56. When Family Conflict Affects Your Kids | Emotional Regulation with Matthew Murphy

56. When Family Conflict Affects Your Kids | Emotional Regulation with Matthew Murphy

Divorce, child custody disputes, and high-conflict family transitions can create emotional pressure that affects every person in the household… especially children. In this episode of Legal Lounge, Theresa sits down with therapist Matthew Murphy to talk about what children may be absorbing during family conflict, why emotional regulation matters for both parents and kids, and how therapy can support families navigating difficult legal and relational changes. Matthew Murphy, MS, LCMHC, LCASA, NCC, is an experienced counselor with Egan Counseling & Consulting who works with children, teens, adults, and parents navigating family changes, trauma, anxiety, depression, substance use concerns, behavioral challenges, and difficulty regulating emotions. He uses a person-centered and holistic approach to every client. He has experience supporting families through challenging dynamics, separation and divorce, emotional regulation, reunification, and long-term mental health goals. Connect with Matthew: * Website [https://www.egancounselingandconsulting.com/matthew-murphy] * IG [https://www.instagram.com/mjmurphtherapy/] * matthew.murphy@egancounseling.com [matthew.murphy@egancounseling.com] From prenuptial agreements to divorce, Modern Legal is here to protect your family at all stages of life. With new offices now open in Waxhaw, Gastonia, and Statesville, you can schedule a consultation [http://www.modernlegalnc.com] with our team today at the location most convenient for you. Resources mentioned: * Good Inside by Becky Kennedy [https://www.amazon.com/Good-Inside-Guide-Becoming-Parent/dp/0063159481] 3 Ways Parents Can Better Support Their Children Through Divorce and Family Conflict: * Regulate yourself before responding to your child. Children often absorb the emotional stress of the adults around them, especially during divorce or conflict. When parents pause, calm their own nervous system, and respond instead of react, they create a safer emotional environment for their child. * Give your child space to feel big emotions without making the moment bigger. A child’s anger, silence, or acting out may be a sign that they are overwhelmed, not simply being disrespectful. Parents can help by staying steady, reconnecting first, and addressing consequences later when everyone is calmer. * Keep adult conflict away from your child whenever possible. Speaking negatively about a co-parent in front of a child can create loyalty conflicts and make the child feel like a part of them is being criticized too. Children need developmentally appropriate information, not the emotional burden of adult legal disputes. The Legal Lounge podcast aims to dispel misinformation and downright bad legal information to empower anyone with questions about their family, their children, their finances, their marriage, and the law. As a team focused exclusively on family law matters, we aim to help you not only with the information you need, but also with the hope that your situation has a solution.  Modern Legal is a family law firm based in Charlotte, North Carolina. Our Modern Legal team can help you navigate the legal system when the law and your family collide. We help turn confusion into confidence, helplessness into empowerment, and frustration into action.  Connect with Modern Legal: * Website [http://www.modernlegalnc.com] * Phone: 704-286-6302 * Instagram [http://instagram.com/modernlegalnc/] * LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/company/modern-legal/] * YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@ModernLegal] * Facebook  [https://www.facebook.com/ModernLegalNC] LEGAL DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only and the information should not be relied upon as legal advice or for legal purposes.

55. Real Estate & Business vs. Family Law | Protecting What You’ve Built with Claudia Soto

Legal decisions around marriage, business ownership, real estate, immigration, and estate planning often intersect in ways people do not expect. In this episode of Legal Lounge, host Theresa sits down with Attorney Claudia Soto, owner of Soto Law, to discuss proactive legal planning, bilingual legal services, and the value of trusted professional referrals. Their conversation explores how deeds, business agreements, premarital agreements, child support, and ownership documents can shape what happens when families or businesses face change. Claudia Soto is the Owner and Managing Attorney of Soto Law, a North Carolina law firm with offices in Charlotte and Raleigh. Soto Law serves clients in real estate, estate planning, business law, and immigration, with a strong focus on Spanish-speaking clients and Latino business owners. Connect with Claudia: * Website [https://www.sotolawnc.com/] * 704-427-0602  Need legal help in your family law matter? Schedule a consultation [http://www.modernlegalnc.com] with our team to make sure you and your future spouse are both legally protected should a divorce occur.  Resources mentioned: * Charlotte Latin American Chamber of Commerce [https://lacccharlotte.com/] Some key takeaways from this episode are: * Legal planning works best before conflict begins. Premarital agreements, buy-sell agreements, operating agreements, deeds, and estate planning documents can help prevent confusion when relationships, businesses, or property arrangements change. Planning early gives people more control over the outcome and reduces the chance that a court, closing attorney, or crisis will force decisions later. * Family law often connects with business, real estate, immigration, and estate planning. A divorce can affect a jointly owned business. A deed can create family law complications. A business owner may also need immigration, tax, or estate planning support. The right attorney can identify the legal issues in front of you and connect you with trusted professionals for the pieces outside their practice area. * Legal education helps people make better decisions. Clients may not always know which legal question to ask, but a consultation can clarify what the law actually requires, what documents may be needed, and which choices could create problems later. Knowing your rights and responsibilities earlier can save time, money, and stress. The Legal Lounge podcast aims to dispel misinformation and downright bad legal information to empower anyone with questions about their family, their children, their finances, their marriage, and the law. As a team focused exclusively on family law matters, we aim to help you not only with the information you need, but also with the hope that your situation has a solution.  Modern Legal is a family law firm based in Charlotte, North Carolina. Our Modern Legal team can help you navigate the legal system when the law and your family collide. We help turn confusion into confidence, helplessness into empowerment, and frustration into action.  Connect with Modern Legal: * Website [http://www.modernlegalnc.com] * Phone: 704-286-6302 * Instagram [http://instagram.com/modernlegalnc/] * LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/company/modern-legal/] * YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@ModernLegal] * Facebook  [https://www.facebook.com/ModernLegalNC] LEGAL DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only and the information should not be relied upon as legal advice or for legal purposes.

54. Family Law 101: Understanding Separation and Divorce with Attorney & Social Worker Tiffany A. Byrd

Divorce often begins long before the court signs the divorce judgment. In North Carolina, separation starts the process of ‘un-coupling’ homes, finances, parenting schedules, property, and expectations for the future. In this episode of Legal Lounge, Theresa sits down with Modern Legal Attorney and Social Worker Tiffany Byrd for a practical conversation about what happens when spouses separate, how family law claims are handled, and why early decisions can shape the rest of the case. From prenuptial agreements to divorce, Modern Legal is here to protect your family at all stages of life. With new offices now open in Waxhaw, Gastonia, and Statesville, you can schedule a consultation [http://www.modernlegalnc.com] with our team today at the location most convenient for you. Some key takeaways from this episode include: * Separation and divorce are different legal stages. In North Carolina, spouses generally must live separate and apart for one year before filing for divorce. That separation period gives families time to address parenting schedules, household expenses, property, debt, and the practical realities of creating two homes. * Children need stability before they need legal details. Parents can help reduce fear by giving children age-appropriate reassurance, explaining what will change in their daily routine, and reminding them that both parents still love them. Children do not need to carry adult conflict or understand every legal issue behind the separation. * Strategic decisions can protect your money, time, and peace. Arguments over low-value property, emotionally driven fault claims, or unresolved resentment can make the process more expensive. Negotiation and mediation often give families more privacy, flexibility, and control than litigation. The Legal Lounge podcast aims to dispel misinformation and downright bad legal information to empower anyone with questions about their family, their children, their finances, their marriage, and the law. As a team focused exclusively on family law matters, we aim to help you not only with the information you need, but also with the hope that your situation has a solution.  Modern Legal is a family law firm based in Charlotte, North Carolina. Our Modern Legal team can help you navigate the legal system when the law and your family collide. We help turn confusion into confidence, helplessness into empowerment, and frustration into action.  Connect with Modern Legal: * Website [http://www.modernlegalnc.com] * Phone: 704-286-6302 * Instagram [http://instagram.com/modernlegalnc/] * LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/company/modern-legal/] * YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@ModernLegal] * Facebook  [https://www.facebook.com/ModernLegalNC] LEGAL DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only and the information should not be relied upon as legal advice or for legal purposes.

53. Co-Parenting After Divorce | How Emotional Intelligence and Self-Care Help Protect Your Kids with Cherie Morris

Co-parenting after divorce can feel like an emotional, logistical, and legal reset all at once. In this episode, Theresa sits down with Cherie Morris to talk about what it really takes to move from conflict-driven parenting to child-centered cooperation, even when the other parent is difficult, resistant, or unwilling to fully engage. Together, they discuss why minimizing conflict matters more than “being right,” how emotional intelligence shapes a child’s ability to cope, and why self-care is not optional for parents trying to make thoughtful decisions under stress. Cherie Morris, J.D., is a Certified Divorce Coach and Parent Coordinator who is trained as a lawyer, yoga teacher, author, and mother. Through Dear Divorce Coach, Cherie helps individuals, couples, and co-parents navigate divorce, communication challenges, and post-divorce family dynamics with clarity, empathy, and practical tools. Connect with Cherie: * Website [https://deardivorcecoach.com/] * LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/morrischerie/] * IG [https://www.instagram.com/deardivorcecoach/] Need legal help in your family law matter? Schedule a consultation [http://www.modernlegalnc.com] with our team to make sure you and your future spouse are both legally protected should a divorce occur.  3 takeaways that can help parents build healthier co-parenting habits after divorce are: * Shift from a focus on being ‘right’ to child-centered cooperation. Co-parenting works best when parents accept that two homes may operate differently and keep the child’s well-being at the center of each decision. * Validate your child’s emotions before trying to fix the problem. Children may come home upset, confused, or frustrated by something that happened with the other parent. Instead of immediately correcting, defending, or solving, parents can help by naming and validating the child’s feelings so the child learns emotional awareness and feels safe sharing honestly. * Treat self-care as a parenting tool, not a personal luxury. Parents who are overwhelmed, anxious, or constantly activated are more likely to react instead of respond. Simple practices like breathing, grounding, walking, music, or taking a brief reset can help a parent regulate their own emotions before engaging with their child or co-parent. The Legal Lounge podcast aims to dispel misinformation and downright bad legal information to empower anyone with questions about their family, their children, their finances, their marriage, and the law. As a team focused exclusively on family law matters, we aim to help you not only with the information you need, but also with the hope that your situation has a solution.  Modern Legal is a family law firm based in Charlotte, North Carolina. Our Modern Legal team can help you navigate the legal system when the law and your family collide. We help turn confusion into confidence, helplessness into empowerment, and frustration into action.  Connect with Modern Legal: * Website [http://www.modernlegalnc.com] * Phone: 704-286-6302 * Instagram [http://instagram.com/modernlegalnc/] * LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/company/modern-legal/] * YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@ModernLegal] * Facebook  [https://www.facebook.com/ModernLegalNC] LEGAL DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only and the information should not be relied upon as legal advice or for legal purposes.

52. Finding Strength After Abuse and Learning the Power of Forgiveness with Tasha Tanks, TEDx Speaker and Founder of No Longer Silent

Healing from abuse is rarely quick or simple, and for many survivors the journey involves years of reflection, self-discovery, and difficult emotional work. In this episode, Theresa sits down with speaker, advocate, and nonprofit founder Tasha Tanks to discuss how personal healing can emerge from confronting painful family history and choosing forgiveness. Tasha shares the story behind her nonprofit: No Longer Silent, her work educating middle and high school students about the warning signs of dating abuse, and how breaking cycles of silence can help others find their voice. She reflects on recognizing patterns from her father's abuse, in her own marriage choices, and in her 33-year journey to awareness and healing. Together, Theresa and Tasha explore how trauma shapes relationships, why healing is often nonlinear, and how honest conversations can empower survivors to move forward with strength rather than shame. Tasha Tanks is a speaker, advocate, and founder of No Longer Silent, a nonprofit dedicated to raising awareness about abuse and helping survivors break cycles of silence. Connect with Tasha: * Support Group [https://www.skool.com/the-onion-effect-inner-circle-7784/about?ref=adbaa3b0bb4f4441b76367d243d54d92] * IG [https://www.instagram.com/tasha_tanks] * LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tashatanks/] * YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@nlsilent] * TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@nlsilent?_t=ZP-8yeufVY5SHv&_r=1] From prenuptial agreements to divorce, Modern Legal is here to protect your family at all stages of life. With new offices now open in Waxhaw, Gastonia, and Statesville, you can schedule a consultation [http://www.modernlegalnc.com] with our team today at the location most convenient for you. Resources mentioned: * Tasha’s TEDx Talk [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yO_ZuVls1iY] 3 takeaways that can help survivors begin healing after abuse are: * Recognize patterns that may come from earlier trauma. Many survivors discover that past family dynamics influence the relationships they later choose. Identifying those patterns can be the first step toward breaking the cycle. * Understand the difference between pain and ongoing suffering. Pain is often unavoidable after trauma, but choosing to confront the experience, seek support, and process it honestly can prevent years of continued emotional suffering. * Build safe spaces for survivors to speak openly. Listening without judgment, offering support, and protecting someone’s confidence can help survivors find their voice and begin moving toward recovery. The Legal Lounge podcast aims to dispel misinformation and downright bad legal information to empower anyone with questions about their family, their children, their finances, their marriage, and the law. As a team focused exclusively on family law matters, we aim to help you not only with the information you need, but also with the hope that your situation has a solution.  Modern Legal is a family law firm based in Charlotte, North Carolina. Our Modern Legal team can help you navigate the legal system when the law and your family collide. We help turn confusion into confidence, helplessness into empowerment, and frustration into action.  Connect with Modern Legal: * Website [http://www.modernlegalnc.com] * Phone: 704-286-6302 * Instagram [http://instagram.com/modernlegalnc/] * LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/company/modern-legal/] * YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@ModernLegal] * Facebook  [https://www.facebook.com/ModernLegalNC] LEGAL DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only and the information should not be relied upon as legal advice or for legal purposes.