Why Your Mind Is Blocking Your Pleasure (& What to Do About It)

The Most Common Fantasies (& How to Actually Try Them)

In this episode, I'm breaking down the sexual fantasies you voted on most wanting to learn about: role play and scenario-based fantasies, power exchange, sensory play, and voyeurism and exhibitionism. I cover what each one actually means, why so many of us are drawn to them, how to bring them up with a partner, and the props and tools that can help you ease in. Whether you're totally new to exploring or just looking to deepen the conversation with your partner, this episode is your permission slip to get curious, communicate openly, and make sex feel playful again… because that's exactly what it's meant to be. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily [https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily] WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ [https://sexwithemily.com/guides/]  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 2:59 Most Popular Fantasies Revealed 4:03 Roleplay and Scenario Based Fantasies 8:41 BDSM Explained for Beginners 12:21 Tools and Techniques 17:11 Sensory Play and Temperature Play 18:58 Voyeurism vs Exhibitionism 20:21 Exploring Fantasies Without Pressure 22:44 Favorite Toys & Finding Local Communities 25:03 When Partners Have Different Fantasies 29:24 How to Try New Experiences Together 32:08 Are They Weird or Harmful? 36:24 Psychological Benefits 40:32 Exploring Fantasies While Single 42:03 Planning vs Spontaneity in Relationships 43:40 Kinks vs Fantasies Explained 46:49 Fantasy vs Fetish Differences Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Why Your Mind Is Blocking Your Pleasure (& What to Do About It)

Disclaimer: Today's episode is a recording from a live class I taught for my community on Embodiment: the first pillar of the Sex IQ Framework. You might hear some audience questions throughout, and the audio isn't our usual quality. Thanks for your patience! If you've ever found yourself distracted, disconnected, or just going through the motions during sex, this episode is for you. Today, I talk through the very first sexual intelligence framework pillar: Embodiment. Being truly present in your body during sex isn't something you're either born with or not,  it's a skill you can actually learn and practice. I walk you through exactly what embodiment means, why so many of us lose it (and why that's not your fault), and the simple techniques I use myself that can completely transform how you experience pleasure, intimacy, and connection. Whether you're single or partnered, this is the foundation everything else is built on, and I promise once you start practicing it, you'll feel the difference in and out of the bedroom. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily [https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily] WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ [https://sexwithemily.com/guides/]  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 00:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily 02:58 The Sexual Intelligence Framework 05:31 Pillar One: What Is Embodiment? 07:37 What It Feels Like to Be Truly Embodied During Sex 13:53 Micro-Movements & Waking Up Dormant Sensations 15:23 Shift to a Pleasure-Focused Mindset 17:48 Mindful Solo Embodiment Practice 18:43 "Mirror Work" Appreciating Your Body Without Judgment Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Rewire Your Brain For Better Sex

What if you've been measuring your sex life all wrong? In this episode, I explore why sexual satisfaction is about so much more than orgasms, performance, or how often you have sex. Together, we'll discuss how mindfulness, self-awareness, emotional connection, and open communication can help you create deeper pleasure and more fulfilling intimacy. I'll also share ways to let go of shame, strengthen your connection with yourself and your partner, and redefine what satisfaction truly means. Whether you're single or partnered, this conversation will help you build a sex life that feels more authentic, connected, and pleasurable. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily [https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily] WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 0:58 "Pleasure Begets Pleasure" 2:19 What Sexual Satisfaction Really Means 5:30 The Performance Myth 7:22 Cultural Messages and the Pleasure Gap 10:00 Mindfulness Improves Intimacy and Desire 13:06 How Shame Blocks Sexual Satisfaction 15:36 Supporting Your Partner’s Pleasure Journey 16:34 Avoiding Comparison in Relationships 18:27 Communication and Giving Feedback During Intimacy 20:02 Bucket Lists and Keeping Things Exciting 21:21 Redefining Intimacy Beyond Sex 28:03 What's the Goal? 31:40 Is Intellectual Conversation a Love Language? 33:25 Why Vulnerability Creates Deeper Connection 39:46 “Heard, Hugged, or Helped?” 45:52 Final Thoughts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

The Pleasure Practice Everyone Should Know About

What if the key to more pleasure isn't doing more… it's slowing down? In this workshop, I walk you through a practice that can help you become more present in your body, reduce stress, deepen self-awareness, and discover what truly feels good to you. We talk about why mindfulness and pleasure go hand in hand, how to create a self-pleasure ritual focused on exploration rather than performance, and simple techniques to help you tune into sensation, quiet distractions, and build a stronger connection with your body. Whether you're looking to expand your pleasure, boost confidence, reduce anxiety, or simply learn more about yourself, this workshop offers practical tools you can start using today. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily [https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily] WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 0:54 Why People Masturbate 1:56 Understanding Mindfulness & Being Present 5:30 Maintenance vs. Mindful 9:51 How To Set The Mood For It 16:53 Mindful Self-Pleasure for Vulvas 18:53 Mindful Self-Pleasure for Penises 21:32 Step-by-Step Mindful Routine 26:20 Q&A: In the Shower or Bath? 27:07 Q&A: Making Meditation a Daily Routine 29:59 Q&A: Why Self-Pleasure May Feel Unexciting 31:02 Q&A: Favorite Meditation Styles & Apps 32:42 Q&A: How Often Should You Practice? 35:28 Q&A: Scheduling Time 36:59 Q&A: Can You Practice With a Partner? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

How to Stop Feeling Self-Conscious With a Partner ft. Jennifer Cohen

What if the key to a better sex life has nothing to do with sex itself? In this episode, I'm joined by my friend Jennifer Cohen to explore the powerful connection between wellness, confidence, fitness, and sexual health. We talk about overcoming performance anxiety, why exercise can improve desire and arousal, the role honesty plays in intimacy, and whether chemistry can actually grow over time. Plus, we answer audience questions about attraction, confidence, relationships, and the habits that help you feel your best both in and out of the bedroom. This episode is sponsored by Biologica: Head to https://biologica.com/SEXWITHEMILY [https://biologica.com/SEXWITHEMILY] to get started and get up to 32% off your first subscription order today! Take their Quick Hormonal Life Stage Quiz to find the formula that’s right for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily [https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily] CONNECT WITH JENNIFER COHEN: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealjencohen/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therealjencohen [https://www.tiktok.com/@therealjencohen] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@habitsandhustle Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/ [https://www.jennifercohen.com/]  WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 00:00 Why Sexual Health Changes Everything 01:14 The Link Between Feeling Good & Having Better Sex 03:12 Are Sex And Intimacy Actually The Same Thing? 04:47 Why Performance Anxiety Happens In Bed 06:10 The Trick To Stop Overthinking During Sex 10:00 Why Working Out Makes Sex Better 12:03 How We Became Friends & Started Talking About Sex Nonstop 13:44 How To Tell Your Partner About Your Insecurities 16:08 How To Actually Approach Someone Without Being Weird 18:43 Masculine Energy, Feminine Energy & Dating Drama 24:42 Biohacking, Wellness & Feeling Hot Again 27:38 Vaginal Dryness, Hormones & Things Nobody Talks About 31:55 Aminos, Creatine & The Confidence Glow Up 34:00 Why Chemistry Matters more Than You Think Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]