Listening First

From Tragedy to Triumph, with Chris and Denise Arthey

In this episode of Listening First, Patrick and Ben sit down with Chris and Denise Arthey to explore what it means to rebuild a life after unimaginable trauma. Following a catastrophic motorcycle accident caused by a drunk driver, both Chris and Denise became above-knee amputees, forcing them to confront a future radically different from the one they had planned. Their conversation begins in the immediate aftermath of the crash, when survival - not recovery - was the only focus. From there, they reflect on the long and often difficult journey of rehabilitation, sharing how trauma challenged their sense of identity and required them to redefine self-worth beyond physical ability, achievement, and independence. Chris and Denise discuss the pivotal moments that shaped their recovery: finding hope through the example of others, setting meaningful personal goals, and learning to trust the rehabilitation process even when progress felt frustratingly slow. They also speak candidly about the role of faith, community, and their marriage in helping them navigate pain, uncertainty, and despair. One of the most powerful parts of the conversation centres on forgiveness. Chris and Denise share why they chose to forgive the drunk driver responsible for the accident, and how that decision became an essential part of their healing journey. Eighteen years later, their perspective is both practical and profound. Rather than asking, “Why did this happen to us?”, they focus on a different question: “What happens next?” This episode offers a thoughtful and deeply human exploration of resilience, identity, recovery, and hope - providing valuable insights for anyone facing adversity or supporting someone through it. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Journey 03:46 The Accident and Its Aftermath 07:13 Early Days of Recovery 11:30 Transition from Survival to Determination 16:50 The Role of Peer Support 22:08 Strengthening Relationships Through Trauma 27:24 Faith and Community in Recovery 30:53 Finding Comfort in Community and Faith 33:20 The Importance of Individualized Goals 37:40 Navigating Identity and Perception 48:11 Acceptance and Forgiveness in Recovery 52:49 Messages of Hope for New Journeys Information and Support: Headway - The Brain Injury Association [https://www.headway.org.uk/] The Limbless Association [https://limbless-association.org/] Day One Trauma Support [https://www.dayonetrauma.org/] Mind [https://www.mind.org.uk/] Resources: Highway 35: Meeting Disaster Head-on with Hope [https://www.amazon.co.uk/Highway-35-Meeting-Disaster-Head/dp/1910012831/ref=sr_1_1?crid=39M4ULIOQX14H&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.iPwM8SbHxSlUe7pUQYlBtv0iz82LrUHd1yr3LOndrWRMUgRH5qpGwuOBpKtBxtU6ZuKsvv6YO5qrttuIA8F19meflq3viPm96CCL2IxbK7BBf9tGG0k6U5ByeLtwRpLoM60UxnTE2j3QNp5fQbGEg0YaQqT0Z_fyuFu9M-Z8FHgGCmcA5ZRtfXjlbz4ay3VNacmArhdC_qGp9s-Hss_sJ83B7QlMuFBNabumJCua3iQ.OTx7irxctb-w_YuwpCpstmeChwI_1Ca0ue3ijNx89DM&dib_tag=se&keywords=highway+35&qid=1780427049&sprefix=highway+35%2Caps%2C132&sr=8-1] Chris and Denise Arthey's Website [https://chrisarthey.co.uk/] © 2026 Patrick Boyd and Ben Marram. All Rights Reserved.

Breathing, Brain Health and Marathons, with Dave "Jacko" Jackson

In this insightful conversation, Jacko shares his journey through traumatic brain injury, the importance of breathing techniques in recovery, and his ambitious challenge to raise awareness and one million pounds for two brain injury charities. Discover how slowing down, mindfulness, and understanding the science behind breath work can transform recovery and performance. 00:00Introduction to Jacko's Journey 03:08The Impact of Brain Injury on Life 05:44Finding Meaning in Adversity 08:12The Role of Breathing in Recovery 10:34Understanding Symptoms and Their Evolution 12:43The Cumulative Effects of Head Injuries 15:19Navigating the Unknowns of Recovery 17:37Rehabilitation: A Different Perspective 20:07Identity Shift After Injury 22:57Exploring Breath Work and Its Benefits 24:58The Importance of Slowing Down 29:45The Journey to Writing 'Breathe Smarter, Run Stronger' 33:31Understanding the Science of Breathwork 39:10Breathwork in Everyday Life and Rehabilitation 42:14Jacko's Marathon Challenge for Brain Injury Charities 48:36The Essence of Rehabilitation and Recovery 49:19Exploring the Challenge Ahead 50:45The Importance of Slowing Down and Breathing Resources and Links: * https://thebreathrunningcoach.com/mission-in-possible [https://thebreathrunningcoach.com/mission-in-possible] * Author of ‘Breathe Smarter, Run Stronger’ - order here [https://www.amazon.co.uk/Breathe-Smarter-Run-Stronger-Breathwork/dp/1399423118/ref=zg_bsnr_g_279314_d_sccl_2/262-8959494-0844534?psc=1]  * Headway UK [https://www.headway.org.uk/] * Head for Change | Brain Health & Injury Support in Sport [https://headforchange.org.uk/] © 2026 Patrick Boyd & Ben Marram. All Rights Reserved.

Safeguarding: Whose Job Is It, Anyway? with Linda Sayers

Safeguarding - it is a daily, ongoing process, not just a one-time action; and in doing so, building connections and trust is more important than striving for perfection. These are just a couple of nuggets of safeguarding wisdom discussed in this episode of Listening First. Patrick and Ben speak with Linda Sayers, a social worker and safeguarding expert, discussing the evolving landscape of safeguarding in rehabilitation. Topics include the principles of safeguarding, legislation changes, collaboration between private and statutory sectors, and practical strategies for effective safeguarding practices. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 03:55 Linda Sayers: A Journey Through Social Work 09:45 Understanding Safeguarding in Rehabilitation 15:01 The Evolution of Safeguarding Legislation 20:20 The Importance of Connection in Social Work 27:22 Navigating Inconsistencies in Safeguarding Practices 29:10 The Evolving Landscape of Safeguarding Legislation 31:44 The Role of Private Sector in Safeguarding 35:52 Building Effective Partnerships in Safeguarding 46:22 Understanding Myths and Realities in Safeguarding 50:33 The Essence of Rehabilitation and Recovery 51:52 Introduction to Professional Curiosity and Safeguarding 54:14 The Importance of Collaboration in Safeguarding Resources Section 42 of the Care Act - https://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2014/23/section/42 [https://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2014/23/section/42] Working Together to Safeguard Children 2026 - https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/working-together-to-safeguard-children--2 [https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/working-together-to-safeguard-children--2] Frontal Lobe Paradox Field Guide by Ben Marram - https://theflpfieldguide.com [https://theflpfieldguide.com/] Linda Sayers on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/linda-sayers-0bb66551/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/linda-sayers-0bb66551/] © 2026, Patrick Boyd & Dr Ben Marram. All Rights Reserved.

The Healing System, with David Kenny

In this episode, family therapist Dave Kenny joins Patrick and Ben to share insights into systemic psychotherapy, otherwise known as Family Therapy, its relevance in recovery and rehabilitation, and how understanding family dynamics can improve support systems. Discover practical techniques, the importance of trust, and how therapy adapts to individual family needs. Resources: Family Experience of Brain Injury by Mark Holloway [https://www.amazon.co.uk/Family-Experience-Brain-Injury-Surviving/dp/1138896667/ref=sr_1_1?crid=38O4OZM9BLZQH&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.41AZNPSALjYdWLGhBU5mJzI8TtqyZeaiATZScJa8w61i2MZyBvR1KkoRCX89xCMhA-7PjvrObjzk-1gdih72A9dHE4L4-tqEMPVaFxalNQXPBGQ3gyy_SnbIoYryk322hyeofSkHSrYOkESxNP7fMPDbJWUp5sJ0r5ydPTP-IPiMFjrEc5leI4yD_Ut8utMr521di7wYIZanxYAt8wda9dUiTA4K3613Enl6iD7sg5c.Y4TPnUys6xptLdaGKrG5gpzvVJlDEjtdlEx9cbUNWjQ&dib_tag=se&keywords=family+experience+of+brain+injury&qid=1777391552&sprefix=family+experience+of+brain+injury%2Caps%2C121&sr=8-1&ufe=app_do%3Aamzn1.fos.d7e5a2de-8759-4da3-993c-d11b6e3d217f] Association of Family Therapy (AFT) - https://www.aft.org.uk/ [https://www.aft.org.uk/] UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) - https://www.ukcp.org.uk/ [https://www.ukcp.org.uk/] Newby Psychological Services - https://www.newbypsychologicalservices.co.uk/ [https://www.newbypsychologicalservices.co.uk/] © 2026, Patrick Boyd & Dr Ben Marram. All Rights Reserved.

The Cost of Dishonesty, with Lois Norris (Part 2)

In part 2 of this 2-part series, the conversation delves further into the complexities of fundamental dishonesty within the legal system, particularly in relation to rehabilitation and recovery. Lois Norris, a barrister, shares her insights on the importance of thoroughness, transparency, and integrity in clinical and legal practice. The discussion also highlights the challenges faced by clients in navigating their claims and the emotional toll of being accused of dishonesty. The episode emphasises the need for professionals to maintain a balance between scrutiny and support for their clients, ensuring that the process remains fair and just for all parties involved. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Part 2 01:33 Understanding Inconsistency and Honesty 04:21 The Emotional Journey of Claimants 07:47 Navigating Integrity and Transparency 11:36 The Role of Scrutiny in Rehabilitation 16:39 The Balance of Fairness in Legal Processes 21:54 Future Directions in Addressing Dishonesty 26:31 Rehabilitation as Evidence in Legal Cases 31:22 Misconceptions About the Legal Profession 36:27 Introduction to Thoroughness and Transparency 37:19 The Role of Detail in Professional Practice 38:22 The Importance of Authenticity and Integrity 38:45 Reflections on Imposter Syndrome and Mentorship 39:59 Closing Thoughts Credits: Patrick Boyd - Co-host/Producer Dr Ben Marram - Co-host/Producer Lois Norris - Guest ©2026 Patrick Boyd & Ben Marram. All rights Reserved.