Loving Me Loving You Loving Us

Love is Safety: Vulnerability, Healing, and Finding Your Way Back with The Smiths

**DISCLAIMER** This episode includes a candid discussion of suicide and mental health struggles. If you or someone you know is struggling, help is available 24/7. Call or text 988 (Suicide and Crisis Lifeline) for support. What does it look like when the person who is your safe space is the same one you almost lost? Marcus and Allison Smith sit down with Memi and Dr. Lara to share a love story that began at a college campus and grew through NFL pressure, family tension, mental health battles, and a moment that changed everything. Marcus, a 1st round draft pick and 6-year NFL veteran turned ministernand aspiring licensed clinical social worker, opens up about the anxiety, depression, and PTSD he didn't have words for until Allison helped him find them. Allison, a midwife and women's health nurse practitioner, shares what it really costs to love someone through their becoming and helping to see the world without blinders. This is one of the most raw and honest conversations about marriage and mental health, loving a partner through crisis, and what healing in marriage actually looks like in real time. In this conversation, you'll discover: * Why cutting off access and putting up boundaries is sometimes the most powerful move in a relationship * How to love a partner who was never taught what healthy love looks like * What happens when a provider mindset covers up unaddressed trauma * Why therapy changed the trajectory of their entire family, not just their marriage * How sticking through "the noise" (family conflict, career upheaval, mental health crises) becomes the foundation of a lasting bond Whether you're newly married, years in, or still figuring out how to love yourself first, Marcus and Allison's story will meet you where you are. CHAPTERS ________________________________________________________ 00:00 Episode Intro 01:14 Meet Marcus & Allison Smith 05:00 Icebreaker: Forgiveness & Growth 08:27 How They Met at Penn Relays 18:32 The Friend Zone & the Three-Day Silence 26:40 Day Four: Marcus Makes His Move 32:05 Navigating Family Tensions & Blinders 47:10 NFL Life, Sacrifice & Being Traded 56:30 Marcus's Mental Health Crisis & Walking Away from Football 65:30 Therapy, Healing & Diagnosis 70:05 What Their Marriage Represents

Love is Believing: Growth, Partnership, and Building Potential with The Idikas

What happens when the person you love sees your potential before you do? In this episode of Loving Me, Loving You, Loving Us, we sit down with Nnamdi and Ugochi for an honest conversation about what it looks like to love someone through growth, failure, faith, and becoming. Their love story was not picture-perfect. It included failed dreams, a rocky period of dating, understanding emotional differences, boundary issues, and spiritual misalignment. But through it all, they chose to believe in each other’s potential even before the other could fully see it themselves. In this episode, we explore: * What it means to love someone through failure and self-doubt * Navigating opposite love languages and intimacy mismatch in marriage * Evaluating boundaries to disarm tension in their relationship * Being unequally yoked and growing spiritually together in marriage * Grinding hard after setbacks while building a marriage * The routines, systems, and boundaries keeping their marriage strong after 12 years * Why they are committed to raising children with honesty over perfection This episode is for the couple doing the work behind the scenes. The couple building while healing. The couple choosing each other even when the journey is not glamorous. Because sometimes love is believing in who your partner can become. _______________________________________________________________________________CHAPTERS 0:00 Intro – Welcome to Loving Me, Loving You Loving Us 0:40 Meet Ugochi & Nnamdi: Nurses, Parents, Purpose-Driven Partners 4:12 Icebreaker: Love Languages and Legacy Goals 6:43 How They Met: A Facebook Party, a Dance Floor, and Destiny 15:00 The Off-and-On Relationship Era and the Honesty Box That Saved Them 22:13 How Nnamdi Convinced Ugochi She Was Smart Enough to Succeed 25:55 From LPN to Master's Degree Together: The Ultimate Partnership 27:25 Raising Kids with Honesty: Breaking the Cycle of Parenting Trauma 29:48 Boundaries in Marriage: The Work Husband Problem and How They Fixed It 35:22 Intimacy Mismatch: When You and Your Spouse Have Different Love Languages 41:35 Faith, Marriage, and Being Unequally Yoked: Their Real Journey 47:36 How Nnamdi Found God: From Survival Mode to Leading Family Prayer 51:53 What 12 Years of Marriage Actually Teaches You About Love and Hard Work 56:46 Marriage as Legacy: Raising Kids Who Know Their Purpose 1:00:44 From Nurse to County Executive: When Your Spouse Believes in You First 1:07:00 Final Thoughts and Takeaways

Love is Suffering Well: Faith, Marriage and Parenting Through Life’s Hardest Trials with The Grays

In this deeply moving episode of Loving Me, Loving You, Loving Us, we sit down with Devin and Ashley Gray to share their powerful story of love, faith, and endurance through life’s hardest seasons. From 'Honesty Box' messages (IYKYK) to pivotal make or break moments before marriage, their journey was already layered. But early into marriage, everything changed. Devin was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease while Ashley navigated entering motherhood, forcing them to quickly learn what it means to love through uncertainty. What followed was a series of trials that would test any marriage. Job loss. A surprise twin pregnancy. A high-risk diagnosis. Multiple surgeries. Moments where faith was stretched and supernatural strength was required daily. In this episode, we explore: * Choosing love after breakups and uncertainty * Navigating chronic illness in marriage * Parenting through high-risk pregnancy and medical challenges * Recognizing burnout and supporting your spouse in hard seasons * Holding onto faith when healing has not yet come * What it truly means to suffer well in marriage This conversation is for anyone walking through a difficult season, whether it is health challenges, parenting stress, or emotional exhaustion. It is a reminder that love is not just about joy and celebration, but endurance, commitment, and showing up when life gets hard. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ Chapters 00:00 — Intro 00:55 — Welcome to Loving Me, Loving You, Loving Us + Meet the Grays 03:30 — Icebreaker: Let's Get Deep with 101 Chats to Reach the Peak - Married Edition 07:06 — How They Met: Fur Boots, a Worship Rehearsal & an Attitude 12:00 — MySpace Message, the Honesty Box & How Love Actually Started 15:00 — Courtship, Piano Lessons at the Church & Learning Each Other 21:00 — The Dating Tests: Two Breakups and the "Career or Me" Ultimatum 29:00 — The Proposal Story (It Did Not Go According to Plan) 36:30 — Going Into Year One: The Decision They Made Before They Got Married 38:30 — Six Months In: Crohn's Disease, a New Baby & Unemployed 42:14 — Keeping the Yes When God Is Saying Not Yet: Faith Through Illness 46:55 — The Wave of Peace: How They Saw Each Other During the Calm 51:00 — The Grinding Problem Returns: When Success Becomes Its Own Valley 55:00 — News They Weren't Expecting: Finding Out About the Twins 1:01:09 — The Twin Pregnancy: IUGR, High-Risk Specialists & Doing It Alone 1:05:00 — Seven Surgeries: The Deepest Valley of Their Marriage 1:09:20 — The Pandemic, the Church & Watching Ashley Run on Empty 1:14:00 — What Would You Say to the Couple Who Is Ready to Quit? 1:17:10 — Learning to Suffer Well: Processing the Trauma of the Journey 1:20:00 — Be Patient With Who Your Spouse Is Still Becoming 1:24:00 — What Does It Mean to Suffer Well? The Grays' Marriage Tagline ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ ABOUT THE GRAYS: Devin Gray is a marketing director for a federal government agency, Director of Creative Communications at The Well Church in the DMV, and a true worshipper. Ashley Gray is a business strategist, owner of a luxury cake boutique, Elle & Emma's, and worship leader. Together they are parents to four boys, Aiden, Adrian, Ace, and Avery and a living testimony to what it means to endure well. Connect with the Grays on Socials: @devinhopegray @theashleymariegray @elleandemmas @gatherworshipnights

Love is Scalable: Building a Thriving Marriage, Business, and Vision Together with The Djontus

In this episode of Loving Me, Loving You, Loving Us, we sit down with husband and wife duo Miguel and Mia Djontu to explore what it means to build a marriage that grows alongside ambition, purpose, and business. From the importance of being equally yoked to the role of communication, therapy, and mentorship, Miguel and Mia share how intentional relationship work has strengthened both their partnership and their individual pursuits. They also open up about navigating ambition within marriage, supporting each other’s vision, and ensuring that success never comes at the expense of connection. This conversation challenges the idea that love and ambition compete. Instead, Miguel and Mia show how love can expand, evolve, and scale alongside purpose, faith, and growth. If you’ve ever wondered how couples can build strong marriages while pursuing big goals, this episode offers honest insight, practical wisdom, and encouragement for the journey. Miguel and Gia Djontu are entrepreneurs and the co-owners of Djontu Capital Group, a family-owned holding company with a growing portfolio across multiple industries. Their umbrella includes a real estate investment company, coaching and education brands, Fresh Leaf Commercial Cleaning, and creative ventures such as Mesus Studios (a luxury, editorial wedding photography brand) and MS Studios (a rentable creative studio space). Miguel, born in Cameroon and raised in Prince George’s County, Maryland, is a creative director, business coach, and real estate investor who helps entrepreneurs build premium brands and scalable systems. Gia, born and raised in Prince George’s County with Sierra Leonean roots, is a sales strategist who empowers women to find their voice—strengthening their confidence, communication, and ability to sell with integrity. Together, Miguel and Gia are passionate about helping couples and individuals walk in purpose, activate their gifts, and build a legacy rooted in faith, family, and impact. Keep up with them on social media at: @mesus.studios | @houseofdjontus | @thesegirlscanyap

Love Is Restoration: Rebuilding Trust, Healing Wounds & Strengthening Purpose with The Anthonys

In this powerful episode of Loving Me, Loving You, Loving Us, we sit down with The Anthonys to explore what it truly means to experience restoration in marriage. Love isn’t always picture-perfect. Sometimes it’s rebuilding trust after disappointment. Sometimes it’s choosing forgiveness when it’s hard. And sometimes it’s fighting for healing when walking away feels easier. In this conversation, we unpack: * What marriage restoration really looks like in real life * Rebuilding emotional connection after hurt  * The role of faith in healing broken seasons * Choosing commitment when feelings fluctuate * How restoration strengthens your legacy as a couple  If you’ve ever felt disconnected, discouraged, or unsure how to move forward in your relationship, this episode offers hope, practical wisdom, and a reminder that restoration is possible. Because love can be renewed.