Velvet's Edge with Kelly Henderson

Why We Try to Fix Everyone: Kelly & Chip on Emotional Support (The Edge)

After Kelly’s Wednesday conversation with therapist and author Nidhi Tewari about attunement and communication, Kelly and Chip take the discussion into real-world territory.   Why do we immediately jump into advice when someone is upset? How often are people actually asking for solutions versus simply wanting to be heard? And why do certain “supportive” phrases somehow make things worse? Through relatable scenarios, gut-reaction moments, and playful debates, Kelly and Chip unpack the instinct to fix, the pressure to say the right thing, and the subtle ways we misread what others need from us. The conversation also dives into why emotions make so many people uncomfortable — and how that shapes friendships, dating, and everyday interactions. A lighter, honest look at communication habits, emotional support, and the phrases that can either calm a moment… or completely derail it. Watch us on YouTube! (By clicking this [https://m.youtube.com/velvetsedge]) Email us: theedge@velvetsedge.com [theedge@velvetsedge.com] TikTok: @velvetsedge [https://www.tiktok.com/@velvetsedge] Follow the podcast on Instagram: @VelvetsEdgePodcast [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedgepodcast/] HOSTS: Kelly Henderson // @velvetsedge [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/] // velvetsedge.com Chip Dorsch // @chipdorsch [https://www.instagram.com/chipdorsch/] Follow Velvet's Edge on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/ [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

The Science of Attunement: Stop Fixing, Start Connecting (The Velvet)

Licensed clinical social worker and EMDR therapist Nidhi Tewari joins Kelly to discuss the powerful skill most of us were never taught: attunement. Based on her upcoming book Working Well, this conversation explores why trying to “fix” others often backfires, what to say when someone is overwhelmed, and how small conversational habits quietly shape trust. A practical, eye-opening discussion on emotional regulation, communication, and healthier relationships at work and in life. You can preorder Nidhi’s book, Working Well, HERE! [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/788782/working-well-by-nidhi-tewari-msw-lcsw-foreword-by-amy-cuddy/?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio] Visit Nidhi's website HERE [https://nidhitewarilcsw.com]! (https://nidhitewarilcsw.com [https://nidhitewarilcsw.com]) Find Nidhi on Instagram: @NidhiTewarilcsw [https://www.instagram.com/nidhitewarilcsw/]   Watch The Velvet's Edge on YouTube! [https://m.youtube.com/velvetsedge] Email us: theedge@velvetsedge.com [theedge@velvetsedge.com] TikTok: @velvetsedge [https://www.tiktok.com/@velvetsedge] Follow the podcast on Instagram: @VelvetsEdgePodcast [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedgepodcast/] HOST: Kelly Henderson // @velvetsedge [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/] // velvetsedge.com Follow Velvet's Edge on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/ [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Is the Spark Overrated? Dating Apps, Chemistry & the Illusion of Choice (The Edge)

Is “the spark” actually a reliable sign of compatibility — or something that’s quietly sabotaging modern dating? Kelly and Chip unpack the difference between butterflies and nervous system chaos, why instant chemistry can be misleading, and how swipe culture keeps us stuck in constant evaluation mode. The conversation dives into dating apps, the “just one more swipe” mindset, choice overload, and why too many options can make dating feel exhausting instead of exciting. They also explore a counterintuitive truth about attraction: why feeling understood and emotionally safe often matters more than being impressed — and how calm, healthy connections can be mistaken for boredom. A relatable, honest look at dating, chemistry, and what actually creates connection. Watch us on YouTube! (By clicking this [https://m.youtube.com/velvetsedge]) Email us: theedge@velvetsedge.com [theedge@velvetsedge.com] TikTok: @velvetsedge [https://www.tiktok.com/@velvetsedge] Follow the podcast on Instagram: @VelvetsEdgePodcast [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedgepodcast/] HOSTS: Kelly Henderson // @velvetsedge [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/] // velvetsedge.com Chip Dorsch // @chipdorsch [https://www.instagram.com/chipdorsch/] Follow Velvet's Edge on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/ [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Modern Dating, Swipe Culture & What Actually Creates Lasting Love with April Beyer (The Velvet)

Dating feels harder than ever. Dating apps, endless options, and swipe culture have left many people confused, burned out, and questioning what actually leads to real love. In this episode, Kelly talks with April Beyer, a 25-year professional matchmaker and founder of LEVEL Connections, about why modern dating feels broken — and what truly creates lasting relationships. With an 89% matchmaking success rate and hundreds of marriages, April shares what she’s learned from decades of helping people find long-term love. They explore why more options don’t lead to better choices, how swipe culture keeps people stuck in evaluation mode, and why chemistry and “spark” are often confused with emotional connection. April explains why relatability, emotional safety, and self-awareness matter more than shared interests or attraction, and how unresolved patterns quietly shape who we choose. The conversation also covers why matchmaking works differently than dating apps, how third-party guidance helps interrupt self-sabotage, and where AI can support dating — without replacing human intuition. If you’re feeling discouraged by dating or stuck in the same relationship patterns, this episode offers clarity, reassurance, and a grounded reframe on what actually lasts. Follow April Beyer on Instagram: @April_Beyer [https://www.instagram.com/april__beyer/] Follow Level Connections on Instagram: @levelconnections [https://www.instagram.com/levelconnections/] Create a profile on Level Connections by clicking HERE [https://app.levelconnections.com/r/velvets-edge], or visit their website: Levelconnections.com [https://levelconnections.com]   Watch The Velvet's Edge on YouTube! [https://m.youtube.com/velvetsedge] Email us: theedge@velvetsedge.com [theedge@velvetsedge.com] TikTok: @velvetsedge [https://www.tiktok.com/@velvetsedge] Follow the podcast on Instagram: @VelvetsEdgePodcast [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedgepodcast/] HOST: Kelly Henderson // @velvetsedge [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/] // velvetsedge.com Follow Velvet's Edge on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/ [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Is This a Phase or a Pivot? Navigating Change, Burnout & Doing Life Differently (The Edge)

In this Friday check-in, Kelly and Chip get personal about a feeling they both can’t ignore lately: we can’t do it this way anymore. From work and routines to relationships and expectations, they talk through the tension between wondering “Is this just a phase?” or realizing it might actually be a pivot. They also share their current micro rebellions — the small, quiet choices that feel like acts of self-trust and resistance in a world that constantly asks for more, faster, louder. Plus, Kelly and Chip give an update on life in Nashville following the recent ice storm and what moments like that reveal about resilience, support, and community. Watch us on YouTube! (By clicking this [https://m.youtube.com/velvetsedge]) Email us: theedge@velvetsedge.com [theedge@velvetsedge.com] TikTok: @velvetsedge [https://www.tiktok.com/@velvetsedge] Follow the podcast on Instagram: @VelvetsEdgePodcast [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedgepodcast/] HOSTS: Kelly Henderson // @velvetsedge [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/] // velvetsedge.com Chip Dorsch // @chipdorsch [https://www.instagram.com/chipdorsch/] Follow Velvet's Edge on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/ [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.