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You do not have to lower expectations in relationships

Have you ever been told, “You need to lower your expectations”? This kind of advice is often given after you’ve expressed feeling hurt in a relationship. It could be that you were hurt by your partner, a parent, a sibling, or a friend, and this advice is intended to ease your suffering. However, I believe that suffering is a part of the human experience. In fact, it’s also part of feeling the most happiness and joy. In this episode, I share why lowering your expectations is a myth, how it can actually contribute to more suffering in certain situations, and how it’s often used to suppress emotions rather than help someone express themselves. I break this all down and more in this episode. Listen now.

I want to feel respected!

Have you said out loud to your partner or to yourself, “I deserve to be respected,” or “I feel disrespected,” whether it’s something you’ve currently said or something you’ve said to an Ex?Do I want you to feel respected? 100%. BUT, there’s way more to this sentiment than what you think. The hard truth is when you think you deserve to be respected, it’s mostly coming from the ego. Not all of it, but a lot of it. And when a thought or feeling is getting activated by the ego, it’s code for: there’s something much deeper going on. In this episode, I share with you one question that will get you to the deeper truth of why you’ve felt so disrespected in the past or within your current relationship. This one question is actually at the heart of why you’ve maybe been stuck in a pattern of feeling so disrespected in relationships. When you can answer this question with total honesty and understanding, something will change this pattern inside of you for good. I don’t mean that you won’t ever feel disrespected, but when that thought comes through, you’ll know WHY and what you need to ask for instead.  Take a listen. I think you’ll really enjoy this one!

The BEST advice about fighting in relationships that I personally use

In this episode, I intuitively share the steps I’ve personally used in my relationship with my husband, Hemal, as well as the techniques I’ve applied to help many couples navigate fights and conflict. I explain how to grow through conflict and how it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with the relationship or that it needs to be destructive. Conflict, especially in long-term relationships, is normal and healthy. It becomes healthy when used as an opportunity to deeply understand each other, express emotions you haven’t been able to put into words, and take accountability for what’s yours while helping your partner recognize what’s theirs. You’ll LOVE how I show that even anger can play a vital role in evolving and growing closer together. Take a listen now!

How to release resentments in your relationship

I share a story about a client who’s stuck in a cycle of resentment with their spouse. Resentments build because there’s a translation being made about the partner or the person you’re dating that makes you feel like you’re not allowed to be yourself, or like you’re giving too much, or that you’re being used or taken advantage of in some way. That translation, however, could be true or not true. You don't know unless you understand what’s really happening within yourself first—whether you're feeling the resentment or receiving it. Once you share that, you can get curious about what’s happening on the other side. I break this all down in this episode, and it’s oh-so-good. When you allow yourself to release the resentment you or your partner are carrying, AHHHH the feeling is soooo freeing. That’s when the love can flow again. Receiving that flow is what we all deeply desire. Take a listen now.

Conflict in Partnership Around Money

One of the biggest reasons for conflict in a marriage is money. So, in this episode, I’m sharing with you a personal story about how my husband and I struggled with topics about money. I share a breakthrough conversation that we recently had that helped me own my worth, and had him understand he was leading with his ego when it came to money. Take a listen.