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I Thought I Was the Problem… Until I Learned This Was Abuse | Just a Farm Wife Podcast

In this deeply honest episode of Just a Farm Wife, Tara sits down with narcissistic abuse coach Kyle Miller for a conversation about emotional abuse, gaslighting, trauma, people pleasing, and what happens when you spend your entire life carrying everyone else. Kyle shares how he spent 14 years in an abusive relationship believing he was the problem — believing he lacked empathy, caused the conflict, and simply needed to “do better.” Together, Tara and Kyle unpack why victims of narcissistic abuse often feel crazy, why so many empathetic people end up in toxic relationships, and how childhood trauma can shape the relationships we accept as adults. This episode goes far beyond relationships. It’s about: ✨ losing yourself trying to keep the peace ✨ burnout from overgiving ✨ why healthy love can feel uncomfortable ✨ boundaries, self-worth & nervous system healing ✨ learning to trust yourself again If you’ve ever felt like: * you’re carrying everything alone * no one sees how exhausted you are * you keep attracting emotionally unhealthy people * calm feels unsafe * you’re always blamed for everything …this conversation will hit home. 00:00 Podcast Intro 00:40 Meet Kyle Miller 02:15 Why Most Victims Think They’re the Problem 06:50 What Narcissistic Abuse Actually Feels Like 12:45 Gaslighting & Emotional Manipulation 18:30 Childhood Trauma & Toxic Relationship Patterns 25:40 Why Empathetic People Get Targeted 31:20 The Cycle of Overgiving & Burnout 38:15 Why Healthy Relationships Feel Unsafe 44:30 Boundaries, Healing & Self-Worth 51:10 Healing Isn’t Linear 56:20 Finding Safe Support & Help 59:30 Final Thoughts 💛 Healing starts when you stop abandoning yourself to keep everyone else comfortable. Follow along, explore resources, and connect with Kyle Miller: Website: https://kylemillercoaching.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kylemillercoach Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kylemillercoaching/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kylemillercoaching YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Kylemillercoaching Connect with Tara: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tara_emerson_/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/taraemersonjustafarmwife Website: https://www.tara-emerson.com/ 🎧 Listen to Just a Farm Wife on your favorite podcast platform: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/ Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/ iHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/

Unsubscribe to Reclaim Your Time, Energy, and Voice: Letting Go of “Just” with Ginny Priem

In this episode of Just a Farm Wife, Tara sits down with bestselling author and speaker Ginny Priem to explore her powerful new concept, Unsubscribe, and how letting go of what drains you can be the key to moving forward. Ginny shares the story behind her book Unsubscribe: Why Letting Go Is the Secret to Getting Ahead and the four simple pillars—Manage, Swap, Mute, and Block—that help women reclaim their time, energy, and boundaries both at home and at work. They discuss how many women, especially farm wives and rural moms, minimize themselves with phrases like “just,” while quietly carrying the weight of families, farms, businesses, and communities. Ginny explains how small, practical shifts can help women stop overextending themselves and start living with intention instead of burnout. This conversation offers insight for anyone who has felt stretched thin trying to be everything for everyone, emphasizing that every story, every bit of energy, and every moment of time matters. Listeners are encouraged to grab a copy of Ginny’s book, explore the resources and swag on the Unsubscribe Official website, and follow her work on YouTube, Instagram, LinkedIn, and Facebook. Ginny’s podcast, Unsubscribe, provides further guidance for applying these tools in daily life.   Follow along, explore resources, and connect with Ginny: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Ginnypriem Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ginnypriem/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ginnypriem Website: https://ginnypriem.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ginny-priem-8a87248/ - Connect with Tara: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tara_emerson_/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/taraemersonjustafarmwife Website: https://www.tara-emerson.com/   Listen to Just a Farm Wife on your favorite podcast platform: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/just-a-farm-wife/id1762343036 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0RxcISIWFmnmU6plJ5z6wQ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TaraEmersonJustaFarmWife Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/e092467c-e143-4288-bbdb-e0cec82a0e7b/just-a-farm-wife iHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1323-just-a-farm-wife-204760872/

No New Normal: How Hyperbaric Oxygen Therapy Helped Heal Concussions and Restore Life with Dr. Daphne Denham

In this episode of Just a Farm Wife, Tara sits down with Dr. Daphne Denham to share the powerful story of how hyperbaric oxygen therapy helped her own children recover from serious concussions. After months of uncertainty, misdiagnoses, and watching her daughter struggle with severe symptoms, Tara found hope through the work being done at Healing with Hyperbarics of North Dakota. Dr. Denham explains how hyperbaric oxygen treatments can support brain healing, why early treatment matters, and how objective testing tools like neuro-optic tracking and BrainScope technology are changing the way concussions are diagnosed and treated. Together they discuss the reality many families face when kids get hurt in sports, the signs parents and coaches should watch for, and why Dr. Denham’s motto, “no new normal,” is giving hope to families who thought their children’s lives might never be the same. Whether you're a parent, coach, or someone connected to youth athletics, this conversation offers insight into concussion recovery, the science behind hyperbaric therapy, and why more families are turning to Healing with Hyperbarics of North Dakota for answers and healing.  Follow along, reach out with questions, and learn more about their treatment approach here: Facebook: Healing With Hyperbarics of North Dakota, PLLC Instagram: @healingwithhyperbarics Website: North Dakota - healingwithhyperbarics.com | Illinois - healingwithhyperbaricsofillinois.com

Finding Balance on the Farm: Empowerment, Wellness, and Community with Dr. Kristen Strom

In this episode of Just a Farm Wife, Tara Emerson delves into a transformative discussion with Dr. Kristen Strom, an advocate for women in agriculture seeking to live with purpose and balance. From her journey as an educator to a transformational coach, Kristen shares compelling insights on prioritizing wellness, combating isolation, and building supportive communities. They explore the invisible challenges farm wives face and emphasize the importance of self-care and community connection. Tune in for motivating strategies that can help you become more present, and lead a life of intention, joy, and sustainability in the farming world. A must-listen for anyone navigating the multifaceted world of agriculture, especially women seeking empowerment and growth in their personal and professional lives. Dr. Kristen Strom's website: drkristenstrom.com

Bridging the Gap in the H-2A Program: Communication, Culture, and Accountability with Jacques Faith van Tonder

In this episode of Just a Farm Wife, Tara sits down with Jacques Faith van Tonder to have an honest, eye-opening conversation about the realities of the H-2A program from both the farmer and worker perspective. Jacques shares what really happens when expectations, communication, and cultural understanding are missing, and how clear boundaries and mutual respect can make or break a season. Together, they dig into job hopping, employer investment, personal responsibility, and the importance of finishing contracts with integrity. Jacques also shares resources like his platform H2ABuddy and his educational content on social media, created to protect workers from scams and help farmers make better hiring decisions. This episode is a must-listen for farm families, H-2A employers, and workers who want to do their due diligence and build something sustainable on both sides of agriculture. Resources mentioned: Jacques Faith website: jacquesfaith.com H-2A platform: h2abuddy.com TikTok: @jacquesfaithvanto Instagram: @jfvant