apology that never comes, this video is about you.In this video:What Direct and Indirect Action actually mean and why the difference changes everythingThe 7 areas where men over 50 hand their power away without realizing itWhat to do this week to start moving from waiting to actingThis isn't motivation content. It's a framework. One that Browne figured out decades ago and we can still apply it today.Iron Father is a channel for men in midlife, divorced dads, estranged fathers, and men who want to get it right before it's too late.Subscribe and join the conversation.You can buy his book HERE: https://amzn.to/4uCH9g8👊 Join The Garage (Patreon) for the after-hours: https://www.patreon.com/c/IronFather➡️ Work with me / Iron Father coaching: https://calendly.com/joinironfather/30minSubscribe: New Iron Father Substack: https://substack.com/@ironfather?utm_campaign=profile&utm_medium=profile-page➡️ Join the community: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580017888065Check out the podcast: Iron Father YouTube channel: https://youtu.be/nrjKHEYK9yY