The Yard of Greatness Podcast

YOG 63 : Jealous Black Mothers, Wounded Daughters Part 1.

When a girl grows up being punished for shining, it often follows her into adult life. In this first of a two-part series, I explore a painful but important topic: what happens when a Black mother’s unresolved wounds are taken out on her daughter? This episode was inspired by a viral TikTok video showing a Black mother aggressively cutting off her daughter’s hair while verbally abusing her and filming it for social media. My comment on the post received over 27,000 likes, and many people shared their own experiences in the comments. That showed me how many daughters are carrying wounds that have never been named. In this episode, I explore how maternal jealousy can show up in different ways, why it happens, and the lasting impact it can have on daughters. This conversation is not about attacking Black mothers. It is about telling the truth about how trauma is passed down through generations and acted out in the present. I discuss how some harmful patterns may be shaped by unresolved pain, internalised racism, misogynoir, patriarchy, scarcity, grief, and wounds that were never healed. These early experiences can later show up as: * fear of visibility * under-earning * people pleasing * staying silent at work * difficulty charging for services * anxiety around success * shrinking in relationships Healing requires honesty. We cannot heal what we keep minimising or calling discipline when it is domination. Understanding where these patterns come from does not excuse the harm. It helps us break the cycle. In part two, I will explore healing pathways, reparenting the inner daughter, and how to reclaim visibility, voice, and earning power. If this topic feels activating, please go gently with yourself. You do not need to face everything at once. You can come back when you have more capacity. If this topic speaks to you, join me for The Mother Wound and Your Money Experience on Saturday 27 June 2026 for therapists, healers, coaches, and wellness professionals. Register at heal.juneallen.net

YOG62 : Are You Hiding at Work?

In this episode, I explore the concept of hiding at work and why it’s often misunderstood. Hiding doesn’t always look like avoidance. It can look like overworking, perfectionism, undercharging, or staying in preparation mode.  I share how these patterns are often protective responses shaped by early relational experiences, particularly the mother wound, and how they show up for Black women and therapists in professional spaces. We’ll explore the four key ways hiding can manifest, and how understanding these patterns is the first step toward creating more visibility, sustainability, and alignment in your work. In This Episode, I Cover: * Why hiding is not laziness or lack of discipline * How productive behaviours can still be forms of hiding * The impact of the mother wound on visibility and self-expression * The four protective patterns. * Why these patterns develop as survival strategies * How they show up in therapy and wellness businesses * The first steps toward shifting these patterns with compassion These patterns are not personal failings, but protective responses that make sense. This topic is also some of the work we’ll be exploring in my upcoming online session:  The Mother Wound & Your Money Experience. A place to begin understanding the patterns that shape how we show up, what we charge, and how safe it feels to receive. If this feels aligned, you can find more details here [http://www.heal.juneallen.net].

YOG61: Do I need therapy or coaching?

Unfortunately, having therapy still carries a lot of stigma in our community but many will not think twice about having coaching. So, what's wrong with that you might ask? It matters because your needs and timing will impact the results and could even cause more harm if not chosen wisely. So, this episode is for you if you: * Want to know the difference between therapy and coaching. * Felt unsure about where to invest your energy, time, or money in your growth. * Notice yourself pushing forward, while something inside still feels unsettled. * Wondered whether you need deeper emotional support, or support to move forward in your life or business This is also a conversation rooted in our lived experience as Black people, because the context we live in shapes what we need. I also speak about how to begin recognising what kind of support your system is actually asking for, why moving too fast can create more overwhelm and how to think about healing and growth in a way that honours your capacity. This isn’t about choosing the “right” thing, It’s about learning how to listen to yourself more deeply.

YOG60 : What Does Safety Look Like Between Black Mothers and Daughters?

Do you feel safe with your mother? In this episode, I explore this tender topic that many Black women carry with shame because there is no safety for them, and often they end up blaming themselves. This is not just about being physically safe, but emotionally, culturally, spiritually, and relationally safe. I also speak honestly about estrangement, boundaries, and the complex grief that can exist when safety and trust are absent.  This episode is not about blaming mothers. We know that they navigate systems of oppression that are not designed for the wellbeing of Black families. However, it is important for us to tell the truth about how pain gets recycled across generations so that healing becomes possible. Here are the key areas that explore what safety looks like within Black mother–daughter relationships. Emotional Safety Healthy relationships must allow us to be our full selves, so I talk about what happens when wounded daughters feel they must hide parts of themselves to avoid criticism, or shrink to maintain peace. Nervous System Safety Sometimes the body tells the truth before the mind does, so I invite listeners to notice what happens in their body when they think about their mother. Do you feel calm, or do you feel tension, anxiety, or emotional shutdown? Power and Control For many, the parent–child hierarchy never evolves into a respectful adult relationship, so I explore how control, obedience, and fear of accountability can keep daughters stuck in childish roles that conflict with their adult lives. Identity and Cultural Safety Many Black daughters also have to navigate shaming dynamics around colourism, sexuality and identity so I explore how these experiences can make it difficult to feel fully accepted within our own families as well as socially. Accountability and Repair I also discuss the difference between apologies and true repair. Healing in relationships requires honesty, accountability, and changed behaviour. If this conversation brings up difficult emotions, you are not alone. Many Black women are beginning to tell the truth about their experiences so they can process grief, set boundaries, and reconnect fully with themselves. If this episode resonates, email me at info@yardofgreatness.com on how to work with June. You don’t have to move through this alone.

YOG59 : What Your Inner Black Child Needs on Mother's Day.

Mother’s Day can be a beautiful celebration for many people, but for Black women who have painful, complicated, or estranged relationships with our mothers, it can also be one of the most emotionally difficult days of the year. In this episode, I talk openly about how to care for your inner child during Mother’s Day when your relationship with your mother carries grief, trauma, or distance.  Drawing from my work as a racial trauma therapist, as well as my own experience of family estrangement, I explore how this day can activate younger parts of us that still long to be seen, loved, protected, and understood. We explore how different younger parts of us may show up during this time, how childhood trauma can shape the ways we soothe ourselves as adults, and how we can begin rebuilding trust with parts of ourselves that were ignored or silenced in the past. I also share some practical ways I personally care for my inner child, creating intentional self-care rituals and learning how to protect my younger parts through healthy boundaries. Mother’s Day does not have to be a day of shame or emotional isolation. It can become a day where you gently turn toward yourself and offer the love and care that your younger self deserved all along. Key themes in this episode include: * Why Mother’s Day can be triggering for people with difficult mother relationships. * How different inner child parts may be activated during this time. * The impact of childhood trauma on adult coping behaviours. * Rebuilding trust with your inner child. * Self-parenting and compassionate self-care practices. * Setting boundaries with challenging family dynamics This episode is an invitation to slow down, listen inwardly, and honor the younger parts of yourself that still deserve care.