19-I was wrong about love — and it finally set me free

Snacks, bubble tea, and story time: poker hustles, unapologetic living, and my Kingston party years

I do a laid-back, one-hour hangout with snacks (strawberries, cheese, meat sticks) and my favourite coconut milk bubble tea, sharing stories from different eras of my life. I talk about my competitive Texas Hold’em phase in Kingston during the NHL strike era: playing scheduled bar poker nights, dating the poker director, winning a seat that took me to a huge Toronto tournament, and why I disliked casino poker. I share how I leaned into mind games (eye contact, table talk), wore custom poker shirts, and tell a true “hustle” story where a group of guys underestimated me as the only woman—then I won two games and wasn’t invited back. I reflect on living unapologetically, including a moment at Starbucks with my boss where I loaded my coffee with sugar/cream because it’s what I actually enjoy. I mention Kim Cattrall’s quote about not spending another hour doing what you don’t want to do, how I apply that (including rescheduling plans), and briefly touch on aging/body upkeep at 42. I talk about comfort shows that shaped me—especially Sex and the City—and how it feels to rewatch now that I’m older than the characters were. I also rewatch Seinfeld and Friends repeatedly, and I name specific episodes I skip because they stress me out or feel too heartbreaking. More stories: my soccer years as a defender, becoming a teen ref and yellow-carding a swearing parent, and being the narrator in a school production of Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat despite hating karaoke now. I share my Kingston twenties: using school as a way to party (and ending up with student debt), roommate struggles, getting a cheap downtown apartment overlooking the clubs, and the rough transition to full-time work where I couldn’t party on weeknights anymore. I describe watching nightlife from my window, jealousy around an ex, and living above a place that became a nightclub with bass through the floor. Finally, I update what I’m doing now (Feb 16, 2026): five years in sex-positive/swinger lifestyle content, now happily in a couple, a recent public speaking gig (and what I forgot to promote), and building digital courses (starting with swinger lifestyle assimilation). I invite viewers to like/comment, sign up for email alerts for livestreams (no spam). *description written with the help of AI* ***** Sign up for email alerts when I go live on YouTube: ⁠https://torontounicorn.kit.com/youtubelivestreamalerts⁠ [https://torontounicorn.kit.com/youtubelivestreamalerts?_gl=1*vgpv1k*_gcl_au*Njk0NjI0ODE3LjE3NjMzMTE4ODEuOTY4MjUzMzkuMTc2OTU1ODQ4OC4xNzY5NTU4NDg4] All my social media links: ⁠https://linktr.ee/TorontoUnicorn⁠ [https://linktr.ee/TorontoUnicorn] *** Content mentioned in this live stream: 1. When I hustled a all-men poker game: https://youtu.be/A0H8oRFf8p0 [https://youtu.be/A0H8oRFf8p0] 2. My personal reflections on life in the 1990s - through Beverly Hills 90210: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2lgaXKTMdE9NLNKAKM3Lpe?si=5b79977d158c4c00 [https://open.spotify.com/episode/2lgaXKTMdE9NLNKAKM3Lpe?si=5b79977d158c4c00] 3. Diary about feeling embarrassed after my first official public speaking gig at a swinger convention: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6eYaD84nu3op1MwyokKXkR?si=f62c8ff4707849db [https://open.spotify.com/episode/6eYaD84nu3op1MwyokKXkR?si=f62c8ff4707849db] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices [https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices]

Live hangout: colouring + personal stories (replay)

In this episode, I try out a new hangout format where you can just relax in the background while I chat and color a picture from my 'Big Adventures of a Tiny D' book. I share some funny and personal stories, including my skiing misadventures during a school trip and my challenges with winter activities in Toronto. We'll also discuss my love for adult coloring books, jigsaw puzzles, and a bit about my journey as a content creator. Additionally, I talk about my upcoming events, podcasts, and how you can sign up for email alerts [%E2%81%A0https://torontounicorn.kit.com/youtubelivestreamalerts] to join me on future live streams. Join me for an hour of casual conversation, relaxing activities, and connection! 00:00 Introduction and New Format 00:47 Coloring Book Selection 02:18 Skiing Story 04:34 Snowstorm in Toronto 11:32 Live Stream and Channel Updates 18:02 Emotional Growth and Micro Moments 21:56 Coloring Techniques and Personal Insights 22:37 Dear Diary and Content Creation 31:16 Coloring a Naughty Snowboarding Picture 31:52 Memories of Winter Activities 33:58 Debating Cloud Colors 38:19 Hotel Takeover Story 46:56 Breakup Podcast and Life Hacks 51:12 Content Creation Challenges 56:02 Swinger Lifestyle and Travel Plans 59:29 Final Thoughts and Farewell *description written with the help of AI* ***** Sign up for email alerts when I go live on YouTube: https://torontounicorn.kit.com/youtubelivestreamalerts [https://torontounicorn.kit.com/youtubelivestreamalerts?_gl=1*vgpv1k*_gcl_au*Njk0NjI0ODE3LjE3NjMzMTE4ODEuOTY4MjUzMzkuMTc2OTU1ODQ4OC4xNzY5NTU4NDg4] All my social media links: https://linktr.ee/TorontoUnicorn [https://linktr.ee/TorontoUnicorn] *** Content mentioned in this live stream: 1. Is it a good reason or the real reason video: https://youtu.be/lnFCrDFfrxk?si=SF9H5SbW3BqywhcU [https://youtu.be/lnFCrDFfrxk?si=SF9H5SbW3BqywhcU] 2. I was wrong about love video: https://youtu.be/rFgzUN97mTs?si=v7jHFrKPhX9f3rTI [https://youtu.be/rFgzUN97mTs?si=v7jHFrKPhX9f3rTI] 3. Micro moments of choice video: https://youtu.be/kAQ1VfJCSXc?si=Nr4YIQOSAscP6Dlu [https://youtu.be/kAQ1VfJCSXc?si=Nr4YIQOSAscP6Dlu] 4. How to stop people pleasing video: https://youtu.be/zw5XUUle_70?si=rmAXHYarbFxuiNZs [https://youtu.be/zw5XUUle_70?si=rmAXHYarbFxuiNZs] 5. How to say no and mean it video: https://youtu.be/aSOntDVdcmg?si=oDIOf40TzyPs_WcF [https://youtu.be/aSOntDVdcmg?si=oDIOf40TzyPs_WcF] 6. How to get people to shut the fuck up: https://youtu.be/5jk6tWS88Pw?si=dMYXFaawiOjYt4gX [https://youtu.be/5jk6tWS88Pw?si=dMYXFaawiOjYt4gX] 7. Diary episode about sending 200 emails: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2qUUi9yvWB9BC4F6LdeabJ?si=046bebcd98544f40 [https://open.spotify.com/episode/2qUUi9yvWB9BC4F6LdeabJ?si=046bebcd98544f40%20] 8. Life Hack Your Break Up Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0Efi3jjYEWB91prcbvZy4g?si=e2503df6f4e045b7 [https://open.spotify.com/episode/0Efi3jjYEWB91prcbvZy4g?si=e2503df6f4e045b7] 9. My OnlyFans explicit fan page: https://onlyfans.com/torontounicorn [https://onlyfans.com/torontounicorn] 10. My Patreon non-explicit fan page: https://www.patreon.com/c/TorontoUnicorn [https://www.patreon.com/c/TorontoUnicorn] 11. My Punta Cana romantic vacation vlog: https://youtu.be/e_OybdORGn8?si=NyGBoqyRKR9ACp3D [https://youtu.be/e_OybdORGn8?si=NyGBoqyRKR9ACp3D] 12. My main TorontoUnicorn YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/ ⁨@TorontoUnicorn⁩  [https://www.youtube.com/%E2%81%A0%C2%A0%E2%81%A8@TorontoUnicorn%E2%81%A9%C2%A0%E2%81%A0%20] 13. Sex and Swinging with TorontoUnicorn podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1HtwkI0ny9fSCaCWzZyMOf?si=c1c961d49699432e [https://open.spotify.com/show/1HtwkI0ny9fSCaCWzZyMOf?si=c1c961d49699432e] 14. My Real Sex Club and Swinger Lifestyle podcast (Video on Spotify): https://open.spotify.com/show/0A3PrQpzCKUcAjNvwNIzKp?si=1fac5313f6244b18 [https://open.spotify.com/show/0A3PrQpzCKUcAjNvwNIzKp?si=1fac5313f6244b18] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices [https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices]

19-I was wrong about love — and it finally set me free

In this casual and heartfelt video, I, TorontoUnicorn, share one of the most important lessons I've learned in life, especially on my quest for love. I talk about my long-term single life, my early relationship with Brian, and how I believed he was my soulmate. I discuss the emotional aftermath of our breakup and how it took me many years and therapists to move on. Through my now healthy and happy relationship, I came to a profound realization that even strong feelings can sometimes be wrong. This epiphany has helped me understand that it's okay to be wrong, whether it's about a relationship or life choices. I also mention my podcast, 'Life Hack Your Breakup,' where I share tips to help others cope with the pain of breakups. Tune in for an encouraging message about embracing life's uncertainties and being kind to oneself. 00:00 Introduction and Personal Background 00:42 First Love and Heartbreak 01:23 Struggles with Moving On 04:28 Realization and New Relationship 07:38 Reconnecting with the Past 10:21 Lessons Learned and Final Thoughts 13:12 Podcast Promotion and Conclusion **description written with the help of AI** Content mentioned in this episode: 1. Life Hack Your Break Up Podcast: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2xPq2GyClcw0k5Ol176H5B?si=fa0a7bfe3b794b3b⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/show/2xPq2GyClcw0k5Ol176H5B?si=fa0a7bfe3b794b3b] ***** You can WATCH the entire Life Unapologetically video series on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/show/1uo66GgEGjqR9yfHgxQdwt?si=a82ddbb5f42f4554]or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://youtu.be/aSOntDVdcmg]as well.⁠ Click for all my TorontoUnicorn social media links ➡️⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/TorontoUnicorn⁠⁠ [https://linktr.ee/TorontoUnicorn] 👀 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61557629253816&mibextid=LQQJ4d], ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://x.com/livefree54321?s=21&t=rYVa-2ZKGVv1AbDTW8EslQ], ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Reddit⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.reddit.com/r/LiveUnapologetically/] ALL have additional content (memes, articles, etc) that extends beyond what I share on my YouTube/podcast 🙂 ***** Need some friendly and blunt life advice? Now you can book a 1:1 zoom coaching session with me (TorontoUnicorn) :) Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠beyourownheroinlife@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [beyourownheroinlife@gmail.com] for rates and availability.   ***** Want to own something I wear, use, recommend? Or just see what hilarious and unique products I found worthy of sharing? 🤣 Check out my Amazon storefront! 💯 HIGHLY RECOMMEND 🙏🏻♥️💙 *affiliate links provide me with a small commission* (USA) Amazon storefront: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/torontounicorn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.amazon.com/shop/torontounicorn] (CAN) Amazon storefront: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.ca/shop/torontounicorn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.amazon.ca/shop/torontounicorn] Please review this podcast and give it 5 stars :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices [https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices]

18-Micro moments of choice - your secret power to better mental health

In this episode, I delve into the concept of the 'micro moment of choice'—a lesson that transformed my approach to life. I discuss how therapy and firsthand experiences taught me that our response to triggering events is within our control. By choosing kindness over reactive anger, we can avoid the lingering negativity that disrupts our mental well-being. Sharing personal anecdotes, I highlight the positive impacts of making mindful decisions. Additionally, I introduce my various YouTube channels and podcasts, focusing on authentic living and resilience. Join me as I explore new content and live hangouts on this journey to better mental health and authentic living. 00:00 Introduction to the Micro Moment of Choice 00:46 Personal Experience with Trigger Responses 01:57 The Power of Choosing Kindness 03:21 Applying the Lesson in Real Life 04:42 Channel Information and Future Plans **description written with the help of AI** Content mentioned in this episode: 1. Life Hack Your Break Up Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/2xPq2GyClcw0k5Ol176H5B?si=fa0a7bfe3b794b3b [https://open.spotify.com/show/2xPq2GyClcw0k5Ol176H5B?si=fa0a7bfe3b794b3b] ***** You can WATCH the entire Life Unapologetically video series on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/show/1uo66GgEGjqR9yfHgxQdwt?si=a82ddbb5f42f4554]or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://youtu.be/aSOntDVdcmg]as well.⁠ Click for all my TorontoUnicorn social media links ➡️⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/TorontoUnicorn⁠ [https://linktr.ee/TorontoUnicorn] 👀 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61557629253816&mibextid=LQQJ4d], ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://x.com/livefree54321?s=21&t=rYVa-2ZKGVv1AbDTW8EslQ], ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Reddit⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.reddit.com/r/LiveUnapologetically/] ALL have additional content (memes, articles, etc) that extends beyond what I share on my YouTube/podcast 🙂 ***** Need some friendly and blunt life advice? Now you can book a 1:1 zoom coaching session with me (TorontoUnicorn) :) Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠beyourownheroinlife@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [beyourownheroinlife@gmail.com] for rates and availability.   ***** Want to own something I wear, use, recommend? Or just see what hilarious and unique products I found worthy of sharing? 🤣 Check out my Amazon storefront! 💯 HIGHLY RECOMMEND 🙏🏻♥️💙 *affiliate links provide me with a small commission* (USA) Amazon storefront: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/torontounicorn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.amazon.com/shop/torontounicorn] (CAN) Amazon storefront: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.ca/shop/torontounicorn⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.amazon.ca/shop/torontounicorn] Please review this podcast and give it 5 stars :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices [https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices]

17-Is it a good reason or the REAL reason? (Journal read by TorontoUnicorn)

You can WATCH the entire Life Unapologetically video series on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/show/1uo66GgEGjqR9yfHgxQdwt?si=a82ddbb5f42f4554]or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://youtu.be/aSOntDVdcmg]as well.⁠ Click for all my TorontoUnicorn social media links ➡️⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/TorontoUnicorn [https://linktr.ee/TorontoUnicorn] 👀 ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61557629253816&mibextid=LQQJ4d], ⁠⁠⁠⁠X⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://x.com/livefree54321?s=21&t=rYVa-2ZKGVv1AbDTW8EslQ], ⁠⁠⁠⁠Reddit⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.reddit.com/r/LiveUnapologetically/] ALL have additional content (memes, articles, etc) that extends beyond what I share on my YouTube/podcast 🙂 ***** Need some friendly and blunt life advice? Now you can book a 1:1 zoom coaching session with me (TorontoUnicorn) :) Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠beyourownheroinlife@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ [beyourownheroinlife@gmail.com] for rates and availability.   ***** Want to own something I wear, use, recommend? Or just see what hilarious and unique products I found worthy of sharing? 🤣 Check out my Amazon storefront! 💯 HIGHLY RECOMMEND 🙏🏻♥️💙 *affiliate links provide me with a small commission* (USA) Amazon storefront: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/torontounicorn⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.amazon.com/shop/torontounicorn] (CAN) Amazon storefront: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.ca/shop/torontounicorn⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.amazon.ca/shop/torontounicorn] Please review this podcast and give it 5 stars :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices [https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices]