You Choose with Billy Garton Jr.

#006 - David Siciliano - Here's why you feel like you're doing it all wrong

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now!What does it feel like to spend your whole life knowing you're different?This is the primary theme that threads David Siciliano's story.Raised inside a conservative religious community that rewarded conformity and punished curiosity, David spent years collecting shame for simply being wired differently. He went into acting not because he wanted to perform but because it was the only space that let him explore without judgment. He studied psychology at the Ivy League level, went to therapy every week, and slowly pieced together what it actually meant to be himself.In this episode we cover: * What it really means to feel other as a man * Why the religious shame so many men carry is actually a rebellion against interpretation and not belief * How acting teaches you to see your feelings as information rather than identity * What David's one year old son River is teaching him about self acceptance * Why most parents are unconsciously parenting from their own discomfort * How the body rehearses anxiety the same way an actor rehearses a character * The inside out versus outside in approach to regulating your nervous system * The improv rule that will change how you show up in every relationship * Why the most liberating thing a man can hear is that there is nothing to fix.Chapters:03:00 to 07:20 He spent his whole life feeling different07:20 to 13:56 The shame his church gave him 13:56 to 20:16 He used acting to escape. 20:16 to 28:00 Jacob wrestled God and broke his hip...28:00 to 35:00 His one year old son is healing something in him35:00 to 44:38 Your parents were parenting their own discomfort not yours44:38 to 57:00 Are you actually anxious or have you just rehearsed it?57:00 to 01:04:00 What your voice is telling you about your nervous system01:04:00 to 01:21:00 Being called feminine as a boy 01:21:00 to 01:46:00 The one improv rule that will change every relationship you have01:46:00 to 01:52:43 What David would say to his son if he had 60 secondsThis one goes somewhere most conversations never reach.Follow David: https://www.instagram.com/sicilianod/Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr_/

#005 - Joshua Church - He Built a $20M Company By Partnering With the Universe

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now! Joshua Church is a Forbes 30 Under 30 founder, author and podcast host who built Edge Theory Labs into a $20 million company in three years — and then watched it fall apart. But this conversation is not about the rise and fall. It is about what the whole journey revealed about the universe, the self, and what it actually means to follow the path you were put here to walk. Joshua weaves together entrepreneurship, spirituality, Jewish faith, breathwork and a lifelong relationship with his own physical body to arrive at something rare — a man who has genuinely learned how to follow the breadcrumbs. In this episode: * What it means to build a profitable partnership with the universe * Why your job on this earth is smaller than you think * How four major surgeries and a near death experience at 19 led Joshua to his life's work * The rise and fall of Edge Theory Labs and what the collapse really taught him * Why business is the greatest self development course you can enroll in * How to weave spirituality into a business when not everyone sees the world the same way * The danger of missing your own life while you are busy building something * How he wants to be remembered CHAPTERS 03:00 Who he is beyond the accolades07:00 What cosmic breadcrumbs actually means13:00 The path of least resistance and how to find it20:00 Four surgeries and a near death experience at 1928:00 How the body became his greatest teacher35:00 The rise of Edge Theory Labs44:00 Why the company collapsed and what it taught him57:00 Business as a spiritual and self development practice1:05:00 Three years of business advice in 60 seconds1:15:00 Weaving spirituality into a team that does not share your worldview1:28:00 The greatest fear beneath most people's ambition1:38:00 Living off autopilot — the poem that stopped the conversation1:44:00 How he wants to be remembered Get Joshua's book "Cosmic Breadcrumbs":https://www.amazon.com/Cosmic-Breadcrumbs-Building-Profitable-Partnership/dp/B0GG1NRZWF [https://www.amazon.com/Cosmic-Breadcrumbs-Building-Profitable-Partnership/dp/B0GG1NRZWF] Follow Joshua:https://www.instagram.com/joshuadeanchurch/ [https://www.instagram.com/joshuadeanchurch/] Follow You Choose Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/ [https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/] Follow Billy:https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr_/ [https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr_/]

#004 - Stefanos Sifandos - You're in Conflict With Your Past, Not Your Partner

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now!Stefanos Sifandos is a behavioral scientist, author and relationship expert who has worked with special forces soldiers, Olympic gold medalists and world champion fighters. But more than any credential — he is someone who has lived inside the wound he now helps others heal.In this conversation Billy sits down with Stefanos not just as an interviewer, but as a case study of everything Stefanos teaches. This is one of the rawest, most personal conversations you will see online.In this episode: - What mother-son enmeshment actually is and why it is showing up in your adult relationships- Why men who desperately want intimacy keep pushing it away — and what is really happening in the nervous system- Why the work you do outside the argument is the only thing that changes the argument- Billy's own reckoning with shutdown, repressed anger and what happens when sport is no longer the outlet- Why Andrew Tate serves a purpose — and what that says about the men following him- The real reason men cannot find friends who are both ambitious and emotionally deep- What it means to embrace the part of you that wants to burn everything down- Whether some lessons in life can only be learned the hard way- If aliens offered you everything in the cosmos — would you leave this life behindChapters:03:00 Mother son enmeshment and relationships10:00 Why men shut down in intimacy15:00 Regulating your nervous system in conflict28:00 Repressed anger and where it goes37:00 Addiction and the pull toward escape44:00 Monogamy desire and the fear of commitment56:00 Guilt shame and self honesty1:00:00 Finding men who are deep and driven1:06:00 His story — the moment everything changed1:21:00 Andrew Tate and modern masculinity1:30:00 Are some lessons only learned through pain1:38:00 How much do you love this life1:50:00 What stopped him from ending itGet Stefanos' book "Tuned In and Turned On":https://www.amazon.com/Tuned-Turned-Connection-Healing-Lasting-ebook/dp/B0F4QBVX5GFollow Stefanos:https://www.instagram.com/stefanossifandos/https://www.youtube.com/@stefanosssifandosFollow You Choose Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/Follow Billy:https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr_/

#003 - Stuart Champion - The Body Wisdom Expert - This is how you permanently heal yourself

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now! Stuart Champion spent years in chronic, debilitating back pain — army-crawling to the bathroom, unable to sit on a plane, unable to visit his family in England. Western medicine offered cortisone injections, surgery, and the promise of a spinal fusion. His body said no. What he found wasn't a hack or a protocol. It was a practice of listening. Stuart is now 44 years old — surfing, playing competitive soccer, and hiking for miles — in better physical shape than he was at 21. This conversation reveals the main reason why. We go deep into the body-mind connection, why most suffering traces back to a nervous system stuck in survival mode, and why the real work of healing isn't doing more — it's slowing down enough to actually feel what's there. In this episode: - Why the root of most suffering is a stressed nervous system in survival mode - How unresolved emotions get stored as physical tension in the body - Stuart's journey from army-crawling at 27 to surfing competitively at 44 - Why "I don't have time to slow down" is the most expensive belief you can hold - The morning practice Stuart does before touching his phone - What the greatest disease in the modern world actually is - Stuart's father, terminal cancer, and an honest reckoning with Western medicine - Why all your wellness practices might still be a form of escape - The code Stuart would download into every human on earth Chapters: 03:00 Why your body is screaming at you and you keep ignoring it 07:20 The breathing exercise that shifts your entire nervous system in minutes 15:00 How the arguments you had as a kid are living in your body right now 28:00 The thing that happens when you finally stop running from the pain 38:00 He couldn't fly, couldn't drive, couldn't visit his family for years 47:00 The question that will make you deeply uncomfortable 54:40 Why "I don't know" might be the most honest thing you ever say 1:01:00 His father is dying and Western medicine has no answers 1:07:00 The greatest disease in the world and where it actually starts 1:15:00 What your breathwork, meditation and ice baths might really be doing 1:24:00 What he wishes he knew before the surgery that didn't have to happen 1:30:00 Army crawling at 27. Surfing competitively at 44. Here is how. 1:38:00 The one thing already inside you that changes everything Check out Balanced Body Wisdom: https://www.balancedbodywisdom.com https://www.instagram.com/balancedbodywisdom/ Follow Stuart: https://www.instagram.com/stuartjameschampion/ Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr_/

#002 - Alex Hussain - Son of a Pastor Who Left the Church and Found God

I'm scared. I'm angry. I'm confused. And I'm worried I'm never going to know God. That's how this episode begins... What follows is one of the most honest conversations about faith, spirituality and the search for the divine you'll hear anywhere. Before you read on, if you haven't yet, please subscribe now! Alex Hussain is one of the most honest voices on faith I've ever sat across from. This wasn't a polished theological lecture. This was me, on the record, admitting that every attempt I make to find God feels like an intellectual search that leads nowhere — and asking Alex to help me find a way through. We went everywhere. Religion vs spirituality. Why the church can feel like it's selling certainty instead of creating space for questions. How Alex went six years without feeling God at all. The moment God came back — and what happened in that room. Why your anger at God might actually be the most honest prayer you've ever said. And why the personal development journey is about becoming, but the spiritual journey is about realizing you already are. This episode is for anyone who has ever sat in a church, a meditation retreat, or a morning practice and thought — I know something's supposed to be here, but I can't find it. In this episode: - Why trying to find God intellectually might be exactly what's keeping you from him - The difference between God moving at the speed of light and the speed of love - Alex's six years of spiritual disconnection — and the moment it broke open - Why going to church thousands of times, the closest he felt to God was at a rave - What the personal development journey gets wrong about God - How your anger, confusion and grief might be the purest gateway to the divine - Why asking questions in religious communities can feel like a threat to your belonging - What sin actually means — beyond the one-dimensional version you were given - Is AI the devil? - How to pray when you don't know how to pray Alex has no current public social media account. Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr_/ Chapters 03:00 The real reason you can't find God and it has nothing to do with faith 07:20 God moves at the speed of love — what that actually means 13:20 We don't want to obey God. We want God to obey us. 17:00 The most peaceful he has ever felt is when he is not the centre of his universe 30:00 The personal development journey is about becoming. The spiritual journey is the opposite. 37:00 He went to church thousands of times. The closest he felt to God was at a rave. 44:00 The moment Alex stopped feeling God — and the six years that followed 1:06:00 Sing, dance, play — why the inner child is the gateway to God 1:09:00 Can God handle your anger? 1:19:30 The day God came back — what happened in that room 1:28:00 How to actually pray when you don't know how to pray 1:36:00 What belonging to God does to every other desire in your life 1:46:00 What is sin, who is the devil, and is AI the antichrist