Don't Tell the Kids

Don't tell the kids... psychedelics are medicine

Buckle up, this one goes places. Mel and Siobhan start out talking about how Siobhan is never going to be the organized, 4 a.m.-journaling type — and how living next to someone that disciplined can quietly make you feel like you're doing life wrong (you're not). From there, it somehow turns into a conversation about who we become inside long relationships, the parts of ourselves that get shaped by the person we're with, and the parts we get to keep. Then it gets real. Mel shares about an old love from her teenage years who just passed away, and the psychedelic journey she did days later with a group of women. What she saw, what she felt, and the kind of peace that came with it — the wind, the love, all of it. We get into ayahuasca, mushrooms, the night she sent Chris off not knowing if he'd come back the same man, and what it actually means to love someone enough to let them go. There are tears. There's a Foreigner song we tried not to sing. There's a story about Michael's mom thinking he'd been kidnapped because he was suddenly texting like a normal human. It's messy, it's tender, it's a lot — and it's so us. If you've ever loved someone hard, lost someone unexpectedly, or just wondered what's on the other side of fear... pour the coffee. We're so glad you're here. 💛

Don't tell the kids... our brains never shut off

If you've ever stood in the kitchen mentally running tomorrow's lunches, three carpools, and what's defrosting for dinner while your husband walks in and asks what you're thinking about... this one's for you. Siobhan and Mel get into the invisible mental load women carry and how differently our brains work from the men in our lives. It started because some guy on Instagram told one of our besties to "stop complaining" — and well, we had thoughts. We talk about why women verbally process, the difference between needing advice and just needing to be heard, and why "assume positive intent" has changed how Mel moves through the world (mostly — Miami traffic is its own thing). We get into mother's intuition, the science behind gut feelings, and why, somehow, raising kids became "less than" having a career. It's messy and all over the place, as usual. Basically, a permission slip to stop apologizing for everything our brains and bodies are doing behind the scenes. Pour the coffee. You're not alone in any of it. 💛

Don't tell the kids... grandma used to scream

This episode, just like every other one, gets real. Siobhan and Mel sat down to talk about their moms — what they taught us about being women, what they didn't, and all the messy in-between stuff that we're still untangling as we raise our own kids. We get into it: the houses we grew up in (one filled with baked goods and zero visible conflict, the other with a mom who was amazing 20 days out of the month and losing it the other 10). The grandparents who somehow morphed into completely different people than the parents we remember. The Kim Kardashian conversation Mel had to have with her boys on the family room floor (you'll want to hear how that went). The Disney movies that ruined us. The generational baggage we're actively choosing not to pass down. We talk about how our moms gave us everything they knew how to give — and how some of us are saying "no thanks" to the parts that don't fit anymore. About being the first in the lineage to stop stuffing it all down. About yelling at our kids when we're tired and feeling terrible about it. About the tiny moments — a kid offering to finish the dishes, a teacher's email, a daughter wiping drool off a baby's chin — that remind us we might actually be doing okay. If you've ever looked at your own mother and thought I love you AND I'm doing this differently, this one's for you.

Don't Tell the Kids... We're Half-Baked Too

Okay mama, pour the coffee (or the wine, no judgment here) because this one's a ride. We're getting into ALL of it this week — like the fact that we're suddenly the moms holding the menu at arm's length and using our phones as little telescopes because nobody wants to admit they need readers yet. We're talking about the time a certain THC kombucha at a Miami get-together sent us straight into a wormhole, the shirtless WhatsApp profile pic from the gym coach that had us spiraling for two days, and that thing we ALL do where we fake sick to get out of plans (please tell me it's not just us). We get into the real stuff too — the mental load that lives rent-free in our brains while our husbands are blissfully thinking about exactly nothing, the guilt and grace of single-mom seasons when there's no backup coming, and how to discipline kids when, let's be honest, we're not exactly the most disciplined humans ourselves. We talk about apologizing to our kids when we lose it, raising boys to actually be good men in a world that's a little confused about what that even means anymore, and why date night is non-negotiable. Plus there's a pile of clothes named Timmy, a prank text involving a fake detective, and the time one of our husbands told the kids mom used to have a girlfriend (she did not). It's messy, it's honest, it's everything we'd tell you over coffee if the kids weren't around. Hit play and hang out with us. xo

Don’t tell the kids… we have no idea how to teach consent

This conversation started light… and then got real. Because once you actually think about consent today — not just the idea of it, but what it looks like with phones, Snapchat, alcohol, all of it… It’s not simple. It’s layered, it’s messy, and honestly… it’s a little scary when you’re raising boys in it. We didn’t solve anything — but we talked about it. Don’t tell the kids.