Go Slow

substance + self

Moment 74 | In this episode, I explore our relationship with substances like alcohol, smoking, food, and psychedelics–without judgement, just curiosity. What are we really reaching for in those moments? How do these experiences shift the way we feel in our bodies, our emotions, and our sense of self? I ask what it means when something starts to feel necessary, and whether it brings us closer to ourselves or further away. Card Pull: Omens – Hawks are messengers. This majestic bird flies high and reaches the realms of the spirit. They bring back messages from both the seen and unseen. Drawing this card speaks of focus and intuition. Pay attention to the coincidences in your life right now. Focus on where you want to go–how high do you want to fly? When you see a hawk, someone is trying to get your attention. Pay attention to serendipity in your life. Be glad, for this is a reminder that you are living in the flow of energy. Things will soon shift for you. Integration Invitation: What am I really reaching for in moments I turn to substances & what feeling am I trying to meet, avoid, or understand?

Go Slow

Moment 73 | In this episode I talk about the power of slowing down and being in the present moment.

Authenticity vs. Truth

Moment 72 | In this episode I break down the differences between authenticity and truth.

Femininity | A Feminine Take on the Patriarchy (part two)

Moment 71 | In this episode I continue the conversation with my friend Jean, she responds to part one and also gives her own perspectives on the topic of being a woman, the patriarchy, and how throughout history the treatment of women has not always been equal. _______Sources: “Women’s Suffrage Timeline.” American Bar Association, https://www.americanbar.org/groups/public_education/programs/19th-amendment-centennial/toolkit/suffrage-timeline/. [https://www.americanbar.org/groups/public_education/programs/19th-amendment-centennial/toolkit/suffrage-timeline/. ]Accessed 16 Mar. 2026.Zuk, Marlene. “The Theory That Men Evolved to Hunt and Women Evolved to Gather Is Wrong.” Scientific American, https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-theory-that-men-evolved-to-hunt-and-women-evolved-to-gather-is-wrong1/. [https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-theory-that-men-evolved-to-hunt-and-women-evolved-to-gather-is-wrong1/.]Golash-Boza, Tanyal; Duenas, Maria; Xion, Chia. “White Supremacy, Patriarchy, and Global Capitalism.” American Behavioral Scientist, SAGE Publications, https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0002764219842624 [https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0002764219842624].Bjork-James, Sophie “White Sexual Politics: The Patriarchal Family in White Nationalism and the Religious Right.” Anthropology & Humanism, Wiley Online Library, https://anthrosource.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/traa.12167 [https://anthrosource.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/traa.12167].Deb, Angarika; Saunders, Daniel; Major-Smith, Daniel; Dyble, Mark; Page, Abigail; Salali, Gul; Migliana, Andrea; Heintz, Christophe; Chaudhary, Nikhil. “Bargaining between the sexes: outside options and leisure time in hunter-gatherer households” Evolution and Human Behavior, Elsevier, https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1090513824000527 [https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1090513824000527].Sunderland, Jillian. “Fighting for Masculine Hegemony: Contestation between Alt-Right and White Nationalist Masculinities on Stormfront.” Frontiers in Psychology, National Institutes of Health, https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10133778/ [https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10133778/].Anderson, Abigail; Chilczuk, Sophia; Nelson, Kaylie; Ruther, Roxanne; Wall-Scheffler, Cara. “The Myth of Man the Hunter: Women's contribution to the hung across ethnographic contexts.” PLOS ONE, https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0287101 [https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0287101].Beck, Julie. “Smashing the Patriarchy: Why There’s Nothing Natural about Male Supremacy.” The Guardian, 2 Nov. 2019, https://www.theguardian.com/books/2019/nov/02/smashing-the-patriarchy-why-theres-nothing-natural-about-male-supremacy [https://www.theguardian.com/books/2019/nov/02/smashing-the-patriarchy-why-theres-nothing-natural-about-male-supremacy].Huchard, Elise, et al. “The Evolution of Male–Female Dominance Relations in Primate Societies.” Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 2025, https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.2500405122 [https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.2500405122].Lewis, Rebecca J., E. Christopher Kirk, and Ashley D. Gosselin-Ildari. “Evolutionary Patterns of Intersexual Power.” Animals, vol. 13, no. 23, 2023, article 3695. https://doi.org/10.3390/ani13233695 [https://doi.org/10.3390/ani13233695].“Patriarchy and Colonialism.” D.W. Herstories Timeline, https://www.dwherstories.com/timeline/patriarchy-and-colonialism?prev=/timeline. Accessed 12 Mar. 2026 [https://www.dwherstories.com/timeline/patriarchy-and-colonialism?prev=/timeline. Accessed 12 Mar. 2026].“How Colonialism Created Patriarchy (or Why Patriarchy Exists).” YouTube, uploaded by What I've Learned, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7hQGi5NcLH4 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7hQGi5NcLH4]. Accessed 12 Mar. 2026.https://youtu.be/7hQGi5NcLH4?si=xm8ZQDtlho8L_Zeo [https://youtu.be/7hQGi5NcLH4?si=xm8ZQDtlho8L_Zeo]

Masculinity | A Conversation on Masculinity (part one)

Moment 70 | In this episode I have a dialogue with my friend Leland about the topic of masculinity and what that means to him. I reference insights from All About Love by bell hooks while exploring masculinity, desire, and modern relationships. _______Sources: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-asymmetric-brain/202601/good-news-study-shows-that-most-men-are-not-toxic [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-asymmetric-brain/202601/good-news-study-shows-that-most-men-are-not-toxic]https://nypost.com/2024/03/05/lifestyle/half-of-men-feel-pressured-to-act-manly/ [https://nypost.com/2024/03/05/lifestyle/half-of-men-feel-pressured-to-act-manly/]https://blackdemographics.com/households/marriage-in-black-america/ [https://blackdemographics.com/households/marriage-in-black-america/]https://jbhe.com/2022/11/the-significant-racial-gap-in-marriage-rates-in-the-united-states/ [https://jbhe.com/2022/11/the-significant-racial-gap-in-marriage-rates-in-the-united-states/]https://nypost.com/2025/01/10/lifestyle/number-of-unpartnered-us-adults-declined-for-first-time-in-nearly-20-years-singledom-has-peaked/ [https://nypost.com/2025/01/10/lifestyle/number-of-unpartnered-us-adults-declined-for-first-time-in-nearly-20-years-singledom-has-peaked/]