The WinShape Marriage Podcast

Our 8 Favorite Moments From Season 3

Thank you for tuning in every week to season 3 of The WinShape Marriage Podcast! We’ve loved having you with us virtually. As we officially wrap season 3, Marlee Arnold and Rob Philo walk through their eight favorite moments this season. They break down encouraging advice and marriage wisdom shared from many guests—Bob Goff, Ted Lowe, Dr. Juli Slattery, and more. Tune into this episode for a high-level highlight reel on what you might have missed. Then, you can catch up on all your favorite episodes, too. We will be back later this year for season 4. Stay tuned! ---------- Time Stamps: (2:15) Bob Goff – I'm holding up a trampoline and saying, “Let’s go launch you.” (5:22) Jeremy Marshall – I had to develop a liturgy of commute home that released everything I had been carrying through the day. (10:31) Ted Lowe – A great marriage is made up of two people that say, “I just wish you could see you like I see you.” (16:44) Eric Wooten – Validate now; truth later. Whoever brings a concern up to the other person first, their spouse’s only job at that moment is to validate the concern that’s been brought. (27:31) The Robys – Lora wanted to fight, and I was ready to flight. That six-month cycle is where we grew in our marriage. We finally looked at each other in May. If we can make it through this, then we’ll make it through anything. (32:59) Katie Bulmer – What is on the other side of fighting for a good marriage? (44:52) Dr. Juli Slattery – About 90% of couples have a significant difference in their desire for “how often are we going to have sex” and “what do you enjoy in sex”—that's a normal barrier. (55:19) Genee Francis – One thing that trips people up is expecting you of others. ---------- Links: WinShape Marriage Website https://marriage.winshape.org/ [https://marriage.winshape.org/] WinShape Marriage Instagram https://www.instagram.com/winshapemarriage/ [https://www.instagram.com/winshapemarriage/] ---------- Relevant Episodes: Be a Trampoline in Your Marriage, Not a Mirror | Bob Goff https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=exYZYo0Yo3Q&t=6s [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=exYZYo0Yo3Q&t=6s] Answering Your Marriage Questions: 2026 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EWkzDDEsOv0&t=528s [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EWkzDDEsOv0&t=528s] Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Marriage | Ted Lowe https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZvodSZzRwq4&t=10s [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZvodSZzRwq4&t=10s] What Does Healthy Conflict Look Like? | Eric Wooten https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lsR7WxHUzdc&t=6s [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lsR7WxHUzdc&t=6s] A Marriage Story: The Robys https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OXYJcpoRH0Q&t=4s [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OXYJcpoRH0Q&t=4s] Social Media Is Lying to You About Marriage | Katie Bulmer https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=61DHLhWLIgY&t=2054s [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=61DHLhWLIgY&t=2054s] Answering your Questions About Sex | Dr. Juli Slattery https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9TislJ_9ie8&t=16s [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9TislJ_9ie8&t=16s] The Truth Behind Marriage Expectations https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRc-G7VGnRo&t=2s [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRc-G7VGnRo&t=2s] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

A Marriage Story: The Oldhams

On today’s episode of The WinShape Marriage Podcast, we are sharing our fourth and final marriage story for this season. Marlee Arnold sits down with John and Stephanie Oldham, a WinShape Marriage Host Couple. They begin by describing parts of their childhoods, in which they experienced many similarities that affected their abilities to form healthy relationships. Ultimately, they met one another and walked through their own peaks and valleys in their marriage relationship—resulting in a testimony filled with hope and healing. We pray this conversation encourages your marriage. As a reminder, if you want to learn more about sharing your own marriage story and engaging with other married couples in your sphere of influence, consider attending one of our Marriage Discipleship Training programs. Links below. ---------- Links: Marriage Discipleship https://marriage.winshape.org/discipleship/ [https://marriage.winshape.org/discipleship/] WinShape Marriage Website https://marriage.winshape.org/ [https://marriage.winshape.org/] WinShape Marriage Instagram https://www.instagram.com/winshapemarriage/ [https://www.instagram.com/winshapemarriage/] ---------- Relevant Episodes: A Marriage Story: The Robys https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OXYJcpoRH0Q&t=2s [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OXYJcpoRH0Q&t=2s] A Marriage Story: The Gables https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x8rAohs1bYE&t=8s [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x8rAohs1bYE&t=8s] A Marriage Story: The Sharpes https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-pb6roIdkOY&t=18s [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-pb6roIdkOY&t=18s] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

How To Build a Love That Laughs | Ted Cunningham

Ecclesiastes 9:9 begins by saying, “Enjoy life with the wife whom you love...” You’ve got to tune in to today’s episode of The WinShape Marriage Podcast featuring pastor, marriage author and speaker, and comedian Ted Cunningham. He breaks down this verse so eloquently, truly helping couples understand, “Jesus is your source, Satan is your enemy, and your spouse is your companion,” and it’s possible to enjoy life with your spouse whom you love! With 30 years of marriage under his belt, Ted has learned what it means to consider his wife, Amy, his companion and how to walk on the lighter side of life alongside her. If you want to learn how to build a love that laughs and experience a higher level of marital satisfaction, check out this episode. ---------- Time Stamps: (1:55) Ted Cunningham’s background (5:28) What inspired Ted to write, “A Love That Laughs” (8:42) Why Ted believes we generally adhere to the perspective that, “Life is hard.”  (15:43) 1 – 2 ways Ted uses humor/laughter to lighten the load of everyday life (21:23) How to build a marriage foundation on genuinely enjoying each other versus enduring each other (25:46) “I’m not funny...” Where do I start when it comes to incorporating humor/laughter into my marriage (31:19) Ted’s go-to way to make his wife, Amy, laugh (34:54) Other works by Ted (36:12) How to make laughter a key element in your family (39:42) One key takeaway from this conversation ---------- Links: “A Love That Laughs” https://www.amazon.com/Love-That-Laughs-Lighten-Together/dp/1589977084/ [https://www.amazon.com/Love-That-Laughs-Lighten-Together/dp/1589977084/] “Greater Joy Twogether” https://www.amazon.com/Greater-Joy-TWOgether-Marriage-Devotional/dp/0830785272/ [https://www.amazon.com/Greater-Joy-TWOgether-Marriage-Devotional/dp/0830785272/] Woodland Hills Family Church https://www.woodhills.org/ [https://www.woodhills.org/] A Love That Laughs WinShape Marriage Retreat Nov. 6 – 8, 2026 https://marriage.winshape.org/retreat/a-love-that-laughs-november-2026/ [https://marriage.winshape.org/retreat/a-love-that-laughs-november-2026/] Serving Marriages https://servingmarriages.com/ [https://servingmarriages.com/] WinShape Marriage Website https://marriage.winshape.org/ [https://marriage.winshape.org/] WinShape Marriage Instagram https://www.instagram.com/winshapemarriage/ [https://www.instagram.com/winshapemarriage/] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Should We Go to a Marriage Intensive? | Dr. Peter & Heather Larson

In today’s episode of The WinShape Marriage Podcast, we are peeling back the layers on Marriage Intensives. What are they? Should you and your spouse go to one? How are they different from traditional marriage counseling? What’s the history behind Marriage Intensives? We’re unpacking it all with Dr. Peter Larson, brand-new senior director of WinShape Marriage, and his wife, Heather, certified marriage coach. If you’ve ever been at all curious about Marriage Intensives, thought you’d like to attend one, or wondered if you and your spouse were the right fit, you’ll love this episode and get a firmer grasp on all the Marriage Intensive experience has to offer. ---------- Time Stamps: (1:22) Dr. Peter and Heather Larson's background (5:58) What is a Marriage Intensive? (7:31) What is the difference between a Marriage Intensive and traditional marriage counseling? (12:06) What is the history behind the Marriage Intensive model? (26:38) Who are Marriage Intensives for? (28:51) Who are Marriage Intensives NOT for? (38:11) Advice for a couple where one spouse is not on board to attend a Marriage Intensive (43:06) What happens after you leave a Marriage Intensive? (51:43) One key takeaway from this conversation ---------- Links: WinShape Marriage Intensives https://marriage.winshape.org/intensives/ [https://marriage.winshape.org/intensives/] “How To Find a Marriage Counselor” https://marriage.winshape.org/resource/how-to-find-a-marriage-counselor/ [https://marriage.winshape.org/resource/how-to-find-a-marriage-counselor/] WinShape Marriage Website https://marriage.winshape.org/ [https://marriage.winshape.org/] WinShape Marriage Instagram https://www.instagram.com/winshapemarriage/ [https://www.instagram.com/winshapemarriage/] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The Power of Connection in Your Marriage | Dr. Greg & Erin Smalley

Connection. Connection can feel like a marriage buzzword—being the center of so many marriage questions and pieces of advice. How do we stay “connected?” Make sure you and your spouse are “connecting.” Keep your marriage “connection” strong. Tune into today’s episode with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley. They are the cohosts of the podcast, “Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage,” a Focus on the Family original, and they’ve been married for over 30 years. They talk with Marlee Arnold about this buzzword—connection—and how it is achievable for your marriage. Additionally, with only a high school senior left at home and the empty nest years rapidly approaching, they provide wisdom related to preparing for this new season of marriage and talk about “how soon is ‘too soon’ to prepare.” It’s a great, practical, down-to-earth conversation you don’t want to miss. ---------- Time Stamps: (1:30) Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley’s background (3:17) 1-2 things that are top of mind when you think about “connection as a couple”  (9:30) 1-2 personal examples of how the Smalleys have done well staying connected (17:16) How have the Smalleys been preparing for the empty nest phase that is approaching (32:10) How soon is “too soon” to be thinking about the empty nest (39:56) How to approach the empty nest phase of marriage and the caring for aging parents phase of marriage well, simultaneously  (45:55) One key takeaway from this conversation ---------- Links: Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage https://podcasts.focusonthefamily.com/show/crazy-little-thing-called-marriage/ [https://podcasts.focusonthefamily.com/show/crazy-little-thing-called-marriage/] Focus Marriage Instagram https://www.instagram.com/focusmarriage/ [https://www.instagram.com/focusmarriage/] Smalley Marriage https://www.smalleymarriage.com/ [https://www.smalleymarriage.com/] Focus on the Family https://www.focusonthefamily.com/ [https://www.focusonthefamily.com/] Vision for Your Marriage WinShape Marriage Retreat April 17 – 19, 2026 https://marriage.winshape.org/retreat/vision-for-your-marriage-april-2026/ [https://marriage.winshape.org/retreat/vision-for-your-marriage-april-2026/]  “Learn How To Make a Daily Difference in Your Marriage” https://marriage.winshape.org/resource/learn-how-to-make-a-simple-daily-difference-in-your-marriage/ [https://marriage.winshape.org/resource/learn-how-to-make-a-simple-daily-difference-in-your-marriage/] “Marriage Expectations” https://marriage.winshape.org/resource/marriage-expectations/ [https://marriage.winshape.org/resource/marriage-expectations/] “25 Ideas: How To Reconnect With Your Spouse” https://marriage.winshape.org/resource/25-things-to-do-to-reconnect-with-your-spouse/ [https://marriage.winshape.org/resource/25-things-to-do-to-reconnect-with-your-spouse/] “What To Talk About With Your Spouse To Reconnect” https://marriage.winshape.org/resource/what-to-talk-about-with-your-spouse-to-reconnect/ [https://marriage.winshape.org/resource/what-to-talk-about-with-your-spouse-to-reconnect/] “How To Find a Marriage Counselor” https://marriage.winshape.org/resource/how-to-find-a-marriage-counselor/ [https://marriage.winshape.org/resource/how-to-find-a-marriage-counselor/] WinShape Marriage Website https://marriage.winshape.org/ [https://marriage.winshape.org/] WinShape Marriage Instagram https://www.instagram.com/winshapemarriage/ [https://www.instagram.com/winshapemarriage/] ---------- Relevant Episodes: The Secret Ingredient To Staying Connected https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QdK9Mm-Qo4o&t=432s [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QdK9Mm-Qo4o&t=432s] The Truth Behind Marriage Expectations https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRc-G7VGnRo [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRc-G7VGnRo] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.