Intimate Interactions

When Is Flirting Creepy? (Andre Lazarus)

Talking about flirting and creepiness with men can be challenging sometimes. I’ve heard folks literally say you can’t even flirt anymore because it could lead to negative consequences. Today, I’m going to chat about the difference between flirting and creepiness. Spoilers: it’s all about the dynamic between two people, not about what one person is communicating. Our guest today is Andre Lazarus, an Intimacy and Sex coach, a Surrogate Partner, and a Sacred Intimate with over 10 years of experience in non monogamy. His new project is the Open to More: How to Navigate Consensual Non-monogamy course at https://coming-closer.com/ [https://coming-closer.com/]. You can find him @comingcloserwithandre on social media. Now let’s talk about fragility, defensiveness, and creepiness - and best of all, how to do your best to avoid them and channel accountability, consent, and nurturance here on Intimate Interactions.

How I got into this kind of work (Roy Biancalana)

Today I’m interviewing Roy Biancalana, a 62 year old white guy who was once a TV analyst from Florida. I know you’re probably not sure where this is going - usually when someone says man from Florida, you’re expecting to to be like a “man from Alberta” story but bigger, crazier, Americaner. In this case, I’m interviewing a Chicago-based relationship coach of 15 years who self-describes as having made almost every relationship mistake a cis heterosexual man can make. This episode we’ll get to know each other a little and talk about accountability. Site: https://coachingwithroy.com/ [https://coachingwithroy.com/] Book: Relationship Bootcamp [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1733301402/ref=sr_1_3?keywords=Relationship+Bootcamp&qid=1571997766&sr=8-3] Podcast: The Attracting, Lasting Love Podcast

Blissipline, a Community Culture of Effort and Consistency (Mahima)

Mahima is back to talk about daily practices and consistency. Many of us say we want to be disciplined, but she uses the word “blissiplined” in that discipline need not be an onerous task or strife. She’ll discuss the importance of a community and the culture they embody and model for you. We’ll touch on the importance of play in making daily practices compelling. Finally, content warning for the word “tribe” to mean a small community of non indigneous people forming close relationships. Resources Simon Sinec - Start with Why It won't change unless you do Done w feeling busy with this story Atomic habits The obstacle is the way Grit by Duckworth Keep Sharp by Sanjay Gupta

Psilocybin and the Power to Change (Susannah Rose Stokes)

Psilocybin containing mushrooms are increasingly in research publications these days. In February 2022, Johns Hopkins published a follow up study suggesting the anti-depressant effects of psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy for those with Major Depressive Disorder may last at least a year for some patients, see show notes for the study. Today we’ll be talking with Susannah Rose Stokes about metamorphosis and transformation. Our conversation will wander from sacred sexuality to church culture, from bdsm culture and brat identities back to sexuality and threesomes. And of course, we’ll talk about mushrooms from microdoses to hero doses. I’ll even share a recent mishap involving my first experience with Costa Rican mushrooms. Enjoy. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/02698811211073759 [https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/02698811211073759] https://www.instagram.com/susannahroses/?hl=en [https://www.instagram.com/susannahroses/?hl=en] https://www.linkedin.com/in/golden-rule-leadership [https://www.linkedin.com/in/golden-rule-leadership] https://opentomore.mykajabi.com/ [https://opentomore.mykajabi.com/] (Open to More course)

Intimacy Exercises without Penetration (Andre Lazarus)

Today we’re talking with Andre Lazarus, an Intimacy and Sex coach with over 10 years of experience in non monogamy. His new project is the Open to More: How to Navigate Consensual Non-monogamy course at https://coming-closer.com/ [https://coming-closer.com/]. You can find him @comingcloserwithandre on social media. Now, let’s chat about intimate things we can do with our partners that don’t involve penetration. For those of you who love penetration, note that these exercises might improve intimacy and through that, improve the quality of the penetrative sex you have later on. Your mileage may vary, but either way good luck! Resources * Non-Violent Communication (NVC) the book helped me with boundaries * The Assertiveness Workbook helped me with passivity and passive-aggressive communication We talk about indie intimacy po0rn and I refer to https://Afourchamberedheart.com [https://afourchamberedheart.com/]