Sex With Emily

Everything About Your Vulva Explained

Most women can name every product in their skincare routine but can't tell you the last time they actually paid attention to their vulva. Not because you don't care — because nobody ever taught you to. And that silence is costing women their pleasure, their comfort, and sometimes their health. In this episode, I sit down with OB-GYN and women's sexual health expert Dr. Sherry Ross — author of the V-ology book series and someone I consider one of the most important voices in women's intimate health — for the most practical, shame-free conversation about vulva and vaginal health I've ever had on this show. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why your vulva needs the same care and attention as your face — and what most of us are getting completely wrong about cleaning, moisturizing, and maintaining vaginal health at every age • The truth about painful sex, perimenopause, and recurring infections — what's actually causing them, why doctors keep dismissing the symptoms, and the solutions most women have never been told about • Whether every woman can learn to squirt, what your labia is supposed to look like, and why the clitoris — the road to success — might be the most important thing you're not paying enough attention to This episode is sponsored by... Get the LELO SURFER 2 at lelo.com/surfer-2 [https://lelo.to/EmilyxSURFER2] and use code SWE20 for a stackable 20% off More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! [https://shop.sexwithemily.com/]Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching [http://sexwithemily.com/coaching] to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: [https://sexwithemily.com/guides/] Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure [https://shop.sexwithemily.com/products/smart-sex-how-to-boost-your-sex-iq-and-own-your-pleasure] • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website [https://sexwithemily.com/] • Let’s get social: Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/] | X [https://twitter.com/sexwithemily] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily] | TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily] | Threads [https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily] | YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@SexWithEmilyOfficial] • Let’s text: Sign up here [https://sexwithemily.com/text] • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here [https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe] for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 1:26 - Meet Dr. Sherry Ross: OBGYN & Author of the Shiology Book Series 4:35 - Treat Your Vagina Like the Skin on Your Face 6:32 - The Visual Vaginal Library & Why Porn Is Distorting Body Image 8:08 - Can Every Woman Squirt? Dr. Sherry Weighs In 10:09 - Listener Q&A: Perimenopause Symptoms, Hormones & What to Ask Your Doctor 13:36 - Wearable Dilators: What They Are & Who Actually Needs Them 15:27 - The Real Causes of Painful Sex (Beyond Just Dryness) 18:00 - Recurring UTIs & Yeast Infections: Why They Keep Happening 19:05 - Five Quickie Questions with Dr. Sherry Ross Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

What Happens to Your Body During Anal (Surgeon Explains)

If you've ever avoided anal because it hurt, felt intimidating, or just had too many unanswered questions — you haven't had the right conversation yet. Whether you're completely new to backdoor play or you've been doing it for years without the proper foundation, most people are skipping the steps that actually make it feel good. And that's not a problem. That's an education problem. In this episode, I sit down with nationally renowned anal surgeon Dr. Evan Goldstein — founder of Bespoke Surgical and Future Method — for the most honest, shame-free breakdown of anal health and pleasure you're going to find anywhere. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why anal sex should never be painful, what's actually causing the pain, and the exact 4-6 week protocol that prepares your body the right way • The truth about douching, wet wipes, and why most people are unknowingly damaging their anal microbiome before sex even starts • How to navigate anal with hemorrhoids, skin tags, or past injuries — and what your options actually are when something goes wrong This episode is sponsored by... Try Promescent Delay Spray today and get 15% off your first order. Just go to www.promescent.com/swe [www.promescent.com/swe] More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! [https://shop.sexwithemily.com/]Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching [http://sexwithemily.com/coaching] to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: [https://sexwithemily.com/guides/] Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure [https://shop.sexwithemily.com/products/smart-sex-how-to-boost-your-sex-iq-and-own-your-pleasure] • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website [https://sexwithemily.com/] • Let’s get social: Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/] | X [https://twitter.com/sexwithemily] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily] | TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily] | Threads [https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily] | YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@SexWithEmilyOfficial] • Let’s text: Sign up here [https://sexwithemily.com/text] • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here [https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe] for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 1:51 - Meet Dr. Evan Goldstein: Anal Surgeon & Founder of Bespoke Surgical 3:46 - Where Does the Taboo Around Anal Come From? 6:54 - The Three Pillars: How to Prepare, Play & Recover 8:07 - The 4 to 6 Week Dilating Protocol Every Beginner Needs 14:08 - Lube 101: Silicone vs. Water-Based & When to Use Each 15:55 - The Lube Shooter, Empowering the Bottom & Why You Can't Assume Your Partner Knows 16:57 - Douching: Why Water and Store-Bought Enemas Can Do More Harm Than Good 20:33 - Less Is More: Gut Health, Fiber & How to Douche the Right Way 23:27 - Aftercare: What to Do If You Tear or Have Pain 24:19 - Beginner Tips: Positions, Partner Communication & Choosing the Right Size 32:38 - Listener Q&A: Hemorrhoids, Skin Tags & Can You Still Have Anal Sex? 36:43 - Listener Q&A: Colon Surgery, Couples Starting Out & Sex Positions by State 42:14 - Why Wet Wipes Are Wrecking Your Microbiome (Anal and Vaginal) 44:45 - Five Quicky Questions with Dr. Goldstein Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

The Night a 20 Year Marriage Changed Forever

If you've ever felt like everyone else is having the sex life you're supposed to have — and you're just white-knuckling your way through it, faking it, or coming up empty — you're not broken. You're just not talking about it yet. Whether it's a desire you've been too scared to voice, a fantasy you've kept to yourself for years, or a body that's never quite gotten there with a partner, the shift almost always starts the same way: someone finally said the thing out loud. In this episode, three real listeners share the moments that changed everything for them — and none of it looks the way you'd expect. In this episode, you'll learn: • What finally happened when one husband spent months asking his wife for something she wasn't sure about — and why one unexpected text message changed their relationship and sex life forever • How a 20-year marriage, a night out dancing, and a chance encounter with a stranger led to a first threesome that was hotter, messier, and more human than any fantasy • Why so many vulva owners can't orgasm during penetration — and the exact combination of communication, touch, and mindset that finally got one woman there after years of trying This episode is sponsored by... Get the LELO SURFER 2 at lelo.com/surfer-2 [https://lelo.to/EmilyxSURFER2] and use code SWE20 for a stackable 20% off More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! [https://shop.sexwithemily.com/]Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching [http://sexwithemily.com/coaching] to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: [https://sexwithemily.com/guides/] Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure [https://shop.sexwithemily.com/products/smart-sex-how-to-boost-your-sex-iq-and-own-your-pleasure] • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website [https://sexwithemily.com/] • Let’s get social: Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/] | X [https://twitter.com/sexwithemily] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily] | TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily] | Threads [https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily] | YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@SexWithEmilyOfficial] • Let’s text: Sign up here [https://sexwithemily.com/text] • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here [https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe] for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 2:02 - Story #1 : A Husband's Pegging Journey After 12 Years Together 4:40 - Dr. Emily on Why Pegging Is More Common Than You Think 6:00 - The Psychology of Receiving & Breaking Sexual Shame 8:05 - Story #2: 20 Years Married & Their First Threesome 13:52 - Dr. Emily's Takeaways on Fantasies, Communication & Embodiment 14:09 - Story #3: Five Years of Not Orgasming With a Partner 17:00 - Dr. Emily on Sexual Trauma, Repetition & Being Heard 19:26 - How Jasmine Finally Got There (Breathing, Grinding & Letting Go) 21:48 - Dr. Emily on the Clitoral Network, Foreplay & Wandering Minds 23:24 - Closing: Share Your Sexy Story with Dr. Emily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Why This Athlete Has the Best Sex of Her Life

If you've built a life that looks great from the outside but still feels like something's missing on the inside, the problem might not be your relationship — it might be how much of yourself you're actually bringing to it. Whether it's a body image spiral that shuts you down in the bedroom, a long-term dynamic that's gone quietly cold, or a fear of vulnerability that's been running the show since day one, the shift almost always starts with one honest conversation. In this episode, volleyball legend, entrepreneur, and mother of three Gabby Reece gets real about what it actually takes to keep desire, respect, and intimacy alive after decades together — and why most of us are working harder than we need to. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why the masculine and feminine dynamic has been completely misunderstood — and how redefining it can transform your relationship and your sex life • What Gabby and Laird's 48-hour rule actually looks like in practice, and whether a structure like that could work for you • How to stop torturing yourself in the bedroom and finally get out of your head long enough to actually feel something • The real reason long-term relationships lose their spark — and the daily habits that keep attraction from quietly dying • How to talk to your kids about sex, body image, and peer pressure in a way that actually lands • Why vulnerability isn't a personality trait you either have or don't — it's a skill, and it's one you can learn This episode is sponsored by... Try Promescent Delay Spray today and get 15% off your first order. Just go to www.promescent.com/swe [www.promescent.com/swe] More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! [https://shop.sexwithemily.com/]Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching [http://sexwithemily.com/coaching] to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: [https://sexwithemily.com/guides/] Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure [https://shop.sexwithemily.com/products/smart-sex-how-to-boost-your-sex-iq-and-own-your-pleasure] • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website [https://sexwithemily.com/] • Let’s get social: Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/] | X [https://twitter.com/sexwithemily] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily] | TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily] | Threads [https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily] | YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@SexWithEmilyOfficial] • Let’s text: Sign up here [https://sexwithemily.com/text] • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here [https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe] for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Introduction 1:12 - Meet Gabby Reese: Athlete, Entrepreneur & Podcast Host 1:25 - Running a Business With Your Partner (Without Losing Your Mind) 6:30 - Defining Masculine & Feminine Energy in Relationships 11:03 - Vulnerability, Fear & What It Really Takes to Love Someone 13:34 - How Being an Athlete Impacts Your Sex Life & Libido 17:04 - Gut Health & Its Connection to Sexual & Mental Wellness 18:36 - Raising Daughters: Sex, Body Image & Social Media 26:27 - Rapid Fire Q&A: Exercise, Confidence & Sex Toys 31:36 - Least Favorite Thing About Sex & Final Thoughts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

The Talk Every Couple Needs to Have

If you've ever felt completely lost when it comes to dating, desire, or keeping the spark alive in a long-term relationship, you're not doing it wrong — you're just missing the conversation. Whether it's an office crush you can't read, a sexual awakening at 48 that's putting your 20-year relationship in crisis, or a partner whose needs feel totally out of sync with yours, the answer almost always comes back to the same thing: talking about it. In this episode, I'm taking live calls and listener questions on some of the messiest, most real situations in sex and relationships — and giving you the clarity to actually move forward. In this episode, you'll learn: • How to stop overthinking and finally make a move — whether it's an office crush, a first date, or reconnecting with someone from your past • What to do when your long-term partner's needs and yours no longer match up, including mismatched sex drives, resentment around morning sex, and the conversation most couples are too scared to have • How to talk to your kids about sex and bodies starting at age four — without shame, without awkwardness, and in a way that actually sticks More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! [https://shop.sexwithemily.com/]Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching [http://sexwithemily.com/coaching] to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: [https://sexwithemily.com/guides/] Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure [https://shop.sexwithemily.com/products/smart-sex-how-to-boost-your-sex-iq-and-own-your-pleasure] • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website [https://sexwithemily.com/] • Let’s get social: Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/] | X [https://twitter.com/sexwithemily] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily] | TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily] | Threads [https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily] | YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@SexWithEmilyOfficial] • Let’s text: Sign up here [https://sexwithemily.com/text] • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here [https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe] for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Introduction 0:55 - How to Tell If Someone's Into You 6:01 - Avoiding the Friend Zone on a First Date 9:38 - When You're Surprised by Your Partner's Body During Sex 16:20 - Should You Act on Your Partner's Fantasy? 18:55 - Resentment Around Morning Sex & Low Libido 22:35 - Sexually Frustrated in a Long-Term Relationship 26:47 - How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex Without Shame Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]