The Martyrs Church Podcast

Ruth and Boaz – Episode 7: Safeguarding Love and Intimacy

Can two walk together unless they are agreed? What happens when the person you once adored becomes the target of your constant criticism? In Episode 7 of Ruth and Boaz, Rev. Sir Elorm explores the key dynamics that nurture lasting connection in marriage. Appreciation, he teaches, is a relational currency: when it is absent, relationships become a battlefield of unmet expectations and unspoken resentment. He redefines unequal yoking not just as a difference in faith, but as a divergence of vision, emotional maturity, and mindset. From the necessity of premarital and ongoing counsel to the importance of intellectual, psychological, and spiritual connection, amongst others, this episode provides the blueprint for a relationship that doesn’t just survive, but overflows with genuine joy, transparency, and mutual respect. What to Expect: * Pointers that your marriage is under attack * Comparison as a hindrance to marital bliss * Maintaining spiritual connection in relationships * The problem with unequal yoking * Facets of life to connect with your spouse on * Prioritizing sincerity and transparency in marriage Prepare for a practical and spiritually grounded session that equips believers to identify relational attacks, cultivate deeper connection, and safeguard the joy and intimacy of marriage. Shalom! Maranatha!

Ruth and Boaz – Episode 6: Discernment and Defense In Building Healthy Relationships

How do you know if your relationship is under a spiritual attack or if you are simply with the wrong person? Why do so many men retreat into silence just when they should be stepping into leadership? In this sixth instalment of the Ruth and Boaz series, Rev. Sir Elorm exposes the subtle signs of attack that drain the life out of a godly courtship. He addresses the crisis of the indecisive man—the one who keeps a woman in a loop of uncertainty—and explains why a man who isn’t concrete in his decision isn’t ready for marriage. From the sudden loss of spiritual fervor to the paralyzing grip of Gamophobia, this session provides the discernment needed to fight for your peace. Rev. Sir Elorm also dives into the practical gray areas of modern relationships: Should you have a joint bank account? How do you handle marital prophecies? And does a woman have to take her husband’s surname? What to Expect: * Intentional protection of personal peace * Prayerful confrontation of attacks in relationships * Why believers must marry believers * Criteria for evaluating attraction * Vital role of premarital counselling * Perspectives on assuming a husband’s surname * The right approach to marital prophecies * Mandate to prioritise the holy over the common * The place of wisdom in navigating relationships * Dynamics of age disparities in relationships * Guidelines for managing joint accounts * Strategies for overcoming gamophobia (commitment fears) * - Establishment of healthy relationship boundaries Prepare for a session that combines high spiritual warfare with grounded, practical wisdom. It is time to stop being anxious and start being intentional about the boundaries of your covenant. Shalom! Maranatha!

Ruth and Boaz – Episode 5: Covenant Over Convenience

Does marriage cure unfaithfulness, or does it merely expose a lack of character? At what point does the bill of divorcement become a necessity, and when is it a sign of a hardened heart? In this fifth instalment of the Ruth and Boaz series, Rev. Sir Elorm brings a sobering perspective to the permanence of covenant. He moves from the beauty of humble submission—where a woman’s exploits never become a weapon against her husband—to the raw realities of attraction. This session provides a masterclass on the protocols of betrothal, dowry, and honoring authority. He explains that fornication extends beyond premarital relations into broader sexual immorality and even spiritual idolatry. If covenant is broken through unfaithfulness, what freedom remains for the injured party? What are the boundaries of authority in vows? And why must no one speak or vow themselves into rebellion against God? From the biblical qualifications of bishops and deacons as husbands of one wife, to the deeper question of polygamy and God’s original design, this episode restores marriage to its sacred seriousness. What to Expect: * The power of humble submission in a wife * The treasure in earthen vessels * Having a standard as a woman * The importance of attraction in marriage * The difference between a wife and a concubine * The difference between betrothal and dowry * Issues around fornication, forgiveness and divorce * The domain of authority in vows * The importance of sex in marriage * The mind of God on polygamy Brace yourself for a session that strips away the fluff of modern dating and reinstates the weight of covenant. It is time to move from convenience to a commitment that reflects the faithfulness of God. Shalom! Maranatha!

Ruth and Boaz – Episode 4: The Architecture of a Responsible Man

Did Eve meet Adam in idleness or did she find him already at work? Is a man’s readiness for marriage measured by his age, or by the laws he establishes for his household? In this fourth instalment of the Ruth and Boaz series, Rev. Sir Elorm explores the essential markers of a man prepared for covenant. He teaches that a woman should never be brought into a “poor home” — not merely in financial terms, but in the poverty of vision, discipline, and character. Responsibility, he explains, is revealed in details. He draws women into sober reflection by raising necessary questions: Can he account for what has been placed in his hands? Can he steward vision before he stewards a wife? Does he shift blame when pressure comes or does he stand as a pillar of ownership? Rev. Sir Elorm delves into the priesthood of the man, explaining that a husband must be a teacher who works life into his woman — nurturing her through encouragement, instruction, and example until she flourishes in the strength of shared vision. If submission feels like a burden, could it be because leadership has not made it natural and safe? What to Expect: * The man as vision bearer, provider, and protector * The man’s role in building and nurturing the woman * The priesthood of the man * The man as a teacher and example of the Word * The man’s independence and responsibility * The man’s role in making submission natural and easy * Asking the right questions during courtship Prepare for a sobering and transformative session that calls men to maturity and women to discernment. It’s time to ask the right questions before entering the sacred bond of covenant. Shalom! Maranatha!

Ruth and Boaz – Episode 3: The Architecture of Order

Can a woman have a voice in a marriage built on submission? Is a man’s leadership a license for isolation, or a mandate for investment? In this third instalment of the Ruth and Boaz series, Rev. Sir Elorm addresses the identity crises that often plague modern unions. He challenges the man not to be intimidated by his wife’s exploits, explaining that true leadership is not about silencing a woman’s voice, but about providing the covering where her opinions can flourish into shared decisions. Rev. Sir Elorm introduces three critical plumb lines for order: Apostolic Administration, Customs and Traditions, and Scriptural Doctrine. Through these, he explains how to navigate cultural traditions without compromising divine truth. From the controversial context of women keeping silent to the significance of symbolic adornments like the nose ring, this session brings historical clarity to modern confusion. What to Expect: * The demands of the man in a relationship * The link between mission and submission * The frailties of humanity * The expressions of love * Practising shared decision making * Being considerate in relationships * Apostolic administration, customs and traditions, and the doctrine of scripture * Dealing with the issue of marriage * The authority of the man over the wife * God, the husband and the wife * The significance of a nose ring * Understanding submission in marriage Prepare for a session that moves beyond the surface of “rules” and into the heart of divine intelligence, fostering homes where both mission and submission thrive in harmony. Shalom! Maranatha!