Foreign Affairs: dating men

The Modern Gay Buffet: Chemsex, Orgies, and "Chill"

Welcome to the modern gay market, where "looking to chill" rarely means watching Netflix. In this episode of Foreign Affairs we talk about the normalization of group sex, the "buffet mentality" driven by digital FOMO and tackle the deeper question: are extreme hookup trends and chemsex filling an intimacy void, or are we just two grumpy men completely out of touch with the new norm? Tune in for a hilarious reality check on why a traditional, sober one-on-one date feels like the ultimate rebellion.

Red flags and red lines

What makes you swipe left or walk out in the middle of a date? In this episode, Stephen and Alex break down their ultimate "No-Gos" - from the superficial to the deal-breakingly political. Why it always comes in a "bundle" and why everyone is still someone's ideal in the end.

The Age Episode: Age Gaps, Grindr Lies, and the "Daddy" Taboo

In this episode of Foreign Affairs, Stephen and Alex tackle the ultimate gay taboo: getting older. How does this affect us and our dating life. Horrifying milestone of being called "Daddy" for the first time, creepy story about a roleplay date in a spider-themed apartment, Grindr age-fakers and breaking down the gay aging pipeline (from Twink to Daddy and beyond). Tune in as we discuss age gaps, the "Sugar Daddy" expectation, and whether getting older actually brings wisdom—or just back pain!

Open relationship: open or over?

Are open relationships just a polite way of saying you’re bored, or is it the ultimate evolution of trust? In this episode of Foreign Affairs, Stephen and Alex dive deep into the world of non-monogamy within the gay community. Whether you're strictly monogamous or living in a throuple, join us for a candid, witty, and slightly psychedelic conversation about love, honesty, and the "Puritanical underpinnings" of modern dating.

Pilot: The American, The Russian & The Monologue

Welcome to Episode Zero! We introduce ourselves (and our baggage). Stephen explains why you should "ask as many questions as you answer" on a date, Alex breaks down the difference between American "fakeness" and Dutch bluntness, and we share horror stories of our dates.