The Successful Invisible

S1EP10: Red Flags & Toxic Dating Behaviors

In episode 10, Janelle explores some red flags and toxic dating behaviors that recently came up during client sessions and doing a holiday gathering with friends. She breaks down why each of the specific items is either a red flag or a toxic dating behavior and the underlying implications of the person who’s expressing those behaviors. Tune in as Janelle helps the listeners to greater understanding of these behaviors, whether you are the person acting them out or entertaining them from others, then this is the episode for you! Download link to my worksheet [https://www.subscribepage.com/l1t4e4] Follow me on IG @thesuccessfulinvisible [https://www.instagram.com/thesuccessfulinvisible/] Book A Discovery Call [https://viewslifecoachingscheduling.as.me/DiscoverySession] --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thesuccessfulinvisible/message [https://anchor.fm/thesuccessfulinvisible/message] In This Episode: ● [3:48 ] Toxic dating behavior – Hobosexual ● [5:34 ] Red Flag - Guy says he's the "nice guy" ● [7:42 ] Toxic Dating Behavior & Reg Flag - Any Emotional Manipulation ● [8:44 ] Toxic Dating Behavior & Reg Flag - Asking someone "what they bring to the table” ● [10:52 ] Toxic Dating Behavior & Reg Flag - Giving Ultimatums ● [11:40] Time Parameters vs. Giving Ultimatums ● [12:21 ] Inability to handle someone disagreeing with them or rejection ● [14:54 ] Questions for Reflection ● [17:22 ] Just My Thoughts Relationship Shifting Quotes: ● “Men have been taught many dating and courtship behaviors that are predatory.” ● “Women have been taught many dating and courtship behaviors that are toxic.”

S1EP9: Attachment Styles

What are attachment styles and how do they affect relationships? In episode 9, Janelle explores various attachment styles and how they can impact relationships. She explains how attachment styles form and how they are often irrevocably a part of us. In detail, she explains four different attachment styles and how they manifest themselves in personal behaviors, interpersonal relations, and romantic relationships. Janelle offers listeners a chance to test themselves, in order to better understand how their attachment styles are manifested into their daily lives. Lastly, she confesses her own attachment style, how she’s learned from it, and how she approaches new and old relationships because of it. Tune in as Janelle discusses the importance of identifying others’ and one’s own attachment style and how it can affect our relationships, both romantic and otherwise. Download link to my worksheet [https://www.subscribepage.com/l1t4e4] Follow me on IG @thesuccessfulinvisible [https://www.instagram.com/thesuccessfulinvisible/] Book A Discovery Call [https://viewslifecoachingscheduling.as.me/DiscoverySession] --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thesuccessfulinvisible/message [https://anchor.fm/thesuccessfulinvisible/message] In This Episode: ● [ 1:33 ] What attachment styles are and how they form ● [ 2:40 ] The four attachment styles ● [ 3:35 ] The inspiration for today’s episode ● [ 4:05 ] Attachment Style 1: Secure ● [ 5:48 ] Takeaways of the secure attachment style ● [ 6:16 ] Attachment Style 2: Avoidant ● [ 8:18 ] Takeaways of the avoidant attachment style ● [ 8:52 ] Attachment Style 3: Anxious and Preoccupied ● [ 10:23 ] Takeaways of the anxious/preoccupied attachment style ● [ 11:45 ] Attachment Style 4: Disorganized/Fearful Avoidance ● [ 13:06 ] Takeaways of the disorganized/fearful avoidance ● [ 14:45 ] Understanding more about one’s own attachment style ● [ 17:28 ] Janelle’s personal thoughts on attachment styles Relationship Shifting Quotes: ● “When secure people date, they look for consistency and reciprocal investment.” ● “Avoidant attachment style individuals like to keep a relationship shallow and on surface level.” ● “People with an anxious attachment style often worry about rejection and abandonment.” ● “A lot of a person’s self-worth or sense of self-worth rests on how they feel they are being treated in a relationship.” ● “It’s about allowing everyone to enter on equal footing and allow people to show you who they are.”

S1EP8: Love Languages

In episode 8, Janelle explores the five love languages and how we can improve our relationships by understanding our own love languages as well as our partners’. She goes into detail about the different love languages and ways you can show love for each type. Janelle also gives you advice on how you can have more open, honest conversations about your love languages with your partner in order to better understand and appreciate each other. Janelle shares some reflective questions you can ask yourself to better show and receive love with your partner using love languages. Tune in to hear how common communication issues between couples and points of tension could be greatly improved by the further understanding of each other’s love languages. When using them in a way that works for each of you, love languages can increase communication and help you and your partner grow stronger than ever. Download link to my worksheet [https://www.subscribepage.com/l1t4e4] Follow me on IG @thesuccessfulinvisible [https://www.instagram.com/thesuccessfulinvisible/] Book A Discovery Call [https://viewslifecoachingscheduling.as.me/DiscoverySession] --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thesuccessfulinvisible/message [https://anchor.fm/thesuccessfulinvisible/message] In This Episode: ● [ 1:44 ] Where the five love languages came from ● [ 2:37 ] What the five love languages are ● [ 3:40 ] Words of affirmation ● [ 4:21 ] Quality time ● [ 5:53 ] Receiving gifts ● [ 6:38 ] Acts of service ● [ 7:42 ] Physical touch ● [ 8:50 ] The importance of communication when it comes to gift giving ● [ 9:38 ] How to find out your love language ● [ 10:38 ] Questions for Reflections ● [ 12:32 ] Just My Thoughts ● [ 17:02 ] How to have open and honest conversations about your love languages with your partner ● [19:34] The universal love language of every woman Relationship Shifting Quotes: ● “You first have to be aware of your own love languages before you can effectively communicate that with others.” ● “The love languages are a very easy way to better understand yourself and as well as your romantic partner when it comes to the subject of love.” ● “If someone doesn’t say thank you, this could be a sign of someone who is ungrateful, selfish, or lacks manners. If any of those apply, you may want to reevaluate who you are choosing to be in a relationship with.” ● “No one should ever be too comfortable to have good manners toward one another.” ● “If you can make a woman feel physically, emotionally, psychologically, and financially safe, there is a very high likelihood she will respond to you in a positive way.”

Special Episode: Seasons of Connection Exercise

In this special episode, Janelle takes you through her 'Seasons of Connection' Exercise, which is perfect for anyone who gets down on themselves around holidays seasons because of their relationship status; wants more insights into their own feelings when they're in different relationship dynamics; or is ready to do a bit a self-reflection, self-exploration, and make changes as needed. Janelle asks the listener to be honest and dig deep and take the time to reflect about their level of satisfaction when they're * Single * Dating * In a committed relationship * After a break-up Download the worksheet & follow this exercise and you will no doubt be in a better place afterwards. Download link to my worksheet  [https://www.subscribepage.com/l1t4e4] Follow me on IG @thesuccessfulinvisible [https://www.instagram.com/thesuccessfulinvisible/] Book A Discovery Call [https://viewslifecoachingscheduling.as.me/DiscoverySession] --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thesuccessfulinvisible/message [https://anchor.fm/thesuccessfulinvisible/message]

S1EP7: The Shack Game a.k.a Living Together

Should you live together before marriage? In episode 7, Janelle explores the idea of living with a significant other. She explains how to assess whether cohabitating with your significant other is the best fit for you. Plus, Janelle dives into why she feels that this style of living is not necessarily a wise choice (hint: your stage in life has an impact on this). Later, Janelle digs into some inquiring questions that can help you learn more about living together and potential questions that you should ask yourself before making such a big decision. Tune in as Janelle describes why living together before you hit certain milestones in life is not the best idea. For it to be successful, the right conversations need to happen, hard questions have to be asked, and transparency needs to be there. Download link to my worksheet [https://www.subscribepage.com/l1t4e4] Follow me on IG @thesuccessfulinvisible [https://www.instagram.com/thesuccessfulinvisible/] Book A Discovery Call [https://viewslifecoachingscheduling.as.me/DiscoverySession] --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thesuccessfulinvisible/message [https://anchor.fm/thesuccessfulinvisible/message] In This Episode: * [ 1:55 ] The inspiration behind today’s episode * [ 3:30 ] How there can be unspoken expectations in the shack game * [ 6:05 ] Questions For Reflections * [ 9:55 ] Just My Thoughts * [ 14:50 ] The importance of having conversations around expectations * [ 18:50 ] Why you shouldn’t live with a partner that you can’t be honest with Relationship Shifting Quotes: · “I've seen a lot of men decide to live with their girlfriends just out of convenience.” · “A lot of women live with their significant others as a deposit toward getting married.” · “Two people are going into the same situation with very different expectations and very different motives.” · “Marriage is a formal contract honored by law; it is not just a piece of paper.” · “I do not feel that living together is a good choice when you want to hit certain milestones in life.”