The “Perfect Marriage” Myth | Ep 125
If you’ve ever looked at someone’s marriage and thought, “Well… they probably just have it easy,” this episode is for you. 😉
Because after 40 years together, we can confidently say:
there have been beautiful seasons…
hard seasons…
stressful seasons…
funny seasons…
stretching seasons…
and seasons where we absolutely needed rest, grace, laughter, and God to hold us together! No joke.
This isn’t an episode about having a perfect marriage.
It’s a conversation about what has helped us KEEP choosing each other through plenty of real life lifey-ness.
While celebrating our 40th anniversary in Turks & Caicos, we found ourselves reflecting on the little things that have sustained us all these years, things like spiritual connection, gratitude, humor, personal space, shared purpose, protecting peace, and learning how to see God in both the ordinary AND extraordinary moments of life.
We also talk about the incredible hospitality we experienced during our trip and why we started calling it our “God bubble.” From thoughtful tiny details to overwhelming kindness, the experience reminded us how deeply human beings need delight, beauty, care, rest, and wonder.
In this episode we talk about:
💙 What has actually sustained our marriage
💙 Why joy and playfulness matter spiritually
💙 The “ministry of delight”
💙 Traditional biblical roles in marriage
💙 Protecting peace instead of winning arguments
💙 Why gratitude keeps your heart soft
💙 How we stay spiritually connected after 40 years
💙 The surprising magic of separate bedrooms 😂
💙 And why sometimes God speaks through sunsets, tiny cookies by your bedside, and unexpected kindness from strangers that became friends
✨ RESOURCES & THINGS REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:
📖 Theo of Golden by Allen Levi: https://amzn.to/4tXa39V [https://amzn.to/4tXa39V]
(Terry’s favorite vacation read/listen)
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(+ Lisa’s thoughts on intentional sunshine and strategic protection)
🌴 Wymara Resort + Villas, in Turks & Caicos: https://www.wymara.com [https://www.wymara.com]
(The beautiful resort experience that inspired our “God bubble” conversation! When you visit, be sure to tell Alicia and Arianna that we said HI!!)
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(And if you want to create your own secret code word from this episode… Terry fully supports that 😂)