Ronderings

Trauma-Informed Hospitality: Why Survivors Get Re-Traumatized by the Systems Built to Help Them with Jessica Muñoz

Board-certified psychotherapist Jessica Muñoz calls herself a visible survivor of gender-based violence and an expert in re-traumatizing systems designed to help. She built The Business of Healing™ to train the rooms most likely to encounter a survivor first: hotels, gyms, courts, workplaces. In this episode of Ronderings, Ron sits down with Jessica, founder of The Business of Healing™ and a survivor leader with Sanctuary for Families, for a conversation about why early intervention blocks lethality and what trauma literacy actually looks like at a hotel front desk. Jessica grew up in Scotland with a Hispanic last name, moved to West Harlem just before 9/11, and went through domestic violence, sexual assault, criminal court, family court, and the New York City shelter system as a first-generation immigrant. She points to the Diddy and Cassie hotel video as a textbook case of what her training is designed to interrupt. A staff member took a $100,000 payment to keep quiet. That, she argues, is the second wave of harm survivors meet after the first. Ron and Jessica get into what trauma-informed hospitality looks like inside hotels, restaurants, and gyms, why the relationship is the vehicle to healing, and why the courts pay forensic evaluators rates so low that no trained professional will take the work. They also talk about Sanctuary for Families, The Bride's March, Kyra's Law, and why patriarchy is not about men versus women but about unearned power that hurts everyone, men included. Tune in to hear why Jessica believes your story is necessary, not just for healing, but because it is the cultural expertise the system keeps refusing to pay for.   Chapters: 📚 01:13 Ron's call for voices: Leadership in a Time of Chaos, a book about saying something real 🛡️ 02:10 Meet Jessica Muñoz: board-certified psychotherapist and founder of The Business of Healing 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 04:20 Visible survivor of gender-based violence and expert in re-traumatizing systems ⚖️ 09:06 Patriarchy on steroids in the courts: judges and attorneys not literate in trauma 📜 15:31 Kyra's Law and the fight still on Governor Hochul's desk 🏨 17:14 Trauma-informed hospitality: what the Diddy and Cassie hotel video should have stopped 🌹 18:12 The Bride's March: a grassroots movement run by families who lost women 💪 23:00 The barbell section is therapy: inviting the mind back to the body 🎤 24:57 Hit a referral-only mastermind for impact-driven leaders at speakersthatmatter.com [https://speakersthatmatter.com] 🤝 27:12 Why the relationship is the vehicle to healing, from front desk to gym floor 💡 40:03 Got an idea that needs to get out into the world? Check out talktokent.com [https://talktokent.com] 🗣️ 43:51 Jessica's Rondering: your story is necessary, not just for healing 👥 45:42 Patriarchy is about unearned power, not men versus women 🎧 52:36 Podcasts That Matter makes Ronderings happen, check them out at podcaststhatmatter.org [https://podcaststhatmatter.org] Links: Instagram: @jmunozpsychotherapy [https://www.instagram.com/jmunozpsychotherapy] Instagram (The Business of Healing): @businessofhealing [https://www.instagram.com/businessofhealing] Sanctuary for Families: sanctuaryforfamilies.org [https://sanctuaryforfamilies.org] The Bride's March: @bridesmarch [https://www.instagram.com/bridesmarch] Follow Jessica Muñoz and The Business of Healing™ to learn more about trauma-informed hospitality training and the clinical work behind early intervention in gender-based violence.  Connect with Ron: www.linkedin.com/in/rapatalo [http://www.linkedin.com/in/rapatalo] Check Out Ron's Book: www.amazon.com/dp/1613431473 [http://www.amazon.com/dp/1613431473] Leverage Publishing Group: www.leveragepublishinggroup.com [http://www.leveragepublishinggroup.com/] Publish a Book That Matters: http://booksthatmatter.org [http://booksthatmatter.org/] Start a Podcast That Matters: http://podcastsmatter.com [http://podcastsmatter.com/] Go from Expert to Thought Leader: http://geniusdiscovery.org [http://geniusdiscovery.org/] For more great podcasts like this one, visit: https://podcaststhatmatter.org [https://podcaststhatmatter.org/]

Community Is Medicine: Healing Schools Project, Trust, and the Three Questions That Change Everything with Wenimo Okoya

In this episode of Ronderings, Ron sits down with Wenimo Okoya, educator, public health scholar, and founder of Healing Schools Project, for a conversation about why community itself is medicine and why the adults carrying the most trauma are the ones being asked to deliver wellness frameworks for kids. Wenimo's path runs from a Newark classroom (where she lost her job in the Christie-era budget cuts that brought the Zuckerberg money in) to a Master's of Public Health and doctorate at Columbia, to the Children's Health Fund, to the JED Foundation, and now to leading Healing Schools Project, a nonprofit born out of pandemic-era healing circles for educators of color. She introduces herself the way her colleagues at GirlTREK do, by her matrilineal lineage. She is Wenimo, the daughter of Grace, the daughter of Estolita, the daughter of Maude. The thread of women, entrepreneurship, and Caribbean healing wisdom runs through everything she builds. The conversation lands on a simple frame Wenimo brings into every circle she holds: three questions. How are you arriving? What do you need? What do you have the capacity to give? Ron calls it the simplest leadership tool listeners will hear all year. The back half of the episode unpacks why connection has been overcomplicated and why trust is the metric organizations refuse to measure even though they could. Tune in to hear why connection doesn't require innovation and why community is the public health intervention we keep walking past. Chapters: 📚 01:23 Publish your book at www.leveragepublishinggroup.com [http://www.leveragepublishinggroup.com] 🌍 02:35 Meet Wenimo Okoya: Newark teacher, public health scholar, founder of Healing Schools Project 👵 03:32 Daughter of Grace, daughter of Estolita, daughter of Maude: introducing yourself by lineage 🏫 05:40 Teaching in Newark during the Christie cuts and the Zuckerberg money 🎓 08:11 Columbia, Carolyn Belell, and integrating public health and education when no one else was 🦠 13:00 Pandemic healing circles, the JED Foundation, and how Healing Schools Project was born ✍️ 15:14 Find support for writing your impact-driven book at www.booksthatmatter.org [http://www.booksthatmatter.org] 🧪 21:13 Peppermint in the backyard: Caribbean healing wisdom and what immigrants kept 🪑 23:11 The three questions that beat any icebreaker 🌟 32:03 If you are a leader or changemaker looking for support, check out www.geniusdiscovery.org [http://www.geniusdiscovery.org] 📊 36:55 Trust is the metric organizations refuse to measure 🏛️ 40:28 Why funders won't pay for what's in the middle 💊 43:23 Wenimo's Rondering: micro-shifts beat massive change 🎧 48:23 Want a podcast just like this one? Check out www.podcastsmatter.com [http://www.podcastsmatter.com] Links: Website: https://healingschoolsproject.com [https://healingschoolsproject.com] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/healing-schools-project [https://www.linkedin.com/company/healing-schools-project] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healingschools [https://www.instagram.com/healingschools] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/healingschoolsproject [https://www.facebook.com/healingschoolsproject] Connect with Dr. Wenimo Okoya and the Healing Schools Project team to learn more about their work bringing healing-centered practices and educator well-being into schools across the country. Connect with Ron: www.linkedin.com/in/rapatalo [http://www.linkedin.com/in/rapatalo] Check Out Ron's Book: www.amazon.com/dp/1613431473 [http://www.amazon.com/dp/1613431473] Leverage Publishing Group: www.leveragepublishinggroup.com [http://www.leveragepublishinggroup.com/] Publish a Book That Matters: http://booksthatmatter.org [http://booksthatmatter.org/] Start a Podcast That Matters: http://podcastsmatter.com [http://podcastsmatter.com/] Go from Expert to Thought Leader: http://geniusdiscovery.org [http://geniusdiscovery.org/] For more great podcasts like this one, visit: https://podcaststhatmatter.org [https://podcaststhatmatter.org/]

Safe Rooms for Leaders: Revenue, Emotional Regulation, and the Business You're Growing Into with Amirah Raveneau-Bey

Revenue strategist and third-generation entrepreneur Amirah Raveneau-Bey has spent 25 years inside Citibank, Zillow, Trulia, NerdWallet, and Opendoor. The truth she keeps coming back to: you cannot scale a business you are not personally growing into. In this episode of Ronderings, Ron sits down with Amirah, founder of Grow Scale Develop, to talk about why what looks like a revenue problem is almost always a leadership problem. Amirah traces the entrepreneurial line that runs through her family. Her grandparents built a business on Long Island. Her father became a Broadway drummer who turned arts education into a calling when New York public schools started cutting music. She thought she wanted a nine to five and went to Citibank, where her boss told her to stay in the box. Tech said the opposite, so she built what wasn't there. It made her discover something she could never go back from. Leadership is 10% strategy and 90% emotional regulation. Ron and Amirah dig into why every sales problem is really a trust problem, why bosses who cannot regulate themselves are the bosses people quit, and how Amirah talks to her clients about rest. Rest is not a reward. It is a requirement for the level of leadership we are asking people to step into. And she lands on a Rondering that stops Ron mid-conversation. Every strong leader needs a space where they do not have to be strong. Coaching and mentorship are not luxuries. They are protection. Tune in to hear what 25 years across finance and tech taught Amirah about scaling a business while scaling the leader inside it. Chapters: 🌱 00:36 Meet Amirah Raveneau-Bey: third-generation entrepreneur and revenue strategist 📚 01:50 Publish your book at www.leveragepublishinggroup.com [http://www.leveragepublishinggroup.com] 🎶 03:44 Nineties R&B, Jodeci, and the music that shapes who we become 🏝️ 07:17 Long Island grandparents, a Broadway drummer father, and the entrepreneurial line she could not outrun 💡 10:19 Saying no to entrepreneurship and getting in trouble at Citibank for thinking too creatively 🚀 13:28 What tech taught her that a big bank could not: build the thing that is not there yet ✍️ 18:46 Find support for writing your impact-driven book at www.booksthatmatter.org [http://www.booksthatmatter.org] 🤝 19:20 Why every revenue problem is really a leadership problem in disguise 👋 23:33 People do not quit jobs, they quit bosses who cannot regulate 🧠 26:48 Autonomy is the leadership move most leaders skip 🪞 35:22 Who you were as a leader five years ago is not who you need to be today 🌟 37:29 If you are a leader or a changemaker looking for support, check out www.geniusdiscovery.org [http://www.geniusdiscovery.org] 😴 43:19 Rest is not a reward: it is a requirement for the leadership we are asking people to step into 🛋️ 49:38 Every strong leader needs a space where they do not have to be strong 🎧 56:35 Want a podcast just like this one? Check out www.podcastsmatter.com [http://www.podcastsmatter.com] Links: Website: https://www.growscaledevelop.com [https://www.growscaledevelop.com] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amirahraveneaubey [https://www.linkedin.com/in/amirahraveneaubey] Substack: https://amirah.substack.com [https://amirah.substack.com] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/grow.scale.develop [https://www.instagram.com/grow.scale.develop] Connect with Amirah on LinkedIn or visit Grow Scale Develop to follow her work helping founders and executives turn revenue problems into leadership breakthroughs. Connect with Ron: www.linkedin.com/in/rapatalo [http://www.linkedin.com/in/rapatalo] Check Out Ron's Book: www.amazon.com/dp/1613431473 [http://www.amazon.com/dp/1613431473] Leverage Publishing Group: www.leveragepublishinggroup.com [http://www.leveragepublishinggroup.com] Publish a Book That Matters: http://booksthatmatter.org [http://booksthatmatter.org] Start a Podcast That Matters: http://podcastsmatter.com [http://podcastsmatter.com] Go from Expert to Thought Leader: http://geniusdiscovery.org [http://geniusdiscovery.org] For more great podcasts like this one, visit: https://podcaststhatmatter.org [https://podcaststhatmatter.org]

Leading Without Hardening: Identity, Neurodivergence, and Education Leadership with Jameelah Stuckey

Education leader Jameelah Stuckey has built a career across finance, classroom teaching, school founding, and national education research, and she did it without losing the softness her father told her to protect. In this episode of Ronderings, Ron sits down with Jameelah, senior manager at TNTP and education chair of the Greater Tulsa Area African American Affairs Commission, to talk about identity, neurodivergence, advocacy, and what it actually takes to lead without hardening. Jameelah grew up in South Central LA, the ninth of ten siblings, raised between mosque and church by three parents who each taught her something different about how to move through the world. She started in finance, working her way up from a high school teller program at Washington Mutual to Bank of America to a stint at the White House during the Obama administration. That ended when she was sent home for two days for being too passionate about the people the policy was supposed to serve. The redirect pointed straight at education. She taught, became a founding principal of a non-traditional high school in Compton, and eventually landed in Tulsa, a city she describes as small enough to dream and implement in the same week. Now she serves nationally through TNTP while leading community work across Tulsa Young Professionals, the Tulsa Area United Way, and a few other tables in town. Ron and Jameelah get into the difference between assertion and aggression, how neurodivergence shaped the way she works and leads, and why her father's line, the same people you see going up you will see coming down, has carried her across every sector she has worked in. Tune in to hear why becoming who you are meant to be does not have to mean losing your softness along the way. Chapters: 📚 01:40 Publish your book at www.leveragepublishinggroup.com [http://www.leveragepublishinggroup.com] 🌴 02:30 Meet Jameelah Stuckey: South Central, TNTP, and the Ed homie connection 🕌 04:03 Mosque, church, and three parents: an early lesson in inclusion 🤝 11:33 The leadership ethic her father taught her: respect, assertion, and never the big I or little U 💵 13:39 From Washington Mutual teller to Bank of America: a finance career that started in eighth grade 🏛️ 16:38 Sent home from the White House for being too passionate 🏫 19:02 How a substitute gig in Compton turned into founding a school ✍️ 20:22 Find support for writing your impact-driven book at www.booksthatmatter.org [http://www.booksthatmatter.org] 🎓 21:03 Building a non-traditional high school for non-traditional students 🌆 24:18 Why Tulsa is the place where dreams actually get implemented 🏘️ 27:13 Black Wall Street, social capital, and what makes Tulsa different 🌊 33:33 Be like water: the leadership ethic that meets the moment 🧠 35:36 Why neurodivergence works better in remote, autonomous environments 🤖 43:04 How AI became a real accommodation tool for ADHD leaders 🌟 43:56 If you are a leader or a changemaker looking for support, check out www.geniusdiscovery.org [http://www.geniusdiscovery.org] 😊 47:02 Where Jameelah finds joy: progress, new things, and a purple suede coat 🔁 48:43 Think, believe, release, receive: the mantra she lives by 🎧 59:52 Want a podcast just like this one? Check out www.podcastsmatter.com [http://www.podcastsmatter.com] Links: LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/jameelah-stuckey-mba [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jameelah-stuckey-mba/] TNTP: tntp.org [https://tntp.org] African American Leadership Academy: aalatulsa.org [https://aalatulsa.org] Connect with Jameelah on LinkedIn to learn more about her work in education, leadership, and community impact across Tulsa and beyond. Connect with Ron: www.linkedin.com/in/rapatalo [http://www.linkedin.com/in/rapatalo] Check Out Ron's Book: www.amazon.com/dp/1613431473 [https://www.amazon.com/LEVERAGE-People-About-Personally-Professionally/dp/1613431473/]  Leverage Publishing Group: www.leveragepublishinggroup.com [https://leveragepublishinggroup.com/] Publish a Book That Matters: http://booksthatmatter.org [http://booksthatmatter.org/] Start a Podcast That Matters: http://podcastsmatter.com [http://podcastsmatter.com/] Go from Expert to Thought Leader: http://geniusdiscovery.org [http://geniusdiscovery.org/]

Authenticity Is a Privilege: Identity, Gratitude, and Love as Strategy with Dr. Abiodun Durojaye

Dr. Abiodun Durojaye arrived in the United States at nine years old from Nigeria, and by fourth grade she had learned two things: she was Black in America, and the name her father gave her would not fit in the spaces she was trying to enter. In this episode of Ronderings, Ron sits down with Dr. Abiodun Durojaye, founder of AsidaLove and former CEO of Urban Alliance, to talk about identity, gratitude, motherhood, and why love belongs in leadership conversations that usually leave it out. Abiodun grew up the daughter of a Nigerian mother raising four children alone in a new country. Every one of those children now holds at least a doctorate. She went on to the University of Illinois Urbana-Champaign, joined Delta Sigma Theta, and after graduation packed her bags for Nigeria to serve in the National Youth Service Corps. That year in camp, fetching water for a bath in front of thousands of strangers, is where she learned the line she still lives by. Authenticity is a privilege. Check yourself at the door. She also met her husband there. Then came the part of her story most people do not see. Two of her three daughters were born micro-preemie, one at 24 weeks and one at 23, each weighing about a pound. Five-month NICU stays. Holidays in the hospital. She finished her dissertation in those rooms because work became the only thing that kept her upright. Ron and Abiodun talk about what that kind of endurance costs, and the day she pulled her oldest out of school at 11 a.m. to go bra shopping because grace matters too. Now Abiodun is building AsidaLove, a movement rooted in the belief that love is a strategy, not a sentiment. She is planning a For Her, By Her convening in Chicago for women of color navigating transition, and writing a memoir about her NICU years and what kept her going. Tune in to hear why empathy is strength, why presence is the real work of leadership, and what it means to check yourself at the door.   Chapters: 📚 01:44 Publish your book at www.leveragepublishinggroup.com [http://www.leveragepublishinggroup.com] 🌍 02:36 Meet Dr. Abiodun Durojaye, first-generation Nigerian 🏫 07:22 Fourth grade at Reavis Elementary and the day Abiodun learned she was Black 👩🏾 11:13 The women whose shoulders Abiodun stands on 🎓 13:38 UIUC, the Deltas, and her line sisters ✈️ 15:11 Bags packed for Nigeria at the end of college 🏕️ 15:42 A year in the NYSC camp, pay little to nothing 💍 16:41 The Nigerian man she swore she would never marry ✍️ 19:21 Find support for writing your impact-driven book at www.booksthatmatter.org [http://www.booksthatmatter.org] 🚪 22:25 Authenticity is a privilege, so check yourself at the door 📖 27:03 Three daughters, two NICU babies, and the book she is writing ⏰ 30:34 Twenty-three weeks, one pound, and the decision no mother should make 🏥 33:23 A mother's fight when the medicine cracked her daughter's ribs 💪 34:39 The dissertation as a distraction from the NICU 💗 40:02 AsidaLove: a movement rooted in community and love 👩🏾‍🤝‍👩🏾 41:48 For Her, By Her, the Chicago convening Abiodun is dreaming up 🌟 43:32 If you are a leader or changemaker looking for support, check out www.geniusdiscovery.org [http://www.geniusdiscovery.org] 🍲 46:13 Asida, the warm dish that sticks to you 🙏 49:23 Her year of yes and being obedient to what is next ✨ 53:18 Love as strategy and empathy as strength 🎧 01:03:27 Want a podcast just like this one? Check out www.podcastsmatter.com [http://www.podcastsmatter.com] Links: LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/adurojaye [http://www.linkedin.com/in/adurojaye] Instagram: www.instagram.com/duro_itsabi [http://www.instagram.com/duro_itsabi]  Abiodun is someone you want in your corner. Follow her for AsidaLove, the For Her, By Her convening in Chicago, and the memoir that is coming.  Connect with Ron: www.linkedin.com/in/rapatalo [http://www.linkedin.com/in/rapatalo] Check Out Ron's Book: www.amazon.com/dp/1613431473 [https://www.amazon.com/LEVERAGE-People-About-Personally-Professionally/dp/1613431473/]  Leverage Publishing Group: www.leveragepublishinggroup.com [https://leveragepublishinggroup.com/] Publish a Book That Matters: http://booksthatmatter.org [http://booksthatmatter.org/] Start a Podcast That Matters: http://podcastsmatter.com [http://podcastsmatter.com/] Go from Expert to Thought Leader: http://geniusdiscovery.org [http://geniusdiscovery.org/]