The Grace of Grief

Branch 1: Validating Valour

Embracing grief means embarking on an infinite honouring journey with one’s Self to acknowledge the death of a loved life and then transform this loss to honouring the person forever. In this sense it is an infinite journey accompanied by a mindful eye, which helps find a space within one’s Self where sadness finds a place of comfort and silence. It is here that a new relationship with one’s loss is forged. From this space arises one’s appreciation of family and friends who sees the grieving Self through with their support. Please acknowledge them for being there and for their presence in your life. Please find space to honour the loss of a loved life within yourself first. We must honour grief alone. This is how you keep them in your heart with peace and acceptance. Goal: Understanding and acknowledging what has happened is sadly a lonely journey, not only without the person we lost, but knowing that no one can really can make our inner thoughts and sadness better. Epiphany: It is an intimate journey where I know only I can heal myself. No one can do it for me. Affirmation: I appreciate all the support I may receive yet I maintain my internal strength knowing this is a journey I must step into myself.

Branch 2: Be kind to you and seek the answers within

Grieving is a journey of love. In doing so you honour the departed and your relationship with the person you lost. Grieving is also about honouring your Self. Make yourself vulnerable to allow the “you within you” to release all regrets, anger, words said or unsaid, promises kept or not and residual bitterness. Let it all go. Promise to yourself that you won’t repeat those errors with any other person in your life. Even your sense of deep loss. Grieving for a loved one is way of learning to honour the love with which you held that person for life. Remember one day you will also leave your body. All of us will die one day. We would also like those who we leave behind to honour our love for them during their time on Earth, just as you would do your entire life for the one you have lost. Goal: I know that I have to look within myself for the answers I seek to find peace. Epiphany: I define love and loss as I want to. It is my own personal journey. Affirmation: I trust that the answers I find are the right ones to allow comfort and for love to be honoured for what it is.

Branch 3: Giving Time to Time

Step up and bring yourself together. Grief disintegrates us. Wholesome and loving remembrance of the departed requires us to honour them not in bits and pieces of our shattered selfs, but by bring all of who are together and who we were in relationship with the one we have lost. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to experience all the emotions. This is what those who are gone would want you to do. To honour them with gracefully unburdening your emotions. Urge yourself to face everything and rise because life is a journey. Goal: With restrospect and respect, I am able to find a graceful and elegant way of feeling the fresh air and breathing calmly. Epiphany: Life is still beautiful even with tragedy and trauma. It’s a part of life and living. Its poetry. Affirmation: I will always maintain my momentous memories, without guilt and with dignity.