#010 - Cory Richards - I Risked My Life In Order to Save It. What I Learned About Creativity, Belonging, and Living a Meaningful Life.

#010 - Cory Richards - I Risked My Life In Order to Save It. What I Learned About Creativity, Belonging, and Living a Meaningful Life.

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now. It is massively supportive in our ability to keep bringing you powerful conversations. Thank you for all your love!Cory Richards is a National Geographic photographer, world class mountaineer, and the first and only American to summit an 8000 meter peak in winter without supplemental oxygen. He was diagnosed bipolar at 15, dropped out of high school, placed in a psychiatric unit, and put on the street with nothing. He went on to build one of the most celebrated careers in adventure photography the world has ever seen. He also almost lost everything multiple times along the way. And a month and a half before this conversation, he didn't leave his bed for days.Is this a meditation on madness? A masterclass on creativity? A loving interrogation of every label, diagnosis, and story you have ever told yourself about who you are? For me, it was all three.One line in particular has not left me since we recorded this. Cory said that being buried and being planted are often the same thing. Sit with that for a moment.There is wisdom in abundance here, folks. I am grateful to Cory for his radical honesty, for the poetic precision with which he sees the world, and for being willing to go to places in this conversation that he told me he has never gone publicly before.Get ready to hear about why the wellness industry is in Cory's words also quite sick, what your diagnosis is actually giving you and what it is quietly taking away, why you cannot optimize your way out of a lonely life, what belonging really means and why most of what we call belonging is just manipulation with better branding, the story behind the avalanche selfie on the cover of National Geographic and what Cory has never said about it until now, why certainty kills creativity, where God lives in a life like Cory's, and the only thing in the human experience without a duality - love.I left this conversation with eyes more acutely attuned to the color of everything.It was a gift for me. I hope it serves you well. Chapters:03:00 to 08:30 Inspiration vs Compensation08:30 to 17:50 Living madly in order to escape madness17:50 to 23:28 Your ideology is not your identity23:28 to 29:15 Men are in profound struggle right now29:15 to 33:53 Biohacking is bulls**t33:53 to 46:12 We are pathologically self obsessed46:12 to 53:18 What belonging actually means53:18 to 01:02:32 Certainty kills creativity01:02:32 to 01:09:00 Cory was depressed a month ago01:09:00 to 01:23:27 Being buried and being planted are the same thing01:23:27 to 01:33:55 We are all actors playing roles01:33:55 to 01:42:53 Science saves the world. Art makes it worth saving.01:42:53 to 01:47:52 There is only one thing without a dualityBuy Cory's Book for Yourself or a Friend: https://www.amazon.com/Color-Everything-Journey-Quiet-Within/dp/059359679XFollow Cory: https://www.instagram.com/coryrichards/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/

#009 - Mastin Kipp - Therapy is making you better at losing...

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now!! It is massively supportive in our ability to keep bringing you powerful conversations. Thank you for all your love!Mastin Kipp is a number one best-selling author, speaker and Creator of Functional Life Coaching™ for people who are seeking rapid transformation in their lives. He has been featured on the Emmy Award show, Super Soul Sunday, and recognized as a “thought leader for the next generation” by Oprah Winfrey.Mastin has built a highly successful international personal development company that helps people create rapid change, connect to who they really are and how to live their lives with passion and purpose. Through his writing, online courses, in-person seminars and international retreats, Mastin has worked with over two million people in over 100 countries around the world.Oprah recently also named Mastin “one of 100 awakened leaders who are using their voices and talent to elevate humanity,” alongside other teachers such as Tony Robbins, Caroline Myss, Deepak Chopra, Dr. Brené Brown, Marianne Williamson and Eckhart Tolle to name just a few.Is this a live coaching session? A masterclass on winning? A loving interruption to the part of you that is lying to yourself? For me, it was all 3. There is wisdom in abundance here, folks. One passage in particular that stuck out to me from Mastin - "I am more worried when I'm not afraid, because it means I'm not close enough to the edge."A potent and powerful calling card for a life of true empowerment, accomplishment, and fulfilling on the grand vision you hold for your life. I am grateful to Mastin for his piercing honesty, for choosing not to sugarcoat the topics most dance around, and for being willing to speak boldly into all the ways we prevent ourselves from the very thing we desire. Get ready to hear about why the healing industry benefits from keeping you disempowered, what to do about it, how to really win at anything, Mastin's goal setting framework, the skill that determines whether your relationships will survive, what a healthy relationship to fear looks like, what a "one sign disciple" is, the greatest challenge in the world today, and more...This one will challenge how you think about ambition, relationships, healing, and what it actually means to be a fully expressed human.Follow Mastin: https://www.instagram.com/mastinkipp/Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Chapters 03:00 to 10:15 The greatest challenge in the world today10:15 to 18:30 Break up with the pattern, not the person18:30 to 27:00 Mastin coaches Billy27:00 to 36:00 Ambition...36:00 to 44:30 Building a healthier relationship to fear44:30 to 56:00 Staying calm while unraveling on the inside56:00 to 01:10:00 The part that saved your life01:10:00 to 01:22:00 Why you stop right before the breakthrough01:22:00 to 01:35:00 Therapy is making you better at losing01:35:00 to 01:47:00 Separate therapists are pulling your relationship apart01:47:00 to 01:56:00 Do what you love so you can do who you love01:56:00 to 02:20:54 You don't need any more signs...

#008 - You aren't actually angry at your parents...

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now!This is a solo episode. No guest. Just me, a microphone, and one of the most important conversations of our time.Your parents hurt you. That is real. That pain is valid. And this episode is not here to dismiss it. But it is here to ask you a harder question. At what point does the blame that once protected you become the very thing that is keeping you from the life you say you want?I speak from personal experience in this one. A mother with heavily narcissistic tendencies. A father who gaslights and evades. A childhood that left me confused, wounded, and looking for answers. And a long, nonlinear journey from denial to villainization to responsibility to something that finally felt like freedom.This episode covers:- Why most people are more committed to proving they were hurt than actually becoming free- The four stages of processing your relationship with your parents- Why you keep forgiving them but still keep getting activated- The prison of hope and the grief of a relationship that will never become what you secretly wish it might- Why unresolved resentment is almost always unresolved self abandonment- The difference between fitting in and truly belonging- The question that reframes your entire perspective on your parents- How to truly move beyond your parents psychological gripThis one will meet you wherever you are with your parents. And it will ask you to go one step further.Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/CHAPTERS03:00 to 06:30 It is easier to blame your parents than heal. Here is why that keeps you stuck.06:30 to 12:00 You are not actually angry at them. You are angry at this.12:00 to 18:00 The four stages Billy walked through to understand his parents18:00 to 22:00 Why you keep forgiving them but still keep getting hurt22:00 to 27:45 The prison of hope and the vision of the relationship that will never exist27:45 to 30:24 Stop asking why weren't you perfect. Ask this instead.30:24 to 35:30 Unresolved resentment is actually unresolved self abandonment35:30 to 41:43 Shrink your vision or let go of the resentment. You must choose.41:43 to 46:26 Healing is not pretending they didn't hurt you. It is this.46:26 to 51:07 The visualization of resentment. Billy reads the piece that changed everything.

#007 - Chris Griffin - The one trait we all lack but need

If you haven't yet, please subscribe to the show! Three years ago Chris Griffin was broke, heartbroken, and boarding a one way flight to Thailand on a credit card with no plan. Today he has one of the biggest podcasts in Australia, millions of followers, and a clarity about himself that most men spend their entire lives chasing.But the most honest moment in this conversation is not about the success. It is about the season when he had millions of fans and no one to call. When he had changed five friend groups in two years and finally had to ask himself the question most men are too proud to ask. Is it them or is it me?In this conversation Billy and Chris go deep on: * The real difference between confidence and ego and why most men have it backwards * Why naivety and delusion are not weaknesses but the only fuel that gets you through what you cannot yet see * How the $200 million thought experiment will permanently change the way you show up today * Why people pleasing is secretly serving the belief that you are not enough * What it actually means to be okay alone and why most men are terrified of finding out * How ego is the childhood wound that protected you then and is destroying you now * Why the most freeing thing anyone ever said to Chris was that no one cares about you. This one moves fast. It hits hard. And it ends with the line that might change everything for you.Chapters:03:00 to 08:30 Why do people admire but never commit?08:30 to 15:00 What if not knowing is the secret?15:00 to 23:30 Broke, heartbroken, one way flight to Thailand...23:30 to 30:08 Why knowing nothing brings Chris closer to God30:08 to 38:00 What does people pleasing say about you?38:00 to 44:00 Why can most men not sit alone?44:00 to 55:00 What if $200 million hit your account tomorrow?55:00 to 01:00:50 What happens when you become the person first?01:00:50 to 01:05:37 Millions of followers and no one to call...01:05:37 to 01:15:00 What is your childhood ego still hiding?01:15:00 to 01:27:12 The most freeing thing anyone ever told ChrisFollow Chris: https://www.instagram.com/morechrisgriffin/Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/

#006 - David Siciliano - Here's why you feel like you're doing it all wrong

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now!What does it feel like to spend your whole life knowing you're different?This is the primary theme that threads David Siciliano's story.Raised inside a conservative religious community that rewarded conformity and punished curiosity, David spent years collecting shame for simply being wired differently. He went into acting not because he wanted to perform but because it was the only space that let him explore without judgment. He studied psychology at the Ivy League level, went to therapy every week, and slowly pieced together what it actually meant to be himself.In this episode we cover: * What it really means to feel other as a man * Why the religious shame so many men carry is actually a rebellion against interpretation and not belief * How acting teaches you to see your feelings as information rather than identity * What David's one year old son River is teaching him about self acceptance * Why most parents are unconsciously parenting from their own discomfort * How the body rehearses anxiety the same way an actor rehearses a character * The inside out versus outside in approach to regulating your nervous system * The improv rule that will change how you show up in every relationship * Why the most liberating thing a man can hear is that there is nothing to fix.Chapters:03:00 to 07:20 He spent his whole life feeling different07:20 to 13:56 The shame his church gave him 13:56 to 20:16 He used acting to escape. 20:16 to 28:00 Jacob wrestled God and broke his hip...28:00 to 35:00 His one year old son is healing something in him35:00 to 44:38 Your parents were parenting their own discomfort not yours44:38 to 57:00 Are you actually anxious or have you just rehearsed it?57:00 to 01:04:00 What your voice is telling you about your nervous system01:04:00 to 01:21:00 Being called feminine as a boy 01:21:00 to 01:46:00 The one improv rule that will change every relationship you have01:46:00 to 01:52:43 What David would say to his son if he had 60 secondsThis one goes somewhere most conversations never reach.Follow David: https://www.instagram.com/sicilianod/Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr_/