Sex, God, & Chaos: Clinically Informed Faith-Based Addiction Counseling

067 | The Shame-Aggression Cycle: Stop Fighting the Smoke and Face the Fire

TIMELINE: 00:00 – Intro: The Mission of Real Recovery   00:56 – Robert Augustus Masters: To Be a Man   02:30 – Jesus as the Ultimate Soul Psychologist   03:59 – The Shame-Aggression Quote: A Deep Dive   06:37 – Churchianity vs. True Christianity   08:36 – Anger as a Defensive Strategy   10:40 – The Narcissism of Childhood vs. Adult Shame   13:09 – Core Shame Messages: "I am insignificant"   15:24 – Emasculation and the Addiction Cycle   18:13 – Righteous Anger vs. Petulant Aggression   22:52 – Emotional Paradigms: Men in the Locker Room   26:30 – Samson Society Ad   27:30 – Corrective Relational Experiences   31:34 – The Ministry of Reconciliation in Brotherhood   46:17 – Performance-Based Acceptance: A Litmus Test   51:30 – Betrayal Trauma & the Shame of "One-Down" To learn more about the Sex, God, & Chaos team, click the link below: www.sexgodchaos.com [www.sexgodchaos.com] Looking for help? Book an appointment with LifeWorks Counseling today: www.lifeworks.ms [https://lifeworks.ms/contact] You can purchase your copy of Sex, God, & Chaos here: www.amazon.com [https://www.amazon.com/Sex-God-Chaos-Betrayal-Pornography/dp/B09MYXTFFW/ref=sr_1_2?crid=35AVA97X11YE9&keywords=sex%2C+god+and+chaos&qid=1650642999&sprefix=sex%2C+god+and+chao%2Caps%2C96&sr=8-2] Link for our sponsor, Hope Quest: https://hopequestgroup.org Link for our sponsor, The Samson Society: https://www.samsonsociety.com/

066 | From Victimhood to Victory: How Resilience Can Change Your Life

00:25 — Podcast Mission 02:45 — Flipping the Digital Script: Using Microphones for Good 04:30 — Ad Break 06:30 — Defining Resilience: The Characteristic of an Alumni Community 08:15 — Simple Definitions: Resilience as the Ability to "Bounce Back" 10:45 — Breaking False Childhood Beliefs & Adult Capacity 14:20 — Shallow Faith: When the Rubber Meets the Road 18:50 — Generational Hardship: Lessons from the Great Depression 22:15 — The "Untested Man" & Spiritual Bypass in the Church 27:40 — Radical Acceptance: A Relentless Commitment to Reality 34:55 — Making Pain Your Medicine: The Green Beret Mindset 43:30 — Regulatory Flexibility: Moving from Rigidity to Growth 49:15 — Confronting Rigid Religiosity vs. The Model of Jesus 52:40 — Closing Thoughts: Choosing Flexibility and Radical Grace To learn more about the Sex, God, & Chaos team, click the link below: www.sexgodchaos.com [www.sexgodchaos.com] Looking for help? Book an appointment with LifeWorks Counseling today: www.lifeworks.ms [https://lifeworks.ms/contact] You can purchase your copy of Sex, God, & Chaos here: www.amazon.com [https://www.amazon.com/Sex-God-Chaos-Betrayal-Pornography/dp/B09MYXTFFW/ref=sr_1_2?crid=35AVA97X11YE9&keywords=sex%2C+god+and+chaos&qid=1650642999&sprefix=sex%2C+god+and+chao%2Caps%2C96&sr=8-2] Link for our sponsor, Hope Quest: https://hopequestgroup.org Link for our sponsor, The Samson Society: https://www.samsonsociety.com/

065 | Why 90% of Christians Get Stuck (The 10 Stops): From "Christianity" to True Surrender and Love

Chapter Timeline: 0:00 - The "Cheap Date" Intro 1:50 - George Barna’s Research: The 10 Stops 5:55 - Why 90% of Christians Get Stalled 8:45 - The Trap of "Churchianity" (Stop 5) 13:12 - The "Rescue Mission" 13:32 - Hopequest Advertisement 15:18 - The Gift of Resistance & The Dark Night of the Soul 17:38 - Moving From Idolizing Marriage to Worshipping God 25:08 - Personal Responsibility vs. The System 30:18 - Reaching Stop 10: Profound Love for Humanity If this episode challenged you, please SUBSCRIBE and hit the bell icon to join us on this journey of recovery and spiritual growth. Resources & Links: Visit our website: https://lifeworks.ms/ Join the Men’s Coaching Weekends: https://www.menscoachingweekend.com/ #FaithJourney #SpiritualGrowth #Recovery #Christianity #TheSexlessMarriage #GeorgeBarna #PersonalTransformation #MarriageAdvice #Faith #Grace #Hope #Jesus #God #Christian #Spiritual #Gospel #Transformation #Redemption #Recovery #Sobriety #Healing #Trauma #Addiction #Growth #Wellness #Mindset #Resilience #Support #AddictionRecovery #FaithAndAddiction #AddictionAndSpirituality #OvercomingAddiction #HealingJourney #PostTraumaticGrowth #RelationalHealing #PersonalTransformation #EmotionalRegulation #ThreeCircles #TraumaRecovery #MentalHealthMatters #FaithBasedRecovery #SexGodAndChaos #LivingWater #MovingThroughTheValley #ChristianRecovery #FaithOverAddiction #BiblicalHealing #GospelHope #ValleyToVictory #ChristCenteredRecovery #SpiritualTransformation #Proverbs31Woman #FaithBasedHealing #KingdomLiving #RedemptiveStory #GodsGrace #ScriptureAndRecovery #WalkingByFaith #ChristianMentalHealth #GraceInTheValley #JesusHeals #FaithCommunity #HolySpiritGuidance #LivingWaterRecovery To learn more about the Sex, God, & Chaos team, click the link below: www.sexgodchaos.com [www.sexgodchaos.com] Looking for help? Book an appointment with LifeWorks Counseling today: www.lifeworks.ms [https://lifeworks.ms/contact] You can purchase your copy of Sex, God, & Chaos here: www.amazon.com [https://www.amazon.com/Sex-God-Chaos-Betrayal-Pornography/dp/B09MYXTFFW/ref=sr_1_2?crid=35AVA97X11YE9&keywords=sex%2C+god+and+chaos&qid=1650642999&sprefix=sex%2C+god+and+chao%2Caps%2C96&sr=8-2] Link for our sponsor, Hope Quest: https://hopequestgroup.org Link for our sponsor, The Samson Society: https://www.samsonsociety.com/

064 | Post-Traumatic Growth: Recovering the Life God Intended

Episode Timeline: 0:00 - Intro 0:28 - The Redemptive Power of Conversation 2:54 - Redefining Trauma in Modern Culture 3:17 - Advertisement 4:16 - Redefining Trauma (Continued) 8:57 - The Partner’s Perspective: Getting Unstuck 13:36 - Practical Tools: The Three Circles of Self-Care 17:10 - The Human Need to Be "Seen" 24:13 - Post-Traumatic Growth: A Spiritual Journey 29:16 - Processing vs. Resolving Trauma 33:37 - Conclusion: Finding Transformation in the Valley To learn more about the Sex, God, & Chaos team, click the link below: www.sexgodchaos.com [www.sexgodchaos.com] Looking for help? Book an appointment with LifeWorks Counseling today: www.lifeworks.ms [https://lifeworks.ms/contact] You can purchase your copy of Sex, God, & Chaos here: www.amazon.com [https://www.amazon.com/Sex-God-Chaos-Betrayal-Pornography/dp/B09MYXTFFW/ref=sr_1_2?crid=35AVA97X11YE9&keywords=sex%2C+god+and+chaos&qid=1650642999&sprefix=sex%2C+god+and+chao%2Caps%2C96&sr=8-2] Link for our sponsor, Hope Quest: https://hopequestgroup.org Link for our sponsor, The Samson Society: https://www.samsonsociety.com/

63 | Honesty vs Transparency

Resources mentioned:  • Sex, God, and Chaos (book) – available on Amazon  • Couples, men’s, and partner intensives at LifeWorks.ms  🎧 Listen with a partner—or come back to it more than once. This is a conversation worth sitting with.  Hashtags: #SexGodAndChaos #HonestyVsTransparency #RelationalHealing #BetrayalRecovery #EmotionalHealth #MarriageHealing #TraumaAndGrowth #Vulnerability #MensWork #CouplesHealing #LifeWorksMS #ChristianCounseling  00:29 - The Book Behind the Podcast: Sex, God, and Chaos  01:31 - Intensives and Resources at LifeWorks.ms  03:13 - Setting the Stage: When We Think We’re Saying the Same Thing 04:22 - Eva’s Quote: Honesty vs. Transparency  04:50 - Why “He’s Not Being Honest” Can Miss the Point  05:19 - Vagueness, Withholding, and the Addict Mindset  06:40 - Why Transparency Matters for Healing  07:10 - Transparency and Vulnerability Go Together  07:42 - “I Don’t Know How”: Transparency About Feelings  08:57 - The Cost of Silence in the Therapist’s Office  09:27 - Building Self-Awareness Without “Coddling”  10:14 - Awareness as the Ground of Healing  11:54 - Emotional Flooding, Tears, and Misunderstanding  13:20 - No More “No One Taught Me”: Learning Is Available  15:42 - Why Honesty Doesn’t Automatically Create Intimacy  16:08 - Questions Down, Sharing Up  16:30 - Anger as Safety After Betrayal  17:58 - Samson Society Advertisement  18:59 - Learning the Language of Fear and Needs  19:18 - Ben’s Breakthrough: Anger Triggers and Family of Origin  20:46 - Memory, Emotion, and the Hippocampus 22:11 - Reactivity, Anger, and Trauma Patterns  23:45 - Eva’s Abandonment Wound and Withdrawal  24:56 - Marriage Steps on Each Other’s History  25:17 - Forcing Anger to Be Heard  26:21 - Reprogramming Toward Transparency  27:25 - Setting Conditions for Awareness and Safety  27:58 - The Big Question: Friction and Freedom for Men and Women  29:42 - Masculinity and Initiation  30:52 - A Practical Check-In: Sobriety, Fear, and “What I’ll Do About It”  32:42 - Safety, Listening, and Not Trying to Fix  33:21 - The “Pastor’s Wife” Story and Change Over Time  34:53 - Transparency Begets Transparency -  35:37 - When One Partner Tries and the Other Stonewalls  36:20 - Encouragement for Mismatched Growth  37:42 - What to Look For: Willingness and Action  38:41 - Security in God and Community Support  38:46  - Keep Showing Up  39:07 - What Kills Intimacy: Secret, Silence, Judgment  40:52 - Pin for Next Time: Post-Traumatic Growth To learn more about the Sex, God, & Chaos team, click the link below: www.sexgodchaos.com [www.sexgodchaos.com] Looking for help? Book an appointment with LifeWorks Counseling today: www.lifeworks.ms [https://lifeworks.ms/contact] You can purchase your copy of Sex, God, & Chaos here: www.amazon.com [https://www.amazon.com/Sex-God-Chaos-Betrayal-Pornography/dp/B09MYXTFFW/ref=sr_1_2?crid=35AVA97X11YE9&keywords=sex%2C+god+and+chaos&qid=1650642999&sprefix=sex%2C+god+and+chao%2Caps%2C96&sr=8-2] Link for our sponsor, Hope Quest: https://hopequestgroup.org Link for our sponsor, The Samson Society: https://www.samsonsociety.com/