This is Cohousing | Ep 10 | Rebooting Community: From Conflict to Connection with Julia Jongkind

This is Cohousing | Ep 10 | Rebooting Community: From Conflict to Connection with Julia Jongkind

What does it take for a cohousing community to function at its fullest potential? In this episode, Charles Durrett sits down with educational learning consultant and facilitator Julia Jongkind, who has spent two decades living in cohousing, helping struggling communities find their footing again. Drawing from her experience rebooting three different communities, Julia shares the surprisingly simple practices that can make the difference between a meeting and a meaningful conversation.Julia offers practical wisdom for creating stronger, more resilient communities, such as setting expectations between owners and renters early on. She explains why every voice needs to be heard, how skilled facilitation can prevent meetings from becoming battlegrounds, and why routing conflict through a trusted facilitator helps even the most conflict-averse members feel comfortable.This episode's biggest takeaway shows how many conflicts that look personal are actually structural. A disagreement between neighbors may be rooted in an unclear policy or a rushed decision made years earlier. Together they unpack how communities can identify (and fix), the real source of tension.The conversation also explores the quiet habits that keep communities healthy over time: the power of a knock on the door instead of another email, the importance of a community's "elders," the balance between contribution and gratitude. Why it's important to revisit the community's mission and vision as they evolve, and how growing up in cohousing shaped Julia's own family in lasting ways.For more info visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.cohousingco.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [www.cohousingco.com]⁠ , ⁠⁠nccoho.org⁠ [nccoho.org] or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/CohousingCo⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://linktr.ee/CohousingCo] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/cohousing/] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/cohousingco_01/] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/company/cohousingco] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@charlesdurrett9954] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://x.com/CohousingCo_01] Bossa Antigua Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

This is Cohousing | Ep 9 | From Me to We: The Philosophy of Living in Community with Carl Hall

What can a philosophy professor teach us after two decades of living in community? In this episode of This Is Cohousing, Charles Durrett sits down with Carl Hall — resident of Nevada City Cohousing and professor of philosophy for 34 years. Carl reflects on the journey of how an avowed introvert came to find social heaven among 34 households, why cooperation deserves the benefit of the doubt, and how cohousing offers a sanctuary from what he sees as a growing culture of separation. Building on ideas developed by philosophers throughout history, and a lifetime of teaching, Carl and Charles explore belonging, the art of listening, and aging with purpose. Together they solve the simple cohousing math where one plus one equals three. For more info visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.cohousingco.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [www.cohousingco.com]⁠ , ⁠nccoho.org [nccoho.org] or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/CohousingCo⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://linktr.ee/CohousingCo] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/cohousing/] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/cohousingco_01/] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/company/cohousingco] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@charlesdurrett9954] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X⁠⁠⁠ [https://x.com/CohousingCo_01] Bossa Antigua Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

This is Cohousing | Ep 8 | Out of Denial, Into Community: Quimper Village with Carolyn & Jack Salmon

Quimper Village is about as elegant as the cohousing process gets. In this episode, host Charles Durrett sits down with founding members Carolyn and Jack Salmon to unpack how their senior cohousing community on Washington's Olympic Peninsula went from a church meeting to a finished neighborhood with 28 homes in just three years.They talk about getting out of denial about aging, the "no green bananas" urgency that kept the group moving, why they completed Study Group One twice, and the record-setting site design workshop that produced twelve viable plans. Carolyn and Jack also share the philosophy that anchored everything — "you're buying a community, and a nice house comes with it" — and explain why hiring the right project manager (and keeping group members out of that role) made all the difference.Whether you're forming a community, designing one, or just curious how cohousing actually comes together, this conversation is full of hard-won, practical wisdom.📚 Resources mentioned in this episode:State of the Art Cohousing: Lessons Learned from Quimper Village by Alexandria Levitt & Charles DurrettCohousing Communities: Designing for High-Functioning Neighborhoods by Charles Durrett For more info visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.cohousingco.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [www.cohousingco.com]⁠ , quimpervillage.com [quimpervillage.com] or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/CohousingCo⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://linktr.ee/CohousingCo] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/cohousing/] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/cohousingco_01/] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/company/cohousingco] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@charlesdurrett9954] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X⁠⁠ [https://x.com/CohousingCo_01] Bossa Antigua Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

This is Cohousing | Ep 7 | Different, Not Less: Neuro-Inclusive Living with Desiree Kameka Galloway

What happens to adults with autism when their parents can no longer care for them? It's one of the most urgent and overlooked housing crises of our time — and intentional community may be one of the most powerful answers. In this episode, host Charles Durrett sits down with Desiree Kameka Galloway, Director of the Autism Housing Network and lead consultant for neuro-inclusive housing solutions. Having visited over 120 residential opportunities for adults with intellectual and developmental disabilities across 12+ U.S. metropolitan areas, Desiree brings rare, research-backed insight into what's missing — and what's possible. Together, Charles and Desiree explore: Why over 1 million adults with autism currently live with a caregiver over the age of 60 — and what happens nextHow cohousing provides the natural support systems that reduce isolation, prevent abuse, and lower Medicaid costs. The critical difference between neuro-inclusive community and institutionalization — and why policymakers still confuse the twoWhat families and self-advocates should do right now to plan proactively (legal, financial, and community-building steps)Practical tools like communication badges, neuro-affirming design principles, and how existing cohousing communities can welcome neurodivergent neighborsThe inspiring example of Solheimar, Iceland — where 45 neurodiverse and 45 neurotypical residents thrive together well into old ageWhy Canada may be where the first North American Solheimar-style community takes rootAs Desiree puts it: "When people find the right housing and support system, they thrive. Don't let fear paralyze you."Whether you're a parent, self-advocate, housing developer, or simply someone who knows someone with autism — this conversation will change how you think about community, belonging, and what inclusive living can look like.Resources mentioned:🌐 Autism Housing Network — autismhousingnetwork.org📖 Neuro-Inclusive Community Design by Charles Durrett📖 A Place in the World — free at the Autism Housing Network🌐 The Cohousing Company — cohousingco.com🌐 National Cohousing Alliance — cohousingalliance.org For more info visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.cohousingco.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [www.cohousingco.com]⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/CohousingCo⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://linktr.ee/CohousingCo] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/cohousing/] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/cohousingco_01/] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/company/cohousingco] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@charlesdurrett9954] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X⁠ [https://x.com/CohousingCo_01] Bossa Antigua Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

This is Cohousing | Ep 6 | How Common Meals Nourish Cohousing with Vesanto Melina

What if the secret to a thriving neighborhood was as simple as sharing a meal? In this episode, Charles sits down with Vesanto Melina — registered dietitian, author of over 15 books, and resident of Vancouver Cohousing — to explore how common meals bring cohousing communities to life.From signup spreadsheets and cooking trios to rooftop gardens and $5 dinners, Vesanto and Charles dig into the practical and the profound: how shared cooking builds trust, how plant-based eating can work at scale, and why showing up to dinner on time might matter more than you think.Vesanto also shares her expertise on nourishing community meals — covering protein, vitamin D, accommodating dietary needs, and why moving toward plant-based eating is good for both people and the planet.Whether you live in cohousing or are simply curious about a more connected way of life, this conversation will leave you hungry for community — and maybe dinner.Resources mentioned:Vesanto's website: nutrispeak.comPlant-Powered Protein: plantpoweredprotein.com Bossa Antigua Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ For more info visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.cohousingco.com⁠⁠⁠ [www.cohousingco.com]⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/CohousingCo⁠⁠⁠ [https://linktr.ee/CohousingCo] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/cohousing/] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/cohousingco_01/] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/company/cohousingco] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@charlesdurrett9954] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠X [https://x.com/CohousingCo_01]