When Kids Push Back: How Self-Regulation Stops the Battle for Control

Masking: The Reality of Neurodivergent Masking and Identity Loss

For many in the neurodivergent community, we spend our lives learning to cover up who we are to blend into the environment around us. In this episode, we trace the profound identity loss experienced by neurodivergent adults right back to where it often starts: the classroom. We discuss the hidden exhaustion of the neurodivergent student and why traditional educational settings need a major shift. It’s time to stop asking kids to change who they are, and start building school cultures rooted in actual psychological safety. Tune in to learn how we can move away from forced compliance and start cultivating trauma-informed, neuro-affirming school cultures where every student is actually safe to unmask.

When Kids Push Back: How Self-Regulation Stops the Battle for Control

Sarah and Jessica unpack the hidden dynamics behind power struggles, revealing how they often do more harm than good and how a calm, intentional response can turn conflict into connection. You’ll discover how recognizing the signs in your body can help you pause before escalating. Learn the key difference between setting boundaries and engaging in power struggles, with practical strategies to stay regulated when kids push back. We break down real-life examples, like how to handle a student on a Chromebook or a child refusing to get in the car, showing you how to maintain control without losing rapport. Jessica shares her approach to collaborative boundary-setting, emphasizing the importance of understanding the “why” behind behaviors instead of simply reacting. You'll also explore why avoiding power struggles through disengagement and self-regulation creates more sustainable relationships, whether at home or in the classroom. We reveal how to implement trauma-informed, neuroaffirming strategies that promote cooperation, reduce stress, and build trust. Plus, hear the surprising role time and technology play in fueling these conflicts, and how to navigate those barriers effectively.

Beyond the Four Functions: Diving Beneath the Surface

Explore the deeper layers of student behavior in this insightful episode. Move beyond the four functions of behavior to uncover the psychological, sensory, and environmental factors that impact students. Jessica and Sarah reveal how common behaviors like classroom escape are often linked to sensory overload or communication challenges, requiring a broader perspective. Learn why simplistic, compliance-based strategies fall short and how asking deeper questions can lead to effective interventions. Discover practical tips for involving multidisciplinary teams and implementing trauma-informed, neuro-affirming strategies that empower students. Student Response Roadmap [https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Product/Student-Response-Roadmap-SafetyCrisis-Plan-16053637]

(Part 2) From Silos to Systems: Examining Fragmented Care Models in Schools

This episode exposes the barriers to effective teamwork and reveals simple, actionable strategies to break down those walls. You’ll discover how communication breakdowns and fragmented care models undermine student success, and more importantly, the innovative approaches that foster genuine integration. From establishing shared goals around emotional regulation to leveraging systems-level planning, we share proven tactics to align your team’s efforts. Jessica and Sarah reveal how to craft collaborative goals that aren’t made in isolation but are driven by real input from all stakeholders, including families and offsite providers. We break down practical tools like visual emotion lists, ongoing team check-ins, and technology solutions that keep everyone on the same page, even when team members aren’t physically present. This episode dives into the complexities of large secondary teams, addressing common pitfalls, and how strong foundational systems can reduce the need for overly individualized plans.

Part 1 - From Silos to Systems: Examining Fragmented Care Models in Schools

Fragmented care systems in education don’t just waste resources, they impair student success in profound ways. What if schools could overcome silos, creating holistic, collaborative approaches that truly serve students’ complex needs? If you're frustrated by disjointed services, overwhelmed by efforts that don’t translate into progress, or simply eager to unlock more effective team strategies, this episode is your essential guide. In part 1 of this 2 part episode, Sarah and Jessica dive deep into how the fragmentation of care impacts student outcomes, taking you behind the scenes of school-based collaboration. They share vivid examples, like how a single student’s support plan can become a patchwork of disconnected services, and how this fragmented model hampers student growth. Inspired by Dr. Nikki Elliott’s embodied inclusion framework, they explore how systems can be restructured to promote seamless communication, genuine teamwork, and shared goals.