Why Intelligent Women Stop Trusting Themselves | Self-Trust, Intuition and the Way Back
Self-trust is the heart of this solo episode, and one quiet pattern I see again and again. So many capable, intelligent women slowly stop trusting themselves, and this is an honest look at why it happens and what the way back actually is.
It rarely looks dramatic. It looks like second-guessing, editing what you want to say before you say it, and checking for proof before you will trust your own perception. We are told to trust ourselves, to listen to our intuition, to stop people pleasing, as if naming it were the same as undoing it. I explore why that advice so often misses, and how being quietly rewarded for being careful, analytical and reasonable can teach a sharp woman to override the part of her that knows without being able to prove it.
I also share something from my own life. What it cost me to override what I already knew, and how the body eventually gets loud when you stop listening to it. We look at why losing self-trust is different from losing anything else, why you cannot simply will yourself back into it, and how you instead become the woman who is already trustable to herself.
In this episode:
• Why so many capable, intelligent women quietly stop trusting themselves
• The everyday habit of second-guessing and editing yourself before you speak
• Why being told to trust yourself rarely changes anything
• How being rewarded for being careful and analytical can bury your intuition
• What it cost me to override what I already knew
• Why losing self-trust is different from losing anything else
• The smallest unit of self-trust, and the one question to come back to
• Why you cannot will yourself into self-trust, only become trustable to yourself
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Lots of love,
Marta