Totally Unacceptable with Ed Clementi

Almost Chosen - The Cost Nobody Names

There's a name for what you've been feeling. You've delivered. You've developed. You've done everything they asked. And yet — year after year — someone else gets the call. You get the praise, you get the appreciation, you get told how valuable you are. But you don't get chosen. I call it Almost Chosen. And it has a very real cost. In this episode, I walk you through what Almost Chosen actually looks like — the commute home when you let yourself believe this is the year, the dinner table conversation, the quiet shift in how you show up when it keeps not happening. And then I price it out. Conservatively, being Almost Chosen in financial services can cost you $50,000 a year in foregone compensation. Over multiple years — that's six figures of real money, real lifestyle decisions, real ambition eroded. But this isn't just about the individual. Almost Chosen is a leadership failure with a price tag. When great talent gets maintained instead of advanced, the organization pays too — in productivity, in engagement, and eventually in the talent that walks out the door. If you've ever carried Almost home, this episode is for you. IN THIS EPISODE: * The Almost Chosen moment — and why it's more common than anyone admits * What it does to you psychologically over time * The real financial cost of being passed over — year after year * What it costs the organization when they keep doing it * Three honest questions every Almost Chosen professional needs to ask themselves * Why Almost Chosen is a choice to stay — but not a permanent verdict MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 📖 Almost Chosen No More — The Playbook Everything I wish someone had handed me, built into a framework you can use starting today. For the professionals done waiting and ready to become undeniable. 👉 https://edclementi.com/almost-chosen-no-more/ [https://edclementi.com/almost-chosen-no-more/] 📩 The FireStarter Newsletter Every Monday. One idea to start your week. Leadership, careers, and life — the stuff nobody tells you until it's too late. Free. 👉 https://firestarter.edclementi.com [https://firestarter.edclementi.com] 🌐 AxioLead™ — Leadership Risk Advisory 👉 https://edclementi.com [https://edclementi.com] CHAPTERS: 00:00 — Intro 00:11 — Have You Ever Known Someone Like That? 02:15 — It Has a Name: Almost Chosen 02:50 — Who I Am and Why This Matters 05:07 — Walk With Me: The MD Journey 12:39 — The Almost Chosen Moment 16:17 — What It Does to You Over Time 19:36 — Let's Price This Out 22:54 — What It Costs the Organization 23:50 — Who This Is For 25:13 — Almost Chosen No More: The Playbook 28:42 — Three Honest Questions 29:55 — Almost Chosen Is a Choice — Not a Verdict CONNECT WITH ED: 🔗 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/edwardclementi 🌐 edclementi.com 📩 FireStarter Newsletter: firestarter.edclementi.com Learn more at edclementi.com [https://edclementi.com/] Follow Ed on Linkedin [https://www.linkedin.com/in/edwardclementi/] Subscribe to The FireStarter [https://edclementi.com/newsletter/] Join the Waitlist for Leadership at the Dinner Table [https://edclementi.com/book/]

We Were Builders Once: When Job Security Was You

🎙️ We Were Builders Once: When Job Security Was You Before résumés. Before layoffs. Before waiting for someone else to decide your worth— Job security was you. In this episode of Totally Unacceptable, Ed Clementi takes us back to the forgotten roots of work itself—when self-reliance, skill, and contribution were the foundation of stability. And he exposes how we traded that independence for an illusion of safety. You’ll learn: * How the “college–career–security” formula became one of the biggest lies of modern work. * Why handing your livelihood to a corporation isn’t stability—it’s surrender. * The mindset shift every professional needs in the age of AI and automation. * How to reclaim the value that can never be laid off, outsourced, or deleted. * Why self-belief is still the original skill set—and the only true job security you’ll ever have. Because real leadership begins when you stop waiting to be chosen and start creating your own value.  And forgetting that truth… is totally unacceptable. 👉 Tune in to rediscover what we lost—and what it takes to build again. Learn more at edclementi.com [https://edclementi.com/] Follow Ed on Linkedin [https://www.linkedin.com/in/edwardclementi/] Subscribe to The FireStarter [https://edclementi.com/newsletter/] Join the Waitlist for Leadership at the Dinner Table [https://edclementi.com/book/]

From Playgrounds to Boardrooms: Why Bullying Never Went Away

Workplace bullying isn’t just a schoolyard problem—it’s alive and well in offices, boardrooms, and businesses everywhere. And the damage it does is staggering. In this episode of Totally Unacceptable, Ed Clementi puts the spotlight on the bully boss—the so-called “leader” who hides behind authority, leads through fear, and poisons culture. You’ll learn: * How to recognize bullying behaviors disguised as “feedback” or “management.” * Why standing up for yourself at work doesn’t play out like it did on the playground. * The ripple effect bullies have on confidence, careers, health, and even home life. * Why executives who stay silent are just as complicit. * What you can do if you’re working under one—or leading like one. Because leadership isn’t about fear. It’s about courage. And every bully tolerated at the top sends shockwaves far beyond the office walls. 👉 Tune in to hear why workplace bullying is the most Totally Unacceptable form of leadership—and what it takes to finally stop it. Also, join the waitlist for my new book: Leadership At The Dinner Table [https://edclementi.com/book/]. ...and subscribe to my newsletter The FireStarter [https://edclementi.com/newsletter/]. Learn more at edclementi.com [https://edclementi.com/] Follow Ed on Linkedin [https://www.linkedin.com/in/edwardclementi/] Subscribe to The FireStarter [https://edclementi.com/newsletter/] Join the Waitlist for Leadership at the Dinner Table [https://edclementi.com/book/]

Dear CEO: 5 Questions That Might Haunt You.

Leadership is the single most powerful force in any organization. It builds belief — or it breaks both people and culture. Welcome to the first-ever FireStarter Session with Ed Clementi, a powerful new crossover between Totally Unacceptable and my weekly leadership newsletter, The FireStarter. In this new series, I take one of my most resonant articles — this one titled “Dear CEO: 5 Questions That Might Haunt You” — and bring it to life through voice, emotion, and unfiltered perspective. In this episode, we explore: 🔥 Why most people have lost faith in leadership at the top 🔥 The unspoken questions that define your legacy 🔥 What it truly means to lead with bravery, care, and conviction 🔥 A challenge for CEOs and future leaders alike This is not a performance. This is a mirror. And if you’re in — this will move you. 💥 Listen. Reflect. Act. If this hit you hard — good. Now do something with it. 👉 Subscribe to The FireStarter newsletter (new issue every Monday, 7AM): https://www.edclementi.com/newsletter 👉 Explore coaching, speaking, and leadership development: https://www.edclementi.com 👉 Follow on LinkedIn for daily insights: https://www.linkedin.com/in/edwardclementi Learn more at edclementi.com [https://edclementi.com/] Follow Ed on Linkedin [https://www.linkedin.com/in/edwardclementi/] Subscribe to The FireStarter [https://edclementi.com/newsletter/] Join the Waitlist for Leadership at the Dinner Table [https://edclementi.com/book/]

Your Boss Isn't A Leader and It's Hurting Your Career

Your Boss Isn’t a Leader — and It’s Hurting Your Career Waiting for a weak leader to suddenly become strong is a career death sentence. And handing over your future to someone threatened by your potential? That’s not loyalty. That’s self-sabotage. In this episode of Totally Unacceptable, Ed Clementi calls out the silent epidemic of non-leaders in leadership roles — and the damage they cause to careers, teams, and company culture. This one’s not just a vent session. It’s a blueprint. You’ll learn: How to recognize when your boss isn’t actually leading Why staying silent and “waiting it out” is the real risk What to do when your growth is being stifled How to build trust and visibility anyway And the parable of the elephant and the rope — and how it applies to you If you’ve ever felt stuck, overlooked, or underestimated by someone who was supposed to have your back — this is the episode you didn’t know you needed. 🎧 Don’t give your power to the wrong person. Reclaim your voice. Multiply your value. 🔥 Stay connected & fuel your leadership fire: 🔗 Follow Ed on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/edwardclementi/ 📬 Subscribe to The FireStarter Newsletter: https://thefirestarter.beehiiv.com/ 🌐 Explore more at edclementi.com: https://edclementi.com/ Learn more at edclementi.com [https://edclementi.com/] Follow Ed on Linkedin [https://www.linkedin.com/in/edwardclementi/] Subscribe to The FireStarter [https://edclementi.com/newsletter/] Join the Waitlist for Leadership at the Dinner Table [https://edclementi.com/book/]