A Question of Death

A Recipe for Remembrance

About the Episode In this solo episode, I explore the connection between food, memory, & legacy. Autumn’s reflective mood leads me to discuss how cherished recipes can live on as powerful keepsakes, especially after the loss of loved ones. I delve into the fascinating tradition of Thai funeral cookbooks, their historical significance, and how they preserve both culinary and personal histories. You'll also hear about unique gravestone recipes, a modern tribute ensuring beloved dishes remain part of the world. I reflect on my own journey to recreate my Nan Ivy’s roast parsnips, and share the recipe below. Further Reading * Alan Davidson’s insights on funeral cookbooks from A Kipper with My Tea * To Die For: A Cookbook of Gravestone Recipes - Rosie Grant Ivy’s Roast Parsnips Ingredients * Parsnips (1.5-2 per person) * Beef Dripping (around 2 tbsp of fat per four parsnips) Directions * Preheat the oven to 200ºC * Add the fat to a roasting tin that will hold all the parsnips in one layer. * Place in the hot oven to heat the fat. * Peel parsnips & divide longways into 4 long chunks * Place them in a saucepan with cold salted water & bring to the boil. Once the water is boiling, the parsnips will need round 3 minutes to parboil. * Drain the parsnips in a colander once parboiled, taking care not to break them. * Toss the prepared parsnips in the roasting pan & fully coat them in the hot fat. Ensure to spread the vegetable chunks evenly in the roasting pan, so they have a chance to go crispy. * Roast for 35-40 minutes until deeply golden & soft in the middle, regularly basting them in the hot fat throughout cooking. A selection of Gravestone Recipes Spritz Cookies - Naomi Odessa Miller-Dawson: November 26, 1921 - June 10, 2009 Green-Wood Cemetery Brooklyn Fudge - Martha Kathryn 'Kay' Kirkham Andrews: August 30, 1922 - December 17, 2019 Logan City Cemetery, Logan, Utah Christmas Cookies - Maxine Menster: August 5, 1926 - September 26, 1994 Cascade Community Cemetery, Cascade, Dubuque County, Iowa No bake cookies - Bonnie June Rainey Johnson June 30 1935 - May 2007 Nome City Cemetery Nome, Alaska Date and Nut Bread - Constance G. Galberd June 11 1928 - September 25, 2008 Highlands Highland Mills, NY Snickerdoodle Cookies - Annabell Gunderson: September 19, 1920- December 14, 2007 Willits Cemetery, Mendocino County, California, Blueberry pie - H Margaret Rees Davis: July 4, 1918-November 6, 2004 Mountain View Memorial Park. Lakewood, WA Cheese Dip - Debra Ann Nelson: April 6, 1964 - March 8, 2021 Dow City Cemetery, Dow City, Crawford County, Iowa Heavenly Daze Ice cream - Marian S. Montfort: December 11, 1921 - December 22, 2007 Robertson Shearer Sugar Cookies - Fleda Jane Shearer: March 5, 1934 - June 3, 2017 Magness Cemetery, AS Kim's Carrot Cake - Kimette Lee Decota November 4, 1956 - August 28, 2014 Cape County Memorial Park Cemetery, Cape Girardeau, Missouri Chocolate Mint Brownies John Rodda 1941 - January 18, 2019 Maple Grove Cemetery, Wichita, KS Dr. Death's Ranch - Marty Lee Woolf February 16, 1978 - August 1 2022. Saltese Cemetery, Greenacres.  Chicken Soup - Valerie C Volpe, Apr. 18, 1947 - Sep. 10, 2016, Saint Matthew's Cemetery, West Seneca, NY Meatloaf  - Beverly L. Lofland (Jul 22, 1932-Mar 10, 2006). Comal Cemetery in New Braunfels, TX About the Podcast  Exploring and improving our relationship with death through respectful enquiry.  Here you’ll find conversations with those who work with the dead & grieving, in addition to episodes examining death through a lens of history & the arts, folklore and food.  We’ll take you from ancient funerary rituals to forensic anthropologists via green burials, disaster recovery and Persephone’s pomegranates. We hope the journey & stories will provide you with some of the knowledge and empathy you need to navigate this vast hidden world as well as shine a light on the kindness and tenderness displayed by those professionals who truly take care of our dead.  Contact: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠A Question of Death⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://linktr.ee/aquestionofdeath]

Too Poor to Die - A Conversation with Dr Amy Shea

About the Episode Amy & I discussed her moving and enlightening new book released on 30 September in the UK. About the Book “Death is the great equalizer, but not all deaths are created equal. In recent years, there has been an increased interest and advocacy concerning end-of-life and after-death care. An increasing number of individuals and organizations from health care to the funeral and death care industries are working to promote and encourage people to consider their end-of-life wishes. Yet, there are limits to who these efforts reach and who can access such resources. These conversations come from a place of good intentions, but also from a place of privilege. Too Poor to Die: The Hidden Realities of Dying in the Margins, a collection of closely connected essays, takes the reader on a journey into what happens to those who die while experiencing homelessness or who end up indigent or unclaimed at the end of life. Too Poor to Die bears witness to the disparities in death and dying faced by some of society’s most vulnerable and marginalized and asks the reader to consider their own end-of-life and disposition plans within the larger context of how privilege and access plays a role in what we want versus what we get in death.” ⁠https://uk.bookshop.org/p/books/too-poor-to-die-the-hidden-realities-of-dying-in-the-margins-amy-shea/7877982?ean=9781978843981&next=t⁠ [https://uk.bookshop.org/p/books/too-poor-to-die-the-hidden-realities-of-dying-in-the-margins-amy-shea/7877982?ean=9781978843981&next=t] About the Author Amy Shea is an essayist, and is the author of Too Poor to Die: The Hidden Realities of Dying in the Margins. Her work has appeared in The Missouri Review, Pangyrus, Portland Review, The Massachusetts Review, Spry Literary Journal, Fat City Review, From Glasgow to Saturn, & the Journal of Sociology of Health & Illness. She works as the Writing Program Director for Mount Tamalpais College, a free community college for the incarcerated people of San Quentin Rehabilitation Center.  About the Podcast  Exploring and improving our relationship with death through respectful enquiry. Here you’ll find conversations with those who work with the dead and grieving, in addition to episodes examining death through a lens of history & the arts, folklore and food.  We’ll take you from ancient funerary rituals to forensic anthropologists via green burials, disaster recovery and Persephone’s pomegranates. We hope the journey & stories will provide you with some of the knowledge and empathy you need to navigate this vast hidden world as well as shine a light on the kindness and tenderness displayed by those professionals who truly take care of our dead.  Contact: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠A Question of Death⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://linktr.ee/aquestionofdeath]

Dying for Dinner - An Interview with Valentine Warner

About the Episode In this episode we discussed the ethics around eating meat, hunting for food and the cycles of life. Should we honour the sacrifice of the animal on our plate or have we gotten so far from the earth and what it provides that we can consider meat and fish as just another item in a nutritional profile? This was a wide ranging discussion which also included the death of a close family member and funeral plans as well as environmental challenges. Valentine Warner is Food Writer & Chef. You can find him on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/valentinewarner49/?hl=en] Scribehound Food can be found here [https://join.scribehound.com/food] About the Podcast  Exploring and improving our relationship with death through respectful enquiry. Here you’ll find conversations with those who work with the dead and grieving, in addition to episodes examining death through a lens of history & the arts, folklore and food.  We’ll take you from ancient funerary rituals to forensic anthropologists via green burials, disaster recovery and Persephone’s pomegranates. We hope the journey & stories will provide you with some of the knowledge and empathy you need to navigate this vast hidden world as well as shine a light on the kindness and tenderness displayed by those professionals who truly take care of our dead.  Contact: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠A Question of Death⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://linktr.ee/aquestionofdeath]

Death Deities - A Conversation with Dr Icy Sedgwick

About the Episode Enjoy this fascinating conversation with Dr Icy Sedgwick about the Death Goddesses, Persephone & Hel via a short Hecate detour. We explore the connections between female deities and traditional views of femininity and how death Goddesses disrupt these ideas. It is wise to remember that Goddesses can and often do more than one job. This episode also answers the long debated question whether there is any connection between Persephone’s particular fruit: the pomegranate, a Gregg’s Yum Yum and a custard tart from a sadly defunct bakers called Firkins. Icy is a folklore writer and host of the Fabulous Folklore podcast. You can find her via her ⁠website⁠ [https://www.icysedgwick.com/] and as @icysedgwick on all the socials. About the Podcast  Exploring and improving our relationship with death through respectful enquiry. Here you’ll find conversations with those who work with the dead and grieving, in addition to episodes examining death through a lens of history & the arts, folklore and food.  We’ll take you from ancient funerary rituals to forensic anthropologists via green burials, disaster recovery and Persephone’s pomegranates. We hope the journey & stories will provide you with some of the knowledge and empathy you need to navigate this vast hidden world as well as shine a light on the kindness and tenderness displayed by those professionals who truly take care of our dead.  Contact: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠A Question of Death⁠⁠⁠ [https://linktr.ee/aquestionofdeath]

Ashes to Admin - A Conversation with Evie King

About the Episode “You’re going to die. That’s not meant as a threat, by the way. Just establishing a premise.”  ― Evie King, Ashes to Admin: The Caseload of a Council Funeral Officer  In this episode I had wonderful conversation with Evie King about her wonderful book Ashes to Admin where she shared her story of how she became a Council Funeral Officer. The book contains intriguing and moving stories of some of those Evie worked who were the beneficiaries of a Section 46 funeral.   Discover the importance of rituals, the realities of funeral poverty, and how we can better prepare for the inevitable.  You can buy her book here: Ashes to Admin [https://uk.bookshop.org/p/books/ashes-to-admin-tales-from-the-caseload-of-a-council-funeral-officer-evie-king/7322235] As part of her campaign to help raise the standard of Council funerals across the UK you can find  the text to send your MP here: https://www.goodreads.com/author_blog_posts/25061214-mp-email---council-funerals [https://www.goodreads.com/author_blog_posts/25061214-mp-email---council-funerals] About the Podcast  Exploring and improving our relationship with death through respectful enquiry. Here you’ll find conversations with those who work with the dead and grieving, in addition to episodes examining death through a lens of history & the arts, folklore and food.  We’ll take you from ancient funerary rituals to forensic anthropologists via green burials, disaster recovery and Persephone’s pomegranates. We hope the journey & stories will provide you with some of the knowledge and empathy you need to navigate this vast hidden world as well as shine a light on the kindness and tenderness displayed by those professionals who truly take care of our dead.  Contact: ⁠⁠⁠A Question of Death⁠⁠ [https://linktr.ee/aquestionofdeath]