The Wrong Words Podcast

Shame - Part 2

🎧 PART 2 — SHAME | The Wrong Words Podcast Shame is not always something we are born with. In this episode, Oliver and LUVON dig into the difference between embarrassment and shame, how outside voices can plant labels that grow deep, and why what is spoken over us can shape how we see ourselves. From “church love” to social pressure, regret, honor, and self-worth, this conversation asks whether shame is something we must carry, or something we can choose not to own. 🧠 In this episode we explore: Why embarrassment is often seasonal, but shame can become identity How shame is shaped by external voices, labels, and culture Why belief in yourself can keep shame from taking root 📚 We unpack: The village mindset behind the origin words for shame How “church love” can mask harm while pretending to help Why regret is not the same thing as shame 💥 Key moments include: The Pro Keds childhood example and the power of public embarrassment “Ain’t no hate like church love” The reminder that shame is often taught, not inherent 🛠️ You’ll walk away with: A clearer way to separate embarrassment from shame Language to challenge labels that do not belong to you A stronger lens for evaluating what you internalize 🎧 This episode is brought to you by Fairways and Putts. Visit fairwaysandputts.com [https://fairwaysandputts.com] today. 📚 Purchase the books: LUVON’s book [https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GQCQSMM8?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_FCVPF8N3YJ293AEQTXGE&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_FCVPF8N3YJ293AEQTXGE&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_FCVPF8N3YJ293AEQTXGE&bestFormat=true] | Oliver’s book [https://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Man-Laws-Despite-Taught/dp/B08FP7SLP7/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1RK15GULSV8MM&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9._5sN1ZHQKuTSE42mIQZyJpAN12d8bgxOKAjO1b6LIYq1vwNoMGOwZz5RMtPmpXME73LT-EjJsmp8OJW0HBR48rgiGbPh9TEih17cR9TuuQw.cuWvseWySY74M680JY-UY8P5OHU3lHAZu9qcmrO2T7I&dib_tag=se&keywords=oliver+marcelle&qid=1778249607&s=books&sprefix=oliver+marcelle%2Cstripbooks%2C118&sr=1-1] 📊 POLL QUESTION: When shame shows up, what hits hardest? A) Embarrassment B) Regret C) Labels D) Self-doubt #WrongWordsPodcast #Shame #LanguageMatters

Shame - Part 1

🎧 PART 1 — SHAME | The Wrong Words Podcast Shame is not just embarrassment; it is the pressure that makes people hide, shrink, and absorb labels that were never meant to define them. In this episode, Oliver and Luvon unpack how shame gets internalized, how it can be projected onto us by others, and why it so often fuels avoidance, fear, and ego rather than growth. They also wrestle with whether shame should stay in our vocabulary at all. 🧠 In this episode, we explore: Why shame often shows up as avoidance, hiding, and not wanting to be seen How shame becomes internal when labels from others get absorbed Why shame and ego are often fighting for the same space 📚 We unpack: Dictionary definitions that frame shame as a painful emotion, guilt, and impropriety How “dishonor” can become a label instead of a lesson Why confidence, love, and support feel like the true opposite of shame 💥 Key moments include: The idea that shame is the invitation to the ego The question of who gets to define what is dishonorable or ridiculous The reminder that many shame triggers start with someone else’s words 🛠️ You’ll walk away with: A better way to spot when shame is turning into avoidance Language to separate self-awareness from self-condemnation A reason to choose growth over hiding 🎧 This episode is brought to you by Community Solutions. Visit https://thecommunitysolutions.com today. 📚 You can also purchase the books mentioned in this episode: Luvon’s Gratitude Is The First Language at https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GQCQSMM8 Oliver’s Overcoming the Man Laws at https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08FP7SLP7 📊 POLL QUESTION: When shame shows up, you usually: A) Hide B) Defend C) Blame D) Grow #WrongWordsPodcast #Shame #LanguageMatters

Desperate - Part 3

🎧 PART 3 (FINAL PART) - DESPERATE Desperate is not just a feeling; it is a choice, a posture, and a word that can pull people away from hope if they are not careful. In this final part, Oliver and Levon press deeper into the difference between urgency, conviction, and desperation, why the modern definition of the word feels so extreme, and how the origins keep pointing back to hopelessness, distress, and the need for saving. They also challenge the way the word is used in spiritual language and make the case for preparation, faith, and action instead of panic. 🧠 In this episode, we explore: Why desperation is tied to rejected hope and abandoned confidence How urgency can be real without becoming panic Why knowing, preparation, and faith leave no room for desperation 📚 We unpack: The original meanings of desperate as hopeless, in distress, or in need of saving Why modern usage stretches the word into danger and reckless behavior The difference between urgency, conviction, and desperation 💥 Key moments include: The challenge to the phrase “desperate for God.” The deer and stream of water example is a picture of knowing, not panic The reminder that every situation still gives you a choice in how you respond 🛠️ You’ll walk away with: A clearer line between urgency and desperation Language to name what is actually happening when hope feels thin A push to choose action, faith, and preparation over panic 🎧 This episode is brought to you by Community Solutions. Visit https://thecommunitysolutions.com [https://thecommunitysolutions.com] today. 📊 POLL QUESTION: When urgency hits, you usually: A) Pray B) Plan C) Freeze D) Panic #WrongWordsPodcast #Desperate #LanguageMatters

Desperate - Part 2

🎧 PART 2 OF DESPERATE | The Wrong Words Podcast Desperate is not just urgency. In this episode, Oliver and Levon push deeper into how desperation shows up when hope gets rejected, confidence gets abandoned, and we stop living in the now. They unpack how the word can trap people in cycles of reckless decisions, emotional instability, and future-focused fear, while also showing why faith, wisdom, and acceptance leave no room for desperation. 🧠 In this episode we explore: Why desperation is often a choice tied to rejected hope How urgency can lead to action without turning into despair Why living in the present keeps desperation from taking over 📚 We unpack: The idea that desperation means little hope and no confidence How emotional and spiritual instability can fuel reckless behavior Why faith and the serenity prayer create space for peace instead of panic 💥 Key moments include: The warning that desperation can become a repeating cycle Why “desperate for God” is a phrase they challenge hard The reminder that urgency should lead to action, not collapse 🛠 You’ll walk away with: A clearer understanding of desperation as a mindset, not just a feeling Language to separate urgency from panic A challenge to stop rejecting hope and start living prepared 🎧 This episode is brought to you by Fairways and Putts. Visit https://fairwaysandputts.com [https://fairwaysandputts.com] today. 📊 POLL QUESTION: What usually fuels desperation the most? A) Fear B) Pressure C) Doubt D) Loss #WrongWordsPodcast #Desperate #LanguageMatters

Desperate - Part 1

🎧 PART 1 OF DESPERATE | The Wrong Words Podcast Desperate is not just about wanting something badly. In this episode, Oliver and Levon dig into how desperation can grow out of lack, vacancy, poor preparation, and fear of what comes next. They challenge the idea that desperation is simply an emotion and show how it can become a projection of unresolved emptiness, rushed decisions, and future-focused anxiety. 🧠 In this episode we explore: Why desperation often traces back to lack, vacancy, and feeling unprepared How fear of the future can push us into reckless decisions Why living in the now changes how we respond to the next thing 📚 We unpack: Dictionary definitions that connect desperate to recklessness, danger, and urgency The role of faith and emotional readiness in removing desperation How people project their own lack and lost hope onto others 💥 Key moments include: The connection between family, lack of preparation, and desperate behavior Why routine can create a false sense of preparedness The reminder that desperation often shows up when we stop trusting the now 🛠 You’ll walk away with: A clearer view of desperation as a signal, not an identity A way to check whether your urgency is really fear in disguise Language to talk about lack, preparation, and faith more honestly 🎧 This episode is brought to you by Fairways and Putts. Visit https://fairwaysandputts.com [https://fairwaysandputts.com] today. 📊 POLL QUESTION: When you hear "desperate," what comes first? A) Panic B) Lack C) Urgency D) Fear #WrongWordsPodcast #Desperate #LanguageMatters